Would that be a sin thinking a married woman is pretty

United States
March 14, 2011 8:45pm CST
Is that a man's nature, or is it a sin? At work, a married woman, a colleague of mine actually lose significant amount of weight, and she is actually looking good with her selection of clothing, and her longer hair, and a slim body. I couldn't resist to notice her lately, and she actually a beautiful woman. Would that be a sin already to have such a thought? I should already know that she is married, and she has a family of her own too. What am I thinking at the moment?
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@annapplez (208)
• Australia
15 Mar 11
Well if you're going by the Bible, then yes it's a sin: "thou shalt not covet another man's wife". But nowadays, as long as you're not going to act on it, who can really get up you for noticing a beautiful woman. You're probably not the only man in the workplace who has noticed her transformation and they're probably having the same thoughts as you. But noone's going to do anything about it, and that's what counts.
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• India
21 Apr 11
Yes i Like ur Comment
• India
15 Mar 11
I really dont consider it as a sin. Though our holy teaching might consider it as a sin but in todays practical world its hard to suppress all our inner desire and satisfaction. Moreover it is more the feeling of admiration other than having any kind of bad thoughts about her. Beauty is to praise and if you are doing it even within your heart I dont see any harm there or can be considered as sin. Thinking it as a sin would be too narrow in our total outlook. Its just plain and simple than one saw something beautiful and admired it.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Mar 11
Well, if we're not including the Bible, I don't think that it's a sin, so long as you don't do or act on it. I don't think that it's a huge deal. I know that sometimes my husband and I will notice if we find someone is handsome or beautiful, but neither one of us acts on it. So for that reason it doesn't bother us. So long as you don't act on it, and you're not going by the Bible, then I don't see the problem.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
If you only are admiring her beauty then there is nothing sinful about this. But I advise you to keep off your eyes and thought from her lest your admiration turns into lust. When it does then that is already a sin. That is in accordance with what the Bible says in Matthew 5:28 "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
I think it's not a sin to admire beauty, but if that admiration turns to lust I guess it is.Our eyes are made for seeing beautiful things.It's just normal to people to appreciate beauty especially beautiful women, but if you thought of something else than yes it will be.Thanks for sharing my friend.
• India
15 Mar 11
It's not!!... you take her as ur friend. Then i dont think much on this issue. Admiring or taking one's qualities and accepting the truth is not a sin and a good person would take it postively. But put too much interest becoz it might lead to misunderstandings and make ppl to point you out. Just take it casually.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hi. kingparker. No. It would not be a sin if a man thought that a woman was pretty. Just as long as this man does not have lustful thoughts about her at all. And if he does not come on to her at work. Or anywhere else for that matter. I am sure that others notice that this woman is looking more attractive at work, so you may not be the only one. What happens next that is unfaithful, makes the difference, not by you thinking that a married woman is pretty.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Is it a sin to think that the neighbor's flower garden is pretty?
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
By mere thinking of another woman is already a sin since you are already married and the woman is already married. You have to stop that and focus on the beautiful characteristics of your wife.
• China
20 Mar 11
No it's not sin. I think man can think to marry women but if they think something bad without doing marry then it will be sin.But if any man try to think to marry any marriage women then its really sin.Man should respect marriage women and they should not think that they will marry to her. Good luck!
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
It is not a sin to appreciate God's wonderful creation. It is human nature to admire people. What is a sin is when you go beyond the bounds of morality. That is when you engage in a relationship with a married woman. But to admire her, that is very harmless.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
hi, i think that there's no wrong with that, because you dont do anything and just a thinking of her only,i think its only an inspiration or admiration, and no more with that.just always think your limitation to her.
• United States
15 Mar 11
I think it's a man's nature to think a certain woman is pretty even if she's married. If it's only admiring how beautiful she is than you're fine but if you're coveting her then that's breaking a commandment. It doesn't hurt to look at her and say she is cute but doing it everyday can drive you insane. Because then you're going to start to wanting her and everything. I think it's best that you stay away from her so that way you won't be tempted to try anything.
@saibal10 (89)
• India
15 Mar 11
No, No, No, I don't think it a sin. Why should I think so? I think I have every right to see all the beauty in nature. If a rose bloom in front of my window, who will resist me? Even more I think not responding to the beauty is to nullify the credit of God. Women are one of the best creature of God. Some person mantain it and enhance the dimention of His credit. Should I keep apart from such beauty? No....never....
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
15 Mar 11
Wow, if you think that's a shin, there must be something wrong with your religion. Being married doesn't make a woman automatically ugly and non-noticeable for the rest of humanity. A beautiful woman will be beautiful, no matter if she's married or not. To notice her beauty is a compliment for her, not a bad thing. That means you have eyes, and can still tell when someone's beautiful or not
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
15 Mar 11
Long years ago that would be considered a sin, but nowadays I guess you can say that is just an admiration... as long as you don't start to have a hot fantasy between the two of you.
• United States
15 Mar 11
Absolutely nothing wrong with admiring people so as long as it does not go past the temptations to provoke. We all have eyes to see and sure while our beliefs tell us not to have such provoking thought my thinking is the same as the old saying that if we can see so as long as we do not touch.
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
It may depends on what clearly seen in your head. If you seen her and thought she's pretty and realize she's married, maybe not. Or maybe not at all if you don't think of malicious things about her. Or even thinking her to be with you.
@DanaS2011 (351)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Ask your self is it a sin to think Angelina Jolie is beautiful? I don't think so. I can completely understand the guilt of waiting something in your case someone, someone else has but its absolutely normal for a human to feel how you do. You are only human right?
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
in the eyes of the church it is a sin. but in your eyes it was definitely not. for my opinion she's married bro, find someone who can be yours someday, don't broke a family don't tempt her, there's a lot of beautiful women out there and try to look for someone who's free and don't make anything complicated with yourself and others lives.