Are You Faithful To Your Friends?
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
March 19, 2011 11:04am CST
I am sure many of us that have been on myLot now for any length of time have found some people we really seem to rely on, and look forward to seeing their posts or responses back in your discussions knowing that you are important and looking forward to seeing them here again as well.
I know there are many of you here who I feel like I know you and could call you a Friend even if we never have a chance in life to ever really meet. Some of you I know I have been able to help, like many of you have been able to help me, and offer advice as I have needed it as well. We many times have laughed together, cried together, and sometimes even Prayed together until everything seems to come out alright.
But seriously I often wonder how many of us make sure and contribute back to our friends who take time to respond back to us? Isn't that in reality the Best way to keep that friendship going as well? For me I often make sure and respond back to people who respond back in mine and feel that this helps develops that relationship more to where eventually if I ever decide to message anyone it will be taken in kindness and never Spam for sure.
What about you? Do you share these feelings and take time for your friends, or are you just here to respond back to someone never taking time out for your friends?
~~TINA~~
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29 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Although I do not start very many discussions, I must say that about an 1/8th of my over 600 listed friends do not respond to my discussions. I am okay with that because we cannot expect for all listed friends to truly relate. I have a great many friends who talk about cricket sports and there is no way I am for the sake of listed friendships, going to apply rubbish so that I either earn and or stay faithful.
I must say that I do respond to a great deal of my listed friends but I don't do it because I expect them to do the same back, simply because I can relate to many of their discussions and or I have the time.
So in reality I do think this discussion relates to me because I give my fair share to friends and to non-friends but not because of any form of loyalty, more like I do so when I can place adequate responses to their discussions.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
19 Mar 11
Sadly, due to progress I presume, common sense is no longer as common as it used to be 
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Mar 11
In my last paragraph I should have said this discussion does not relate to me because although I have been overly active to my myLot friends it should not be done with conditions.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Mar 11
LOL witty!
I have often read in so many discussions that blues do not rate anyone, and when I read that type of response I often wonder if they recall that it was non-blues who got them the blue. But quite alright with me, I nor dispute and or try to convince. I stay true to me and I respond to their discussions anyways. Luckily I am a very positive person because that not being the case and my super high activity. I could actually be a gray 1. lol
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@manojkrs291 (482)
• Delhi, India
19 Mar 11
you have put up right question here as we are here from any length of time and responding to discussions and making friends. i have a lot of friends here and if any new profile i see, i at once send him/her friend request just to know what are they posting and if they have something that is needful for me or i have something that is needed for someone, then i can respond to that person. i see discussions started by all my friends and respond if i know something about that and that is important. so i also hope from other users to do so.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
4 Apr 11
Well, I feel it does help you to find people here you agree with, and can relate with who then become friends to where you know you look forward to wanting to hear from you, and they from you back.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
19 Mar 11
Being a friend, in my books, does not mean responding on all of their topics.
I have many names on my friend list here and some are real friends even though we have never met. We are in contact almost daily but I rarely appear on their topics. If they have a discussion with no responses then I would be there and help them out but, just because they are a friend does not mean that they even expect me to respond.
If they are real friends then they will know the reason why I can't/don't participate on every topic that they start 
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
19 Mar 11
Sadly after the invention of internet, 'friend' has taken on a new meaning 
I am old and still use it as it was used when I was younger.
I did not wish to contradict but to leave my own opinion - even though when I did that on a topic yesterday, it was not taken well by the user who started the topic.
I should have agreed with them according to their comments later 
I can be in disagreement with a friend but admire them for sticking to their opinion and being a friend does not mean that we have to agree in everything at all either.
I am old and still use it as it was used when I was younger.
I did not wish to contradict but to leave my own opinion - even though when I did that on a topic yesterday, it was not taken well by the user who started the topic.
I should have agreed with them according to their comments later
I can be in disagreement with a friend but admire them for sticking to their opinion and being a friend does not mean that we have to agree in everything at all either.3 people like this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I have often believed that friends, whether it is close off-line or listed myLot friends is suppose to be unconditional. So replying to each and every discussion should not be a condition.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
19 Mar 11
Friends are able to see the true colours of their friends are the 'highs and lows' mean nothing to them 
Unconditional indeed HWG! 
Unconditional indeed HWG! 2 people like this
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I have just started commenting and started discussions again after a 10 month break so I do not have many friend's here on mylot. I do make sure to rate everyone though as I know that is helpful if they are giving positive feedback. I also do visit the few friends I have to comment on discussions they are having. I definitely comment back on my started discussions because after all that is the whole point- to conversate on mutual interests. I hope to create friendships here. I enjoy the vibe and company here!
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
8 Apr 11
Well it is definately harder to make New friends here if you are not as active as others, as people like to correspond and become friends with people who will continue to want to be active in here, so they can get to know them better and relate with them on a daily basis from there.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I try to respond to all of my friend's discussions. If I have nothing to say, or know nothing about the subject I don't. Otherwise I will. If someone has started a few discussions, and I am strapped for time, like today I will only answer one unless I just can't resist. I answer my friends, and then the list of my interests, and by then I am too tired to do anything else.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
4 Apr 11
Same here. I try and respond back to as many of my friends discussions that I can, especially when they are taking time to respond back to mine. I feel this is one of the Best ways to learn about each other and help them out as well.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
19 Mar 11
I'm just here to discuss. Maybe I have a certain way to discuss (right now, I start with email alerts, then start at least one discussion, then see if I should resolve any of my past discussions, the alternate between my- and my friends'-discussions), but that's subject to change as long as I'm still discussing!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
8 Apr 11
Well, I am sure if one of your friends older discussions somehow makes it to the Top and you are searching their profile then you would respond, but then I am sure it would depend on the amount of time you have to be active in here each day as well.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Apr 11
hi Tina oh yes I sure try to be as I care about you and all my mylot
friends. So many of you have lent me a shoulder to cry on , and sometimes I have offered advice , and sometimes all I could do was to send prayers for my various friends well being.I do really take time to respond to those who have been here for me and now I am again 13 days in arrears but sooner or later I am bound to catch up. I almost responded to another discussions outlining what she felt made up friends but the way its worded it does sound like a poll type discussion. as I have lost money on so many like that I just bypass them now until I can see if others have responded and if its missing I will know I was correct.
I have offered advice , and sometimes all I could do was to send prayers for my various friends well being.I do really take time to respond to those who have been here for me and now I am again 13 days in arrears but sooner or later I am bound to catch up. I almost responded to another discussions outlining what she felt made up friends but the way its worded it does sound like a poll type discussion. as I have lost money on so many like that I just bypass them now until I can see if others have responded and if its missing I will know I was correct. 
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
4 Apr 11
Hi. KrauseHome. I wanted to tell you, Thank You for your kind invitation onto Facebook. I know that I try my best to respond back to some people when they post. If I can't, they can rest assured that I take their comments and their appreciation into consideration. I get so busy in my outside life that is at myLot, that it is very impossible for me to just respond back to each and every comment that a friend of mines may make. But you are right, responding back to each other develops into a more mutual and kinder relationship. One thing about me is that I am very appreciative to my myLot friends. They have given me something that none of my outside friends have given me, and it is the genuine love and respect. I enjoy being here with you all because it makes me feel really good to post and hang out online with you guys.
I know that I try my best to respond back to some people when they post. If I can't, they can rest assured that I take their comments and their appreciation into consideration. I get so busy in my outside life that is at myLot, that it is very impossible for me to just respond back to each and every comment that a friend of mines may make. But you are right, responding back to each other develops into a more mutual and kinder relationship. One thing about me is that I am very appreciative to my myLot friends. They have given me something that none of my outside friends have given me, and it is the genuine love and respect. I enjoy being here with you all because it makes me feel really good to post and hang out online with you guys.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I treasure my mylot friends & want to keep them all if i can. I feel very close to some of them & would love to meet them. One of them tells me she's comiong to see me this summer & i sure hope she gets to.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hi KrauseHome. I try when I have time to respond to my friends but my time is so limited that I don't often have time to respond. I have only an hour or two on the net usually it is early in the morning or late in the evening. We live on disability and do odd jobs to try and make it from the beginning to the end of each month. We some times spend an entire day picking up cans on the side of some highway to make ends meet. So by time we get done we are pretty wore out from all the walking. Some times it is many miles a day. Oh well at least God protects us from being hit by oncoming traffic. So if I don't respond it isn't as if I am not interested plain true fact is I am just plain too busy. And I am sorry if I don't make a response to some of my friends. God bless you my friend and hope you have a great day.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hi Misterwit. I don't get what you mean by your comment. Do you mean that God wanted to do more? God stops doing for those humans that don't appreciate what God does for them. I do appreciate what God does for me. For those of us that love God and show our appreciation God gives much. And to those that God gives much God expects much. To those that God gives little HE expects little. God is great and I am thankful that I had a God fearing mother.
@topffer (42156)
• France
19 Mar 11
Half to three quarters of my responses are given to friends -- I receive all the notifications and it is easier to read the notifications than to browse the discussions started at myLot --, but I respond only when I am interested by their discussion, and I respond also to some friends who have never responded to my discussions. I do not ask my friends to respond back to all my discussions. I like to see some of them, because we can exchange more freely than with a new member, and have some fun, but a good discussion is not always a discussion with many responders. My best memories here are some discussions with less than ten responders : three responders interested by a subject and making comments in the boxes of other responders are enough for a great discussion. I do not think that responding systematically to a friend makes a better friend : I exchange often PM or emails with a handful of close friends at myLot, and some are very rarely in my discussions today.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
21 Mar 11
Interesting comments and insight by both of you. Glad you could see things this way.
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@texasgal0114 (55)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Good question! Sounds like you are loyal to your friends and that is a very good quality to have whether its in person or from a distance. I just started using mylot and made a few freinds so far and look forward to making more but I would think it would only be right to see whats on your friends minds and check on them.
I look for my friends opinion and feel they are important. So its natural that you feel this way. If they went a few days without reaching out, I probably would reach out, I dont think i would feel their not a good friend,thats just how I am.:)If they dont respond, then I would probably take it question if they are my friend or im just a profile listed in their friends section. I am guilty of doing this, where I coe on here and find a topic I can relate to for that moment and go for. I hope not to offend my friends in doing this but im sure they will understand. I believe if we understand each other, thats how we can be faithful. Knowing that person and being able to be there for them.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
8 Apr 11
That is for sure sometimes. People who request to be friends, and then never take time to respond back in a lot of your discussions, either they are not interested in all that you have to say and respond back, or they are just sitting there to be collecting friends. I think personally it is best to keep responding back and forth with the active friends as you can learn more about them for sure.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 Apr 11
I have to be honest, I try. I really try hard to answer all the responders to my discussion however, I don't always get to do that. It's not for lack of caring because I do care, VERY much I do! It's just that I get so darned busy and don't have time to respond back OR time has gone by that it's sort of past tense and not the situation anymore. I HOPE and PRAY that all of my friends know that I DO care and very much even though I didn't respond back. If I offend anybody, I certainly hope they tell me! I'd like the chance to correct it. Fix it or what ever that needs to be done. Also, I know a lot of them are waiting for an update from me but so much has happened since my last update that I honestly don't know where to begin BUT it has gotten better in some aspects and worse in others but I'll get to that update eventually. I promise I will. It's just that I've been so scramble brained lately with so much on my mind but I will give an update soon. Hugs to you my friend!
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I totally agree with you. I do try to respond back to what people have responded to me (unless it is an area that I am not informed of the response like when I post to someone else's response). I do look at all of my friends discussions when I am informed of them. Thanks for bringing this up! Have a great week!
@supergrandma49 (90)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Yes, I am faithful to friends. I was raised that way, and get upset with those friends or those people who call themselves friends aren't faithful. I guess this is a true value of friendship.
