Was I wrong or right?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6345)
Vietnam
March 16, 2011 2:52am CST
When I was a student. I lived in campus. I shared a room with 8 persons whom learning at my university.
I had a roommate friend. She was a fragile girl. I and other people always treated her well. However, she said that I was the closest friend of her. I like her too.
However, I left her after 2 years we were friends. I have avoided to see her frequently. Because she inquired too much. She wanted me caring and pampering her. She was never wrong. I was not argued to her. Besides, she usually lamented her money, her health...
I began to be boring her. I felt that I was alike her day by day. I didn't like this. So, I don't want to make friend with a person like her. I left!
Do you think that I made a wrong or right decision?
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7 responses
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
16 Mar 11
I think that you have a right to not have to be pressured by this person. If you felt like she was inquiring too much, did you tell her this? Some people don't realize that they are annoying another person until it is too late and a friendship is lost. I think that I would have told her to stop with the questions and explain to her that it was bothering me and if it continued then I, too, would have left. Don't worry about it! You did fine!
@tkonlinevn (6345)
• Vietnam
17 Mar 11
Sure. I wrote an email to her in order that I explained her my feelings. However, this didn't make her better. Because she said that I didn't understand her!
I feel more peace after reading your response. Thank you very much.
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
17 Mar 11
If it didn't make her better, then you are probably better off without her around! You have to do what is right for you! You may not understand her, but she definitely doesn't understand you and your needs either!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
I couldn't say whether you were wrong or right. One thing I can say, though, is that if I were in that situation, I would also do what you have done. I'm a very independent person, and I'd like my friends to be that way, too.
@tkonlinevn (6345)
• Vietnam
17 Mar 11
I'm too. I think that friends should treat justice and respect to each others. If we do that, we can have forever friendship.
@youless (112103)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Mar 11
I think it is normal that you don't want to be her friend any more. It can be understanding and you shall not blame yourself. You may stand a boring friend for some time, but not forever.
I love China
@tkonlinevn (6345)
• Vietnam
17 Mar 11
Thank you for your sharing. Because what you said, we have many friends but we only have some close friends.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
Being friends with a negative person is not healthy because sooner or late you will adapt their attitude especially if you are very close.
I have a friend like this. She is full of negativity and I usually got discouraged because of waht she shares with me.
Like you I have decided to stay away, but we are still friends. I keep in touch from time to time but we are not as close as before.
I suggest you talk to her once in a while and offer your help, after all, you have already considered her as a friend and as the saying goes "a friend in need is a friend in deed"
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
17 Mar 11
ohhhhhhh this situation arise due to your friend no problem dont worry you are right but she will also hurt due to you decession. Its right or wrong
@okgoodmarket (83)
• China
16 Mar 11
i think you are right,after two years you have different experiences respective, which makes your idea,view,outlook in life change. past friends cannot lead us in the same road.
do it as per what you'd like..good luck..
@tkonlinevn (6345)
• Vietnam
17 Mar 11
Hi friend,
Thank you for your sharing. I really don't want to become alike her. So I left her. However, I sometimes feel poor her. I know that there are not many people who are patient to live her a long time.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Mar 11
Hi. tkonlinevn. I don't think that you were wrong at all. If you feel that your friend is smothering you then you will have to place some distance away from her. It is very hard when you have a friend that is too clingy. Friendships should not be this way. You need your space and she does too. Just let her know this and I hope that she will respect and accept your decision. I hope that she won't get upset of the decision that you have made.
