Lady no...14... when love is a barrier.
By shibham
@shibham (16977)
India
April 15, 2011 1:42am CST
Most of my friends here know that i play drama and participate in national and international competitions. We have many members in our group from both genders. Almost six years ago there was a talented girl in our group who dedicated her life for drama like us but her boy friend did not like that. As she had stay away from him for days having long long away, hence he missed him. You can think so but matter is something different... actually he suspected her with other guys from our group. He had no faith on her and thought that she may fall in love with other on his absence. hence he protested her from playing drama where as she politely told that he should believe her and she cant give up drama. She really loved her and tried her level best to convince him but he was too rigid that he never listened to her. So she cried a lot and break up created....
Years after, by dint off her perseverance, attentiveness and patience.. she becomes a good TV and film actress along with model. Now she has fame, money and all everything that she deserves. Now, the boy has come again to her and seeking forgiveness. Then she has told him that when she needed encouragement through their relationship, that time he scolded her and wanted a break up... which she did not wanted at any cost... so why you are now with me?
What do you think about it. Should the girl forgive him? Why love becomes barrier sometimes? Love should be an encouragement, right? Share your views.
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11 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
hello shibham,
I hope you are not guy that the ex boyfriend suspected 
I don't want to judge the guy there are lot of reasons why he wants the girl now it can be LOVE or maybe he is after of something.
The girl should forgive the guy but if she thinks there is no feelings anymore let them be friends and nothing else
In any relationship you are going to face trials it depends upon the two of you how will you take it and how will you fight for it.
Jealousy is sweet but too much of it can be a poison.
have a nice day! 
happy mylotting
I don't want to judge the guy there are lot of reasons why he wants the girl now it can be LOVE or maybe he is after of something.
The girl should forgive the guy but if she thinks there is no feelings anymore let them be friends and nothing else
In any relationship you are going to face trials it depends upon the two of you how will you take it and how will you fight for it.
Jealousy is sweet but too much of it can be a poison.
have a nice day!
happy mylotting
@shibham (16977)
• India
15 Apr 11
Hi bhaby..
I am always ignored by girls.
so no chance.
when she wrote to me all these, i replied her that she can forgive him but need to judge his intentions. He may come near her for her money and fame as he has no identity like that. And if he has changed his mind and wants to accept her then there is nothing wrong. At least its a regret now.
Have a nice day.
so no chance.
when she wrote to me all these, i replied her that she can forgive him but need to judge his intentions. He may come near her for her money and fame as he has no identity like that. And if he has changed his mind and wants to accept her then there is nothing wrong. At least its a regret now.
Have a nice day.1 person likes this
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
she wrote you? ehem i need explanation too...........
It is better not to accept him because she never know what are the guy's intention not to mention the fame she have right now
It is better not to accept him because she never know what are the guy's intention not to mention the fame she have right now1 person likes this
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Apr 11
Hi Mamu 
Love is never a Barrier. Those who think it is a barrier, have never tasted love, whatever they think love, is mere infatuation or their desires... nothing about love.
The same with the story here. You call that this was love, I call it was just the infatuation of the teen boy with the girl. This infatuation forced him to thing all that crap he got in his head about the girl falling for other guys in the group... I think it is his own mentality and am sure if he was in any such group he would have made so many things come true....
Later, when the boy saw that the girl has got to the fame, he came back to her for the money never the love... Poor guy... still believes that this is love.
The girl should let go of the past, concentrate on what she is and look up to the future.. there is no charm in wasting all this for a sick and ill guy.
Love is never a Barrier. Those who think it is a barrier, have never tasted love, whatever they think love, is mere infatuation or their desires... nothing about love.
The same with the story here. You call that this was love, I call it was just the infatuation of the teen boy with the girl. This infatuation forced him to thing all that crap he got in his head about the girl falling for other guys in the group... I think it is his own mentality and am sure if he was in any such group he would have made so many things come true....
Later, when the boy saw that the girl has got to the fame, he came back to her for the money never the love... Poor guy... still believes that this is love.
The girl should let go of the past, concentrate on what she is and look up to the future.. there is no charm in wasting all this for a sick and ill guy.
@shibham (16977)
• India
15 Apr 11
Hi mamu
Well said. It may be infatuation. Rather i think he is jealous and has no faith on his love. When he left the girl, she cried a lot and now he is crying to gain her. sure for money, nothing else. I have told her not to be fool again better need to find out the real love.
Have a nice day.
Well said. It may be infatuation. Rather i think he is jealous and has no faith on his love. When he left the girl, she cried a lot and now he is crying to gain her. sure for money, nothing else. I have told her not to be fool again better need to find out the real love.
Have a nice day.1 person likes this
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Apr 11
hi shibham if they both still have enough love for each other it
might be okay for her to forgive him, but I can imagine it will
take a hell of a lot of forgiving. He must be sure now that he
does not resent her career and too he must prove that he is not
just another fortune seeker wanting to be with her to share
her sucess and money. this is a sticky situation for ther
as he let hder down. Is he in a good job himself or is he looking
to cash in on her success and thats whats it's all about. cause
if so the relationship will turn quickly sour.If she does forgive him 
she will have to set up some rules. like she will not be his sugar
momma at all. he will have to do his part and not use her as a bank
she will have to set up some rules. like she will not be his sugar
momma at all. he will have to do his part and not use her as a bank@shibham (16977)
• India
17 Apr 11
Hi hately..
They were completely detached from each other for more that 4 years, so its hard to say that they have the condition or reason to love each other still now. But when the boy has come again to her love, her mind has changed again and begun to ask herself what is this? hence, she wrote to me what to do?
I answered her not to be attached with him again but a forgiveness can take place.
have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
hello dear bhai
I will forgive the guy why not.
I might be even thankful to him,his unfaithful love, jealousy and suspecting love gives me the challenge and courage to reach who i am now.
But i won't give him another chance to hurt me again.
That's my opinion.
Love hurts and love heals.
I will forgive the guy why not.
I might be even thankful to him,his unfaithful love, jealousy and suspecting love gives me the challenge and courage to reach who i am now.
But i won't give him another chance to hurt me again.
That's my opinion.
Love hurts and love heals.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
dear bhai,
i just said...i will forgive...but i will never give him another chance to hurt me again...
meaning...i won't accept his love...NEVER...i have all the fame and money so i can buy NICOLAS CAGE...i don't need that guy who dumped me Hmppp!!!
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
you got a fun discussion here. I think it is better to forgive and forget him. She deserves more than that guy. Let's not argue with why before the gut didn't believe her to be truthful and loyal. They are not really meant to be.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
15 Apr 11
this is not fair..he should have been with her in the times of need...and now that she is well established..he has come back...he only wants to enjoy the fruits of her popularity and not the struggles she did and the pains she took to reach the place...so i want to say that...its no use getting into emotional things and she will get more caring and loving and also more established boy than him...
@shibham (16977)
• India
17 Apr 11
Hi eshaan..
very true. Love always should be supportive. I think if he would support her then hope she will one step ahead from today. Sure, he wants to enjoy her fame and money as he has no social identity where as she has a glamourous life at this moment. If she loves him, he will come highlight by her namesake.
Have a nice day.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
That was not love, that was immaturity and naivete, and infatuation. Love will always never be a barrier.
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
15 Apr 11
Hi shibham
Difficult to have predicted. See because they were both so young it was hard to determine if their love would have worked out or not in the long run. So he sort of behaved exactly like a youth would have. When we are young we do not see past love. We believe love will surpass everything and anything in life. So it is to a sense understandable that he reacted this way. However, matters of the heart are too difficult to understand when one/as the girl was so heart by his break-up.
So whether she should forgive him, is solely dependent on her ability to re-trust. Now they are both older, wiser and more mature they perhaps can re-kindle but would be a difficult thing to do because she is now exposed to the realities of life.
My thoughts is while we are older and wiser a situation like this would have not been understood because when we love we support and trust our significant other. Therefore it would not be understandable later.
Being that there were so young back then, it now depends on her, if any feelings for him to re-try and see how and where life takes them. Oh I wish I was this wise back in the day. lol
Difficult to have predicted. See because they were both so young it was hard to determine if their love would have worked out or not in the long run. So he sort of behaved exactly like a youth would have. When we are young we do not see past love. We believe love will surpass everything and anything in life. So it is to a sense understandable that he reacted this way. However, matters of the heart are too difficult to understand when one/as the girl was so heart by his break-up.
So whether she should forgive him, is solely dependent on her ability to re-trust. Now they are both older, wiser and more mature they perhaps can re-kindle but would be a difficult thing to do because she is now exposed to the realities of life.
My thoughts is while we are older and wiser a situation like this would have not been understood because when we love we support and trust our significant other. Therefore it would not be understandable later.
Being that there were so young back then, it now depends on her, if any feelings for him to re-try and see how and where life takes them. Oh I wish I was this wise back in the day. lol@shibham (16977)
• India
17 Apr 11
Hi Hwg.
Well said but when he rejected her, at that time both of them was adult like the age of 23 or something less or more. Its sure that they have not faced the real world as their emotion worked more at that time. But a true love can be generated at that age. No one can ignore it.
She is in puzzle so she asked me what to do? I am also answerless but i asked her that are there any feelings for him on her heart. she said that she still loves him but cant trust him anymore as he has betrayed her years ago. Perhaps thats why its called that the first love is very hard to forget.
By the way, from my point of view she can forgive but later she must have to stay away from him.
Have a nice day.
@chinchoy (191)
• Hong Kong
15 Apr 11
What the guy wanted was definately not love, he wanted possession. People with such an attitude rarely changes.
Six years, does the girl now with fame, fortune and a career not get any good man in her life? Forgiveness, may be, but there is no way they can have the same kind of relationship again. Damage have been done and the girl have to take a lot of pain and sorrow to get on with her life. It is just unfair and how can someone even have the nerve to show up and ask for forgiveness. Shame!
@shibham (16977)
• India
17 Apr 11
Hi chinchoy..
I am agree with you. Its definitely not a love because love is always to encourage n ot to underestimate. Here it is proved that he has wanted to be her part of life only for money. There is no doubt.
A shameless person easily can bow himself.
Have a nice day.
