It was a slip of the tougue! I said unintentionally [em]cry[/em]
By kwylima
@kwylima (451)
United States
April 10, 2011 11:30am CST
Yesteday I went shopping with my friend, she isn't my best friend or anything..but we dicided to go out and have some fun together.. she is a little fat, but is not that bad so i was confortable to talk about her body and i didn't know that she is self - conscious..
well she tried on a dress (was not nice by the way) and it looks so small on her body and tell the truth she was look so ridiculous.. and then she asked me what i though about it and I said OK...then she said she wanted to use that a a party that will happen next weekend.. and then i said the dress was not good on her body and she should get another one. I should stoped by this time but then i kept talking and she got mad!
i dont know sometimes i cant stop talk haha,, did you ever keep talk till hurt someone feelings?
i know i was bad and i said sorry and than i like her and i don't wanna nobody maing funny of her. 
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13 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
10 Apr 11
Hi sweetie.
First of all, we do not say people are fat.
That is extremely rude.
Now to get to the dress.
You should have told her the first time that it didn't fit her well.
Don't say one thing and the next moment something else.
That tend to hurt people and it makes them mad.
Try to remember that, okay.
It would surely hurt the person. But usually, I tell them at first how I feel being fat and that I can still kick their butts 
and they won't tease me afterwards. 
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
11 Apr 11
Well, the bible reminds us "The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell."
So be careful with your words. We are all guilty of being unkind in our words in many occasions. We need to seek forgiveness, sincerely. I hope you would take the first step to reconcile.
yes, sometimes the truth hurts, but lies can kill.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
I think its human nature that we talk and talk and somehow it hurts others even if its not our intention. Other people around me also said things to me and I get bothered by what they say to me but its my choice to be offended right and I dont want to be offended so I just leave it alone.
@lady1993 (27221)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
I have hurt my friends sometimes because I talk too much too- well, because they provoke me, I am a bit moody too. But then I regret it after and make peace... I think what you did was somewhat right, since friends need to be honest with each other, and open..your friend should've been open and patient, and you should've stopped.. 
Just show her how sincere you are in saying sorry.. Good luck, hope you remain friends,don't let this one time thing ruin it.
But then I regret it after and make peace... I think what you did was somewhat right, since friends need to be honest with each other, and open..your friend should've been open and patient, and you should've stopped.. Just show her how sincere you are in saying sorry.. Good luck, hope you remain friends,don't let this one time thing ruin it.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
I for one know that weight is a very sensitive issue for a lot of people. You can say whatever you want but you don't say that you are fat. I used to be over weight when I was in junior high and even if I was not constantly picked on I always felt that people were talking how fat I was. Overweight people already are aware that they are over weight and no one wants to be that way. They all wants to lose weight. You can say that they are not doing anything to lose the weight but I just think that overweight people eat because they are bothered and they are bothered because they are overweight. The last thing that you should tell or say to them is that they are fat. It just sounds so cruel. Give your friend some time to cool off and when she and you are ready, talk to her and tell her that your intention is for her own good.
P.S. Don't call her fat again.
@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Apr 11
Perhaps she is over-acted in my opinion. It is fine that you told her the truth. Otherwise she may be teased in the party and it will be a worse situation. Perhaps you shall just say the truth in a better way so that she will realize it without being hurtful so much. We all understand that sometimes the truth is not so pleasant.
I love China
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
11 Apr 11
i really don't think you should of kept talking, but i do think being honest with a yes or no isn't wrong. after all she did ask you. i remember years back someone asked me about there weight and i told them the truth. he said do you think i'm fat. i was blunt with him and said yes. i didn't even keep talking. i just said yes. he couldn't handle my answer. i told him if you didn't want my honesty then you shouldn't of asked me. i know women are alot more sensitive about their weight for the most part. if it was a woman i would had just said no even if i thought the other way.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 11
kwylima the moral to your story is think first then open
your mouth.Of course you will hurt someone's feelings if
you say that was not good on her b ody. you both said in
her eyes your bodys awful and your dress is awful especially
after you already said okay. now apologize then keep your
mean hurtful opinions to yourself.would you like to be called
fat and that you have the clothes sense of a bedbug? okay then
try not to be so damned honest next time.A slip of your brain
not your tongue.rude and uncalled for both. again do not tell
her people will make fun of her, thats not needed. not all
oeople are so insensitive as you are.
@dodo19 (48210)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Apr 11
I have said things that I later regretted. And I have said and done things that did hurt someone's feelings. Sometimes, I'll said things too quickly, without thinking. But I do try and make efforts to think before saying anything. I think that that's the important thing. Sometimes, it's not difficult to say something and hurt someone's feelings, whether we want to or not. We just have to make efforts to think before we actually say or do anything.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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10 Apr 11
I tend to speak the truth to my friends no matter what as well.The way i see it is that if it was me, i would want to know what they really thought rather than just thinking that it look ok, or that the friend has just said it looked ok to keep me sweet and happy.
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Once words are said they can not be taken back. It doesn't matter if they were meant to come out or not. they are still out there and the damage is done. All we can now is try to find a way to comfort and reconcile and try to make the person feel better for the comments that have been made.
@ssebrinatw (175)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Oh yeah, I've had my share of that. Unfortunately we all need to realize that it's better to hear the truth than to be lied to for the sakes of our feelings. I would rather hear that something looks ridiculous on me than go around thinking I look great while others are pointing and laughing at me. We're all supposed to be adults but you come to find most just really aren't prepared for the truth. Most the time if it hurts it may be because that's how they feel and they know it's true but they don't want to face the reality. As long as you're not doing it to be mean, but just doing it to be honest because you're care, I think it's okay.
