Why cant people listen to me too?

Hi cgrant, This is a universal fact that people by nature tend to talk more than listen to others. The same thing applies in your case too. I appreciate you patience to listen to people. Well, if the speaker is a good orator and speaks absorbing words I can spend hours together but if it is other way round I feel like fleeing. To help people solve out their problems you need to listen them even if they speak incoherent sentences. This is why they say to be a good speaker or a counselor one needs to be a good listener.

Being that you are a listner, you are going to draw in talkers. You have to tell your friends that you need to talk, and that is all you want is for them to listen, or you have to get a counselor, or find another friend that is a listener. It is a great gift to be a good listener, and in this society where people are so freely to voice their opinion, you will find very few listners. Good luck!

I think most people have the same problem. The thing is, everyone wants others to listen to them, but they refuse to listen to others. It's not you personally, it's just something that happens. Don't ask me why though.

That's weird but I think that's just how it is. Life just isn't unfair always. Many people only want to be listened, not listen at all. All you can do is deal with it. There's no other way I guess.

Ya know I have that very same problem. People are always asking me for advice and I tell them what I think. For right or wrong I still tell them what I think but I always give a reason why I think what I think. Sometimes they don't like what I say and I tell them that up front. So what do they do? They do just what they wanted in the first place. And when I need to talk with someone, It just seems everyone is wrapped up in their own problems. Go figure.

I have the same problem. I'm not a very talkative person so I end up just listening to people. So they talk and talk and talk, not minding if I have an opinion too. The thing is, people want to be listened , but not to listen very much. A pity.

That have happen to a lot of people you are a good listener, but no one want to listen when you talk. To me its selfish,but some people tent to listen but after you finish talking they haven't heard a word you say . people always want advice but ,they don't like to give advice.But continue to be a good Lister my friend .

The fact that you are said to have unbiased suggestions means that people do listen to you. Otherwise they would be unable to form an opinion on your viewpoints. Maybe you could insert whatever you want to say about yourself while giving out suggestions. Being listened to selectively is better than being totally ignored.

Don't be frustrated for that good quality. You must be lucky for having that and admire by people for such quality. You're just using the worth of having 2 ears and one mouth. 2 ears to listen and 1 mouth to comment. But as I have said, don't be frustrated, just try to learn to accept that we do have individual differences and we are created in our own uniqueness. If you had that experience, try to think that it is better to be the one admire rather than the one criticized. But don't let that praise put you on thinking being a good one, just always consider to be in hte shoes of the other people for you to be able to understand and avoid the pain for not being heard. For sure, you will find someone willing to hear you and be in your side...but it means he/she is a better listener then than you. There is always better and worst in everything even in human. Feel happy for you were recognized as the better one. Happy mylotting.

Unless there is an impairment, nearly everyone has the ability to hear another person. these same abilities don't make us good listeners. you have to have interest , care, and understanding to be a good listener.

Hi cgrant People are always sayng to me'wow you are such a good listener'I always take that as a compliment.I am lucky though I have friends who will always listen to me,as I listen to them,it is possible that people do not realize that you would like them to listen to you about certain things,because maybe you don't let them know that you have something to talk to them about. Have a great day. jojo732

It is really hard for us to make other people listen. One must have a very good charisma in order to do this kind of stuff. If you are a good listener, you could very well be a good leader! It is a proven fact, because having other people relying on you means that you are really a great listener! I guess you just have to polish your charisma skills. It is one of the things I lack too. Good luck!

Sometimes when someone is talking and I am not in the mood to communicate, I just listen and nodding if needed to agree with the conversation, to show that in some other way interested to their topic and give respect to the one talking. Sometimes others don't want to listen because they are talking at same time showing unbecoming attitude.

I completely understand how you feel because I am a good listener and I never have anyone to talk to. No one will listen. I think this might be because we tend to attract people who always talk. Since we are good listeners, people who talk a lot are attracted to us. Maybe if we make more of an effort to create a first impression that we are talkative, we can attract listeners.

I am the same as you.Alot of people come to me when there are things that they need help with, as well as when they are really upset need someone to talk to.I think that there are times where i feel good for helping other people by being the person to listen to them.I try not to sat much to anyone, i try to sort things out myself.

I think that being a good listener is a quality thatmany people can't have because it requires first of all patience to listen to what the other person has to say,and many of us don't have that patience in this crazy vworld where life is so fast and stressful.It's great for you to be able to be a good listener,but it is in a way a disadvantage because you won't find too many people like you.Anyway,if there is at least one person who can listen to you and help you with suggestions,it's all right,I guess.

As someone that considers themselves a good listener, and has been told so by friends as well, I had to make the decision to exercise a bit of "tough love". When I finally noticed that my needs weren't being met in return, I stopped listening. If you continue to give, you will eventually wilt and then, frankly, you're not going to be much use to anybody. If you can't explain to them that life is give & take and that sometimes you need someone to listen to you too, then you have to consider that maybe they're just selfish, and let them go. On the plus side, they may take some time to think about your position and come back to apologize and possibly recognize you as a feeling being in the future. Sometimes honesty is the best policy. Don't let them just think everything's "ok" if it isn't. I've had great success "cutting them off", so to speak.

I guess it depends on the individual. I'm a good listener because I hate attention to myself so I listen more than I talk.