Will you find friends with different or same personalities?

China
March 4, 2011 1:11am CST
will you find friends with different personalities or same personalities? I often find people with different personalities never give way to others when involved in an argument.And two of my friends flared up and ended their friendship who are both with a tough and unyielding character. For me, I often feel it' s hard to find someone who speaks the same language.What's your attitude?
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17 responses
• India
5 Mar 11
I have read in a book, that no two people with same personalities happen to be friends. We often tend to not like people whose attitude is same as us. I have 2 best friends. We normally help each other a lot, but never give up anything for each other.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Mar 11
Hi Soochow, I have friends from all kinds of personalities and backgrounds. I would say that most of my friends are way different than I am but I also have friends that think much like I do and we don't have problems. the only people I have a problem with are those that lie to me or are mean toward others. Even then, while I might not have any desire to be their friend, I don't get into any heated arguments with them. I can't even think of the last time I got into an argument with a friend. If we disagree about something it never reaches a point where we want to end the friendship.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
4 Mar 11
I have different kinds of friends. Some of them are quite different from me and we don't always agree, but I still like them a lot and I enjoy spending time with them. Sometimes we are always able to learn from eachother, because we have different strengths and weeknesses. I also have some friends who are a lot like me. We have the same kind of personality and it is very easy for us to understand eachother. When we talk about our problems we are often able to help eachother because we recognize the things that the other person talks about.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
4 Mar 11
I really think that no two people I know are the exact same. And no one really has a personality that completely matches up with mine. Personality is such a strange thing to be sure, as it is going to really not match up completely every time. So if you are picky about finding the same kind of personality every time out, the chances are that you're going to be a very lonely person and live a very lonely life. It is good for me to open my mind. If something works great, but if something does not really work, then life in fact goes on. Believe me, it is far for the end of the world if someone does not like you. I just see what happens and whatever happens, does in fact happen. That is just really the nature of the game and something that happens.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
5 Mar 11
The same situation between my girlfriend and me too. We have different personalities and we speak different languages. Maybe base on our different cultural background too, we can not be compatible to each other. We finally broke up and uneasily say goodbye to each other. That is life I guess.
• Chile
4 Mar 11
Most of my friends have a different personality to me in fact I found very few people who share things in common with me, the trouble is that between them if they have the same personality, only I don't fit
@maclanis (2365)
• Belgium
4 Mar 11
Most of my friends have similar personalities. Not everything about us is the same, but we have a lot of things in common. I guess most friends have similar personalities, that's why you're friends. But I also believe that people with completely different personalities can become friends. They may argue more then.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Mar 11
I like to find friends that have the same common interests as me. i also like to find frends that dont share my interests as well. I may see a quality in someone else that i wish i had. Everyone has their own style and personality. If we can all share just a bit of ourselves with someone else we can find a friend we might not have made and learn something new about ourselves as well.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
I have friends with different personalities and I don't see anything wrong with that. Yeah, arguments among friends are common but it happens even to those with same personalities. I know two gals who are so alike in almost everything, they fell for the same guy at the same time. I like the idea of yin and yang, day and night, fire and ice, giving and taking. Human relationships should be like that. We are diverse but we form the whole mankind. We find something to talk about and argue about because we have unique ideas and that makes it all interesting.
@babyanna (1216)
• China
4 Mar 11
Hi,Soochow! I prefer to make friends with the ones who share the same personalities with me.Like you said,it's difficult to find someone who speaks the same language.But I did find one.He loves English as much as I do.He is also diligent.We usually recommend good TV shows and movies to each other.And we encourage each other to fulfill our own dreams.We are all Capricorn.Call me superstitious,but I do kinda believe in star signs and I think we are both typical Capricorn. But I do have some friends with different personalities.And we learn things from each other.Sometimes it's good.He is the kind of friends I should cherish since not everybody can be that lucky to find the soulmate.At the meantime,I also love my other friends who could argue with me and help me offset my weak points. Have a nice day!
@dadindine (230)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
Most of my friends' personalities are way different from mine, so YES, definitely! My best friend for 8 years now likes going out while I prefer staying at home. She likes different type of music. But those differences didn't stop us from being best friends and even treat each other as if we're really related by blood. Misunderstandings are inevitable in friendships or in any relationship for that matter. It's the differences that really keep people together only if every party knows how to respect it. Be happy with the differences! (:
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
Hi there Soochow! What I can say is that we do have similarities and differences among my friends. Our similarities keeps us to stay together, say for example our interests or hobbies, while our differences helps us learn and understand other people. We may be similar but not exactly the same so there will always be differences. Our similarities helps us share moments with them and our differences enables us to learn things and help them.
@sexyice (873)
• Latvia
4 Mar 11
Hello Soochow :) First of all - I have the best friends in the world. They are all so different - younger than me older than me, alternative, crazy, and some cute and stupid. I love my friends those as they are. And none of them I would not want to lose. And yet I very much try to spend time with my friends! My friends are my gold. Here is my attitude to my friends.
4 Mar 11
hmmm,As for me,I would rather find friends with different personalities.I like to improve the diversty of my friends,so i can get the opinions from different ways.
• India
4 Mar 11
Well as i am staying in my hometown only all speak the same language and i did manage to find someone with my own personality only and we two became very good friends and we share everything nowadays. I always want to talk to him and he does to. There has not been a single day where we didn't talk to each other. I really like him a lot and we are now best friends forever. I sometimes find people who have different personalities but we have something that pulls us together and makes us all be friends for a while. Cheers!
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
you can have friends who possess different personality than yours. Friendship like Love is one great and vast word that no one word could suffice to define it. I am just certain that like love and relationships two great ingredient is TRUST and RESPECT. Trust removes doubts and respect implies understanding. :) I have a lot of friends, and more often than not, I find myself different from them, but I enjoy the differences instead of grumbling about it. :) Great post! T'was nice answering your post. :) God bless! Have a happy life! :)
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
As for me, I will find friends with different personality than me...I believe that humans are made differently so that we can know each other and tolerate to each other's weaknesses and strengths...Nevertheless, if all your friends has the same personalities as you, there is no new things that you can learn from each other...Trying new things are some good things in life, and having different friends with different personalities make that easier...