Would you quit your job to follow your passion, or is that being selfish?

@34momma (13882)
United States
March 7, 2011 2:07pm CST
I have a great hubby and 4 amazing kids (3 of my own and a step son). I have a good job and i must admit I make pretty good money. I like my job, I just know it's not what i want to do for the rest of my life. I am working on starting a my very own business. I know most of you have read my post about it over the best few months. I know that this business is going to change my life. I am not saying that i am going to become a millionaire or anything (but a girl can dream right). What I do know is that I will for the first time in my life will be doing something I totally love!!! Would it be crazy for me to quit my job and focus all of my time on my new business? I know that things will change for us when it comes to money. Our income will be cut in half and my hubby will take up most of the slack. I just know that working a full time job and taking care of my family is becoming so much that I feel like I am not putting my all into my business. So would it be stupid and selfish of me to quit my job and work on my business full time?
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• Philippines
7 Mar 11
Well, I think you should talk about it with your husband. I always say do what you love and nothing can go wrong. But you have your obligations, and I totally understsand what is keeping you to just leave your work. Maybe you should stick to it a little more. Save enough that your husband won't have a hard time filling in the lost income, and then start focusing on your business. If you say that your hubby is great, then I believe that he will support you in your dream.. Also, it may be hard for a couple of months, but in the end (and looking at it in the long run) this maybe the best decision you will make in your lifetime. Follow your dream, and do what you love, you only have one lifetime to do it, so might as well try. Right?
@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Mar 11
it is something i am going to talk to him about. i just want to make sure when i sit down with him to have this very important conversation I am all set. I have my half our our bills for at least 6 months saved to take the pressure off of him, so he sees that i am super serious. He knows how much this means to me. I have been working on it for more then a year now. I will for sure talk to him about it. thanks so much for your input on this very important matter
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• Philippines
9 Mar 11
I do hope that you and your husband will work this out, and you can follow your dreams! Wishing you and your family the best!
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
8 Mar 11
I don't think it would necessarily be selfish. Since it is a decision that would impact your family, I would say discuss it with your husband. But, if the business works out, it isn't as if it would only benefit you or more importantly hurt your family. So, no, I don't think it's selfish.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Mar 11
Thanks Angelwriter...
@youless (112177)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Mar 11
If I had this situation, then I would not take a risk at this moment. Because I had four kids and you know it is expensive to bring up them. The cost will be huge. If I quit my job, our income would be less and that means to say my husband would have a heavier burden. If my kids grow up and my life was stable, I would think about to quit my job and start my own business. I love China
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Mar 11
hi 34momma I have noticed that people who had a passion for starting some particular sort of business of their own usually do really succeed as they are doing something they really wanted to do. If your husband is for it, and you can afford to do so my I wou ld really go for it. some things like that often come around just]'once and if you do not take the risk and just do it you will for the rest of your life have that niggling regret. I say go for it and see if you cannot really make a great success out of it. Doing what you like, really love makes a big difference. so at first things might be a little tight but soon you will be seeing the money come in and loving what you do. You can always find a part time job if it gets crucial bu t when you have a real passion for something you will usually really succeed well. I remember The Purple Flower over in Tustin that two women started as a small business and now they are doing quite well.They made all sorts of crafts and baskets to order deocrated the way the customer wanted. they really are successful too. passion is the guiding factor an patience and some business expertisee. I say go for it, you are not being selfish at all. life is to short to always turn down what you really love doing.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Mar 11
that what i was thinking. finding a part time job, and take the free time i have and really apply it to my business. I know what's i have it up and running and all of the right people in play i am going to do so well. I would love to be able to make $2,000 more a month then what i am making now. That would put us in a good space. thanks Hatley
• United States
7 Mar 11
I have to agree with learn2earn because it is what I wanted to say. With the uncertainty of the economy this has to be a wise decision. I would say if you have enough for at least year, not the six months because it will take at least a year to know in what exact direction the new business will go, then I would say onward friend. This can be a difficult decision to make and I do wish you all the best. To answer, your question, it is not being selfish at all. You want to make your dream come true hon, and perhaps you are in a good place to do so right now. We are not getting any younger so the dream has to be put in action soon. Best of luck!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Mar 11
it really is a hard choice to make. i know in my heart that what i am trying to do is something really special. i feel it in my soul. however not working with having my family is such a hard choice to make. it makes me feel bad.... but i am going to continue to think about it and continue to put money away
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
Hello, Following one's passion is one of the greatest decisions one can make in life it's the make or break thing, I think it's a turning point that literally separates the men from the boys but you must also be ready to bear the consequences. I was watching T.V. and I saw the story of one of the most successful bar-b-q chicken here in the Philippines called " Andok's Lechon Manok", he started out with 12 chickens that he's friends mother loaned to him, well the story goes that he only sold 2, he did not give up, he made his product even better and now he has hundreds of branches around the country. I think following a passion is a trait that make men famous but could also be their down fall, so wish you the best of luck when you decide
@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Mar 11
Hi Louievill, No matter what i am going to follow my passion. My website is going to happen and I am going to make it happen. the things is time. It seems to be really taking more time with all that i have going on... but thank you for the while wishes and good luck!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
8 Mar 11
if i knew i could sustain myself. But if i knew i was adding some money towards the pool, i would. what i would do is go down to part time (which is whati do and it leaves me time to do what i love like write and craft - i do sell my work as well).
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
8 Mar 11
Good morning, momma! In today's worlds economic crisis...I can't with all good conscience give you any advice regarding this issue. Do you have a good accountant that can draw up a "performa" for you? I do have my own business, long established before the current status, and it has stood me good steed, thru these down times...BUT, I also have another part-time job that I work each morning...to give me a good financial basis, in case there is a crunch in my business. That's just me...I want security..need security, and possibly your husbands income gives you that! I am chicken...as I would be afraid to put all my eggs in one basket in today's economy! I wish you the best of luck, in whatever decision, you make, momma!
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
I love to cook and my huby says i make good cup cakes and cookies and deep in me i would love to pursue that passion but then life is so tough lately that finances are hard. I cannot risk not working in this company because that would mean no monthly income... umless i will win the lottery and i will have money for capital then i would pursue that dream but as of now, i will just take that as my hobby and still keep on working in this company. Following your passion is never being selfish, you are just being true to yourself.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
8 Mar 11
A decision like this would heavily depend on the passion i would be risking my job for. If this decision was mine alone and only affected me i would probably go for it. if my family would be affected by my decision, i would have to think of them first and keep my job and leave my passion for another time. i dont think following your dreams is selfish. sometimes the timing is not what it should be.
@mac_fish (723)
• China
8 Mar 11
Well,it's a really hard decision to make.Apparently,there's a big contradiction between clothing and feeding ur family and living on ur own way with ur own business,u possibly have to abandon one of them....... I'M a homesick guy,and I'M willing to work and live for my family,I enjoy the achievement,even I have to sacrifice something of mine,for example,I can't be a backpacker to travel around the whole country for my family,I have to give up my dream...... and what's worse,I could not work out something as compromise to be a part-time backpacker ... So,to be a great mother,to be a good wife,then to be who u are......
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 11
It is up to you. If you ask for my opinion I would say I would quit when everything is stable and under control. I have enough money to support my family and my family will be fine even if I quit my day job. I have read somewhere that we should have money for at least 6 months after we quit our job to support our life for the next 6 month in case we want to find other job or start a business.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 11
That is why saving is important when we are trying to make a change in our life as a back up in case for anything emergency happen in the future.
@hibeth (28)
• China
9 Mar 11
Yes, before quit job we must have some saving to support our living. At the end of last year I quited, I can not find a job now.The good news is I have some saving from the habit keeping one part of my salary to the bank so I can support my life until I find a new work.
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
This also runs in my head a couple of times but it never gets tired. I had tried consulting my parents about this same issue. I am not happy with my work and I feel I wanted something different. Yet I would get advice that it is not wise for me to resign from my job and transfer to a job where it is not secure. It is really hard to decide. But I know the importance of being happy with work. I'm still young, perhaps one day I too can find out. I'll also read some of comments here to help me decide too. :)
@send2noel (140)
• Saudi Arabia
8 Mar 11
you should be hands on to your business especially when you are just starting. you can be on 2 places with your concentrations divided into 2 things. it is more stupid and selfish to be working and at the same time doing your business - this will jeopardize one way or the other either your job or your business.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
I don't believe you are selfish at al if you want to follow your own dream and passion. People who follow their passion tend to be more successful on that field. Why don't you talk it out with your husband first and ask his own opinion because your decision will affect the whole family and not on,y you. Last year I was too tired and unhappy with my own job that my husband told me to quit even though it would mean we wont have enough money. I pursued my business and took a risk and now I'm earning more than what I earned from my previous job. If my husband didn't support me at that time, I wouldn't have pursued it. Good luck on your decision and I wish you all the success!
@oxash222 (27)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
well, for me since you have 4kids to support and quitting on your full time job would cut half of your family income i think it's very impractical to do that as of the moment. maybe you can still do what you wanted to do in the future if the family is already financially secured. going into business is always a risk, so better think of your familys' future first and then your passion can follow...