Bragging On Mylot

Philippines
March 27, 2011 11:12am CST
hello Mylotters, Actually this is not a big deal for me but as i trying to look for a newbies discussion here i saw a comment came from a veteran that veteran corrected the newbie about the FAQ of mylot which i found sarcastic i know the feelings of being a newbie here because i am once before, what i don't understand is does the veteran need to brag about the experiences,posting and discussion that **** contributed here?. I am very much lucky that most of the veterans i met here was humble and very supportive one no need to mention your names you know who you are . Going back to this discussion being a newbie is not that easy you will make mistakes, get disappointed and sometimes you will get hurt by a sarcastic and genius veterans ( maybe one or two only) but this will not be a reason to quit mylot but a motivation to stay and keep on posting. WELCOME TO ALL THE NEWBIES THANK YOU TO ALL THE VETERANS (except those who acts like a genius one) HAPPY MYLOTTING
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23 responses
• United States
28 Mar 11
I am VERY VERY AWARE of where you are coming from. I have had a difficult time with the same thing. It's like some can't just answer calmly and realize even if you have read the guidelines, not everything is going to stick in your mind as you go along on Mylot. Maybe your discussion will help this situation out. There just is a right way to do everything. It is not necessary to be ugly. I was ugly once in the past and learned my lesson, but some of the vets haven't let it go.
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello chrystaltears, It is true some of the newbie try to read the guidelines but not all of them can fully understand it or forgot about it because of the feelings they feel in this site, Some vets haven't let it go? well like what others said just ignore them and enjoy Mylot. thanks for participating happy mylotting
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@anklesmash (1414)
27 Mar 11
It was wrong for that person to act like a sarcastic know it all.The aim of mylot is to create a community and the only way to do this is by being mutually supportive allowing each other to learn from eachother.This can't work if people are being arrogant and sarcastic.
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello anklemash, I agree with you because bragging around will not help at all. thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@zralte (4184)
• India
27 Mar 11
If it is not a big deal to you, you would not have started this discussion. Just stating my opinion. As for the 'veterans', I found them to be helpful in guiding new members, especially when I was a newbie. I found them helpful even now. When they give the FAQs, that is the correct information to provide. It is not sarcastic, it is just giving the official information. Which is much better for everyone rather than giving an opinion or giving the wrong information. When a 'veteran' is a little short in responses given, may be we should think about how many responses of the same type they have made. They are entitled to get frustrated. I have not been here for long, but I do get frustrated sometimes when I see the same questions popping up everyday, those which are already answered in the FAQs or given in Guidelines. If I feel frustrated, imagine how frustrated older Lotters who have been here for a long long time.
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@zralte (4184)
• India
27 Mar 11
We should be thankful that the 'veterans' are still helping out. Some members do have misguided ideas here.
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@mysdianait (65081)
• Italy
27 Mar 11
I guess that many new users to myLot are also new users to internet and maybe even new to computer lingo, to online activities etc. If we re going to be here for as long as mylot lasts we are going to see a lot of them in the future too - and they are ALL going to ask the same questions over and over agin. We either get used to it and put up with it or... or what?
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@zralte (4184)
• India
27 Mar 11
Aaaaaand...that is exactly why you get my vote. Wait..there is no voting on this. If there is, you get it for sure. I am trying everyday to be more patient, and I'm happy to report that I am succeeding most days. If anyone happen to catch me on the days I fail, too bad.
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@mysdianait (65081)
• Italy
27 Mar 11
It is not easy dealing with new users for any of us and I think that it takes a lot of patience to be able to respond to their questions without flipping it. Most times I try not to come across as evil though I'm not sure really whether it always works out how I want it to When I see them asking questions I also go to their profile and 'land' on their other topics and try and help them by encouraging them with a response, hoping that they will take the advice given elsewhere and come and comment. Those that do will then forget what happened when they were 'scolded'. We were all new once and we shoud indeed all remember those times. I think it is easier to deal with today's new users if we were treated well when we were new - and I was! We need the new users because they bring us new topics and new ideas and they need us to share our experience here with them so it should be teamwork so that we are all winners!
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• Philippines
27 Mar 11
hello mysdianit, If i am not mistaken you are the light of the newbies here most of the time i saw your comment to them and i Salute you for giving lot of patience,reminding and guiding them here. Hope most of veterans are like you not exactly but have a heart for the newbies happy to see your response here. happy mylotting
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@mysdianait (65081)
• Italy
27 Mar 11
Some of them just get tired sooner than I do of saying the same things over and over and over again (which we shouldn't have to say at all really). It is rewarding when some take the advice given but it is equally annoying to see those that don't when they repeat the same question later I don't try or want to be a light for anyone. I just enjoy sharing in the hope that it will help someone
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@mysdianait (65081)
• Italy
27 Mar 11
My input is that many users (regardless of whether they are new or old here becuase it just happened on another post and the user is here for longer) do not realise that a chain of comments is like a conversation and that individual users are interacting with another user in the same box and not necesarily with them. As for your tone, well they both had a laugh about it didn't they so where is the problem? I cpould link you to another instance where I ecplained something to a new user, only to find that on another topic a few days earlier someone else had told them they same thing and they had commented back saying that they felt 'scolded'. Imagine how I felt! So I left a comment excusing myself before they get back and read what I have said. Now this incident has been seen by many and has been referenced elewhere. As long as it's fun keep it going!
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@jaiho2009 (38990)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello bhaby, I've read some responses and well...what can i say.(hahahaahhaha) Okay...i am laughing much that almost locked my jaw (can't resist) again...here you are and can never get rid of your wits ( soooooo...brave GREAT!) Like i told you,i never reached this post and number with that star having just friends,but as well -not so called friends. Just avoid them,and ignore...mylot has so many mylotters and topics to deal with rather than ranting and getting pissed off with one or two "feeling genius" and being a veterans eh.(okay fine whatever,i am done with those kind) Good for you,at least you were able to express your feelings and also gives motivation to newbies here. This is true,some newbies don't feel welcome here due to these reasons. See how mylot population risen up,but,the actual active mylotters are where? Just keep mylotting..enjoy and have fun...avoid those ones who you knew you need to avoid and simply report those needs to be reported. I loved this topic...what a welcome back topic...
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
@ jaiho, Hope your jaw is fine now yes i always believe in you before anyone reach the thousand posts he/she will encounter the bad and good one here, well like what i've said to you before i found a site where i can freely express the real me and anyone else you are the person who knows me inside and out. Glad you are back i really miss you a lot . thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
hello jaiho! what can i say? but to laugh with you? hehe that's also what i learned in my stay here in mylot, to ignore those kind of people and to avoid certain topics that starts heated arguments. I am having a great time here in mylot and there are a lot of things to talk about and enjoy with our friends here...
@danitykane (3191)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
That made me laugh a little. Hehehe. I know what you mean. We all once a newbie and we are not all crazy~smart that knows everything about mylot when we all started. We should humble ourselves and guide those who need help.
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• Philippines
29 Mar 11
hi danitykane, Yes all of us once been a newbie so let's be humble and put a harmonious relationship here besides this is the place where we can freely express our feelings thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@thanks1961 (7043)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hi dear, I think we all have a good time regardless of new or old. After few weeks of regular practice here in myLot it is so simple to move on with things here. Few are rarely go through the facts in detail and would find certain uncertainties. A combined and understanding approach will make everyone equal and help to have a good relationship here. Thank-s
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello thanks, I totally agree with besides this is the site where you can have a friend or so called friends and free to give your ideas and opinions. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
28 Mar 11
Wow, that was humiliating...for the Veteran! If we use it here for just two weeks we surely will know how to use it, why is there any reason to brag about? I feel shy for this person, bragging about stupid things. Brag about opening an institution, brag about adopting a kid, winning a race...
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello katie, Well the experience and contribution here that is they bragging but still they should be down to earth because we are here to help each other and to earn. thanks for the response happy mylotting
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Hello Bhabycatch, I guess it's better off stop saying that they're are genious, it adds flame to the fire. mind you that this site is dominated with OLD or middle age people that also gets pissed off when they're prides gotten hit. and probably this is when you faced real frank people that will take you head on. This is what mylot is all about. some people can be nuts most specially with their post. like what i said before, If it's offending to you, just report it.Don't act like that other lotter did that made her quit mylot.
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hi LK, I did not know it well turn out to be like this i am just trying to express my opinions i don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings here. I did not blame anyone for deleting the account the member decided to delete her/his account besides at the end of the day it's still member's s choice to stay here or not. thanks for participating happy mylotting
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
28 Mar 11
Hi. bhabycatch013. I think that a veteran or anyone on myLot should act like they are better or know more than others, just because they have been here much longer than the newbie has been, that does not mean that they have a right to treat them any less. We all at one point did not understand the rules and regulations of myLot, but we can get there. No one is perfect, we all have been in their shoes at one point of time. And some of us are still are. I myself, am still learning the ropes of myLot. I think that we all should respect each other and treat one another as if we would like to be treated.
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello cream, I understand the veteran's feelings too everyday will be a new lessons for each of us and we need to respect each members opinions and ideas. thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@natjohn20 (201)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
I don't like people bragging out on other people, It just make me mad to think they see themselves as experienced individuals who are smart and criticizing on other peoples work and bragging that they know more. I hope they will just leave those people alone or just leave humble and not so sarcastic comments to people making discussions. ^ ^
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello natjohn, Well i don't also like people who brag around who would love them? Anyway they are just few here maybe on my opinion. thanks for the response keep on posting have a nice day!
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
27 Mar 11
I treat newbies like they treat me!!! When they come in & immediately disrespect myLot, I'm going to respond with disrespect!!! When they come in & it is clear they truly want to come here to earn & learn, I will do my best to HELP them reach their goal!!! The way I see it is...if they are so sensitive they can't accept an undesirable opinion, then they won't last very long!!! Why should everybody who are peacefully (or sometimes not so peacefully) getting along change their way of doing things because a newbie is overly sensitive??? I was raised that "when in Rome, you live as the Romans live". I didn't come to myLot expecting myLot to conform to me...I came to myLot to conform to myLot. Fortunately, I didn't find it that difficult to fit in. However, if it had been difficult, then I would have known I was in the "wrong place" & would have continued looking for a better place to earn!!!!
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello ladymarissa, I don't think the newbie disrepect Mylot it's so sad the account already deleted hope she/he will come back because this site needs a newbie. thanks for the response happy mylotting
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• United States
28 Mar 11
LadyMarissa. Your comment is an example of how you shouldn't reply to someone who is asking for understanding. !!!!!!!!1???????????? Those aren't necessary. Be nice when you explain.
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
28 Mar 11
Excuse me chrystal... You do NOT tell me how to give my opinion!!! And for your information...I WAS being nice!!! As it turns out, I wasn't involved in the discussion in question. Now, crawl back into your hole & mind your own business!!!
@jujunme (2491)
• United States
28 Mar 11
Typing an entire discussion on 1 person that may be sarcastric in a response to a newbie (and i say may be, since i've never seen any veteran being intentionally rude or sarcastic to any newcomer here)tells me you are more upset about this than you will admit and i really don't see the purpose for it, especially since most veteran Mylotter's are more than generous in helping newbies with their questions and problems here. Did you purposely post this so that the member you're referring to would read it?if so,i i think that is being sarcastic as well. Why not just friend this person and pm whoever it may me and explain why you were offended by this one single remark?, if in fact it was rude.No need to post it here.
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
hi jujunme, I was not offended i was disappointed Before i started this discussion the topic and the account was already deleted I post it here to express my opinions and not to bring up fire. thanks for your participation happy mylotting
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@jaiho2009 (38990)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
@jujunme, This is a topic referring in general... we can express our thoughts here freely, there are few topics that almost the same with this kind of topic, just try to scan some old posts so you will know, every newbies has different experiences here... and,no one has any rights to judge the one who posted this topic either.
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
@ jaiho
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@BethTN81 (564)
• United States
28 Mar 11
I know I am gonna get crap for saying this, but some people need not be so uptight. Bragging, sarcasm...whatever the issue is... it's the internet. This isnt the only online forum on the web ya know. Calm down, have fun, and don't try to run the sight if you don't own it. :)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello Beth, Yes this is only internet but for me it's special because i make friends here not so called one but a real one i am enjoying mylot so much. keep on postin thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@BethTN81 (564)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I know what you mean, and my post was not a slam against you. It was toward the know it alls and the real problem members. I dont post on mylot much because of some people. I used to make online friends too....til I ended up with a couple of stalkers. Seriously...lol. Not on Mylot but other places.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
hi bhabycatch! well what can I say? hehe I guess most of us experienced the same when we are just starting. I also have some bad experiences with those type of people here, I remember that there's someone before who told me that, "this kind of post is not allowed, its a repeated topic...blah blah..." but after years, I checked on that topic and surprisingly its still up! I think there are better ways to express ourselves and teach those who are just starting, I think instead of answering them sarcastically, we can choose to be more encouraging but well I also understand that there are some who seems to be not learning, so I guess with them we can use tougher words. lol! (but i'm not doing that)hehe What I did before, instead of giving attention to them, I just ignore them and find my place here, meet great people and friends who are there and ready to help and guide the newcomers. I'm glad to meet most of them which makes my stay here more fun.
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
hello ckyera, Most of the veterans said that they experienced the same when they were newbie exactly they've been there so why treat newbie like that?oh well i enjoying this site i agree with you ignore them and have fun here. thanks for the response happy mylotting
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
i was fortunate enough not to have any run-ins with rude remarks coming from fellow mylotters. like everyone else in the site, everyone started as a newbie and bound to make mistakes or miscalculations along the way. some veterans are patiently helpful while others get tired of reading same questions/queries almost everyday. faceless discussions and voiceless words are bound to create misunderstandings also. a clash of cultures as well as personalities can be evident too. how we perceive things can be different from one another. i was not able to check/read a sample discussion that you might be referring to. but generally, one can often read sarcasm in how a post is worded or even between the lines. bragging is as bragging goes. it may not be a norm, rather a part of personality. newbies and veterans get attacked in some discussions one way or another... which makes the discussion either lively or it dampens the fun. either way, if you get in too deep... you're bound to be affected more than others. i know you feel deeply, as part of your symphatetic nature. hopefully, more people can be helpful and nicer and more understanding of one another. but reality is... it's not always like that. hope you have a great day too. stay sweet.
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello myles, Yes i agree with you maybe being honest here is something for others like what i' ve always say you will not react if you are not affected/guilty . I will stay sweet as you always know thanks for dropping by happy mylotting
@Cutie18f (9560)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
We come from different cultures here and what could be an innocent statement of information could sound arrogant or sarcastic to those who come from a different culture.
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hi cutie, Exactly we came from different cultures so we need to be sensitive and consider others feelings Thanks fo the response happy mylotting
@agrim94 (3809)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hi bhabycatch, One of the best thing about mylot is that if you do something which is against the terms it simply either deletes your reply or discussion but dont disable your account . Infact this is very good thing for the new members. Only more and more active new members would make this site grow and give us more discussion to respond or more responses to our discussions. So yes it is duty of experienced people to educate the new ones but you have to be polite about it unless new member is ignorant and insulting.
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello agrim, Like a saying if you follow the rules you will miss all the fun but of course not to the point to be insulted or vice versa. thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@jazel_juan (15758)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
I do know what it felt like to be a newbie since i was also a newbie, anyways with your topic, i never really thought she was bragging now being sarcastic..but then i know there are also some who are but i actually felt like thats what makes the post or discussion alive! lol.. so i really do not mind
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello jazel, Even i will stay here for long time i always think that i am a newbie because everyday will be a new one for me here in Mylot, i did not say it was her there was just misunderstanding. thanks for the response happy mylotting
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@DanaS2011 (352)
• United States
27 Mar 11
I am still new and I have noticed people who have been on mylot being caustics as well . As a newbie I have read the guideline but don't full understand all of it. It gets easier the more and more I participate on the site but yet it is still confusing. Thank you for the warm welcome
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello Dana, I am also like you when i am starting here but with the help of the veterans i am still here and keep on going . thanks for the response keep on posting have a nice day!
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