Death is so final........

I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and her family. It's so sad that the doctors for whatever reasons are "misdiagnosing" people a lot these days. A dear friend of mine had this happen to her cousin and very best friend since childhood lately. She just passed away last week and was only told a month or so ago that she had cancer. She was told she had around 6 months to live and she had the chemo and was put through a living h*ll. only to find out the rounds of chemo did not help and the cancer spread and was in all of her major organs. They diagnosed her as having a virus instead of the cancer spreading.They put her in isolation and on antibiotics which were not helping her. The pain was excruciating. She lived just 3 or 4 days after that. It was horrible what they let her go through. My friend could only sit by and watch this. This was alone for the most part being that her one son was away in the marines, her other son working hours away, her cousins sons being too far away as well to be there all the time. And me well I'm halfway around the world. I could not be there at all except by emails. I stayed on the computer and kept my laptop by my bedside so I could be there for her. She is ahead of us by 6 hours. I felt so helpless and wished I could have been there for her to help and take some of the load for her or just to hug her at times when I knew she needed one. I could be here for her to "talk" to and that was it. I hope you have someone to talk to and you can talk with your friend. She told me that helped her a lot. Bless you dear, things will get better.

Anything u can do she will greatly appreciate, i know been there done that. I lost my only sister in 1962 & i still remember people's kindness. I wish u could go be w/her but if u can't keep in close touch w/her. She will really need your comfort after the funral is over.

yes it happens to us all sooner or later and as you get older it happen more frequent, this is why we must make the most of our lives and spend time with out loved ones, friends included...Life is way too short.

I'm sorry to hear that. I haven't lost any close friends but I have seen them lose. I never know what to say and I don't think there is really anything that we can do. Sometimes people don't want anyone around then right away after great losses. I have wanted to comfort people I wasn't able to be with before. I usually called them regularly and give them the chance to just talk if they wanted or needed to. Made me feel better too.

In life we must admit this things would really come no matter what in every friends life the question is can you make it? your situation tells you how can you manage your time in going to your friend.,what is important is that you were able to send your sympathy yo the family of the bereaved.. Friends are friends no matter what.,what is important is the understanding with one another but i know in your situation that it is really better to be around with your friend in times of grieved but i also hope that your friend would understand that you want to go but circumstances would not allow.. things are really complicated sometime in our life,in order for us to know ourselves and people around us its the test of time for each of you.. a true friend is the one that holds the mutual understanding for each other and giving excuses if necessary..and that's what is the real essence of friendship