Trust??
By thatgirl13
@thatgirl13 (7294)
South Korea
April 11, 2011 10:07am CST
Would you trust a random guy you met at a club/bar??
He just appears out of nowhere and dances with you, and wont let you go. After that day, he keeps calling you, texting you and his actions shows that he may have some interest in you. But the thing is would you trust him?? Would you give him a chance?? You don't even know what kind of a person he is.
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48 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 Apr 11
I would treat this situation just as I would meeting anyone at the supermarket and or library. Meaning no, absolutely not, I would not trust, at least not until I got to know the person better.
This is what we do with any one really; we check them out, be nice and let time tell if the person is trustworthy. In the interim we cannot assume unless the person proves otherwise. However, nothing wrong with be leary, especially in this day and age.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
17 Apr 11
Hey thanks for the response. Something in me wanted to believe him but i don't think I will. Meeting someone in a club, I don't think I'll give him a chance because he might be doing the same with I dont know how many other girls. Anyway thanks for the nice advices. I'll keep them in mind =)
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
11 Apr 11
That's how I met the love of my life. It was at a party in college and he just came up didn't even say anything but gestured to the dance floor then. We danced and talked. We exchanged info but he didn't constantly call me in fact I made the first contact after that night.
I like to give peopel the benefit of the doubt until they do something to make me question them. 1 person likes this
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
12 Apr 11
Really?? That is so cool.
I don't know about mine though. I've been trying to ignore, since I don't really trust people so easily. 90% of me says to not give him a chance and most of the people here says to not trust him so yeah I guess i'm just going to ignore him.
Thanks for the share though 
@titchy1231 (732)
•
12 Apr 11
the only way you will get to know anyone is to spend time with them. if you meet up with him once you will be able to decide if you like him or not.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
11 Apr 11
No friend in today world you cannot believe on anybody only they meet in bar or club or market. Because everyone wants to get a chance for wrong activity. But if you familiar with him then you can give a chance.
Fraud is everywhere so be careful.
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
12 Apr 11
No I'm not familiar with him at all. Actually that was the first time we met. ANyway thanks for the response. I'll not give him a chance.
@Aloevera521 (178)
• Australia
11 Apr 11
If he's behavior is okay in the club, polite...
I think I will give a chance.
Just try for a few days.
Then U'll get a general idea what a person he is.
@wrkrbe (24)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Way too creepy for me. If you are doing nothing overt to encourage this kind of clingy behavior and he keeps it up, that should be a red flag.(psycho alert). Persistence can be an admirable trait, but creepy is still creepy. Trust your instincts before you trust your judgement while drinking. Mentally rewind to the most gruesome episode of "Criminal Minds" you can recall, now, fast forward to the part where you shout at the television screen (we all do it) "I can't believe someone could do something that stupid. She should have saw that one coming from a mile away." Now act accordingly--that means no trips to the parking lot with this unknown person, no quick "bite to eat" just around the corner, and no exchange of personal information beyond a phone number. If you are truly interested in this person, check them out away from the club environment the next day when everyone is sober--and real. Some people have these club personas down to a polished science. They aren't called lounge lizards for nothing.
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
11 Apr 11
Ummm, this is how we meet people much of the time, isn't it? I mean, we are out in public, socializing and we may or may not meet someone that interests us. Same thing could happen in a grocery store, at the library or in a doctor's waiting room. No, I don't think you give your trust to someone - they earn it - and the only way they can earn it is if you give them a chance to do so. If you are not looking to meet someone, then you don't make contact in the first place and you certainly don't give out your information. If you do want to meet someone, then how else is that going to happen if you don't give them a chance? I think you have to be self-aware and take it slow and not launch headlong into being with someone new that you've just met... but that's just how relationships develop. Over time, you build trust :)
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
18 Apr 11
OMG yeah that is completely different... if someone ELSE gives out your information, without your permission, that's not cool. I really dislike it when people take it upon themselves to do that. I prefer to know I at least have some sort of interest in a person before they gain any access to me other than in a very general, "out in public" way. I would especially be concerned that he won't tell you how he got your number... that's just plain sketchy
Totally agree with you on ignoring that one
Totally agree with you on ignoring that one @thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
13 Apr 11
Hey thanks for the share. I actually am not looking for someone atm and I didn't really give his my number. I don't know how he got it but I feel maybe one of my friend's gave it to him, but he wont tell me. Maybe I could have like trusted him a bit if he told me but yeah. So no I guess I'll just ignore him.
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
11 Apr 11
There is a difference between giving a "change" and giving "your trust". A huge difference in fact. Yes go out with him, but drive yourself and meet him somewhere. When you know him more than you can trust him more. There is no reason to not give him a chance just as well as any other person who has made you smile and not given you a reason to not trust them.
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
12 Apr 11
Well I'm having doubts but I guess I'm not meeting him. I don't think it's a good move trusting someone I just met once and in a club.
Anyway thanks for the advises.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
11 Apr 11
I have to get to know a person before i am willing to put my trust in them. blind trust can disappoint you if you are not cautious with it. Liking some one and trusting someone are two completely different things. If i think i am going to like someone more than just a little I believe it is worth the effort to give them a chance at your trust.1 person likes this
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
12 Apr 11
Yep I think I shouldn't like blindly trust someone who I've met just once. I don't think I'll take the chance. I better just ignore him.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Honestly, it's hard to trust almost anyone now. However, sometimes that's what it takes for you to know if you can trust the person. You need to trust her/ him first before you can know if the person deserves your trust. It does not mean though that if you trust someone you would no longer be that smart. We still need to always be on guard and keep something or a little just for our selves.
My take on this is to give the person a chance but always be on a safer side. Don't go out with him alone. Always have you friends with you when you are with him. When he invites you the first time make it a date with your friends or maybe just ask him instead to join one of your family events/ activities.
Another thing is you also need to know what kind of friends and background he has. Only if you have proven that he is worthy of your trust then that's the only time I can say that you should fully trust him.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
13 May 11
Hey thanks for the advises =)
I wanted to give him a chance but then again my gut feeling wouldn't let me. Maybe because of the fact that I met him in a club??? Idk
Anyway thanks for the response. Have a wonderful day
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
16 Apr 11
Thanks for the advice but well I have decided to ignore him :)
Anyway you have a wonderful day.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
29 May 11
It never happened with me, nor there is a chance, well if ever it comes in my life, i can never trust such a person like that, why give a chance and repent later?
Thank you so much for sharing
Namastey. 
Kalyani
Namastey.
Kalyani
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
29 May 11
Thanks for the response. Somewhere in me I wanted to but I just cut off contacts with him and I think I did the right thing
Have a wonderful day!!
Have a wonderful day!!
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
12 Apr 11
Let him graduate to it. You gave him your number, admitting him to get to know you. If he doesn't get to know you enough before moving to the next step, you'll know it's time to cut-loose.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 Apr 11
My points exactly! No point in jumping to conclusions without getting to know the person.
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
17 Apr 11
Hey thanks for the response. i didn't give him my number actually. idk how he got it but he wont tell me. i reckon one of my friend's gave it to him but idk. anyway thanks and have a wonderful day.
@Jo1272 (49)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Well, back in the day I met a guy that described your topic perfectly. I went to a local night club with some friends after work. We were dancing and this guy comes up and started to dance in the middle of the circle we formed. It was a bit creepy. Later he had asked for my phone number. I told him no, and he kept persisting. So I gave him an old phone number that had been disconnected. I don't trust anyone in that kind of setting. I think this is the worse place to try and meet anyone.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
12 Apr 11
Haha exactly. I don't know how they have guts to just come forward and dance with someone else =S Anyway I don't know how he got my number. He wouldn't tell me at all. I think it's some of my girls 
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
13 Apr 11
I don't just trust anyone. I would give him a chance though and talk to him on the phone and/or text him and see where it goes from there. I wouldn't go with him to his house or anywhere after just meeting him but I would talk to him on the phone and see how it went.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
16 Apr 11
If you are interested, of course you give him a chance. Everyone is a stranger until you get to know them a little and you have to give yourself a chance to get to know them.
You don't give anyone your trust when you first meet...in a boy/girl thing you should keep someone at arm's length till you know them better and feel ok with them. You know though, there are lots of weirdos oput there who might be looking to get on a girl's good side for reasons we don't want to think about. Don't meet strange friends alone or at night. Always have a group of friends around. Always keep yourself safe.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
19 Apr 11
Hey thanks for the informations and advises. I'll keep that in mind and thanks. Havea a good day.
@mmlxy1102 (19)
• China
13 Apr 11
I think he might show a little interest to you ,but he might be a little dangerous towards you ,because he may be the dandy .
@tkonlinevn (6373)
• Vietnam
16 Apr 11
If you're also interested in him, why you don't reply his messages? No problem with a coffee cup together, right? This is no trust or not trust, this is only a communication normally.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
19 Apr 11
Nah actually I'm not interested in him. I might be a little bit, but it's Ok :)
I;ve stopped my comunication with him. I hope karma doesn't strike back.
Thansk and have aa wonderful day.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
You can give him a chance by knowing him in secret. Trust should not be given in a day or two. An instant knowing is not like an instant seasoning that you can savor the taste.It takes time to know a person.
