So much in so little of days - but I am back.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
United States
April 26, 2011 7:29am CST
Last Thursday, at 9pm we received a call that my boyfriends mother was in the hospital and that the nephew she had raised was found dead in his sleep.
At the moment no one was aware exactly what was wrong with his mother nor would we get information via telephone so my boyfriend immediately booked our flights and off at 1am to the airport we went on a stand by flight because none were available. Thankfully we were able to get on a flight at 5:30am and get to Arkansas in two hours. Being up on the mountain tops, with no internet.
His cousin developed a heart condition no one, not even him was aware of and passed at 32 years old, unless he ignored systems
Mother is now home and okay after the nervous breakdown and now wants us to move back home as her "baby" is now gone. Her daughter is with her for now. We have spoken about it but have not anticipated anytime soon, looking like the end of summer (maybe). 
She will not move to the big city with us and she is 72 years old.
So in short of 5 days off we went to 18 hours away to another city and state, home now for a few hours and reformatting my home network of a nasty malaware which my entire network was affected after searching the toolbar here shortly before the call. But I am back with 22 PMS of well wishers wondering where I was and 629 email alerts.
Have you ever been frazzeled this way where so much in such little time?
His cousin developed a heart condition no one, not even him was aware of and passed at 32 years old, unless he ignored systems
Mother is now home and okay after the nervous breakdown and now wants us to move back home as her "baby" is now gone. Her daughter is with her for now. We have spoken about it but have not anticipated anytime soon, looking like the end of summer (maybe). She will not move to the big city with us and she is 72 years old.
So in short of 5 days off we went to 18 hours away to another city and state, home now for a few hours and reformatting my home network of a nasty malaware which my entire network was affected after searching the toolbar here shortly before the call. But I am back with 22 PMS of well wishers wondering where I was and 629 email alerts.
Have you ever been frazzeled this way where so much in such little time?11 people like this
33 responses
@ajk111 (2495)
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26 Apr 11
that's a shocking thing for all of you to go through. i've been in a similar situation where you have to drop everything and make a mercy journey. very stressful for you , your boyfriend and your bf's mother.
whatever the end result is i hope it all works out for everyone for the best.
i would suggest relaxing on mylot to help destress but with 629 emails perhaps not! lol!
Hope it all works out.xx
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
I thought about you while I was away. 
I am so happy to see you here, as I was afraid you left us. What a treat to know that you and so many are still here. I do realize that it has only been 5 days but as life as we know it so much happens in such a short span.
I was very pleased to return to see the 22 well wishes and sad that I could not alert anyone about my disappearance. Just shows that life is so short and unpredictable.
I am so happy to see you here, as I was afraid you left us. What a treat to know that you and so many are still here. I do realize that it has only been 5 days but as life as we know it so much happens in such a short span.
I was very pleased to return to see the 22 well wishes and sad that I could not alert anyone about my disappearance. Just shows that life is so short and unpredictable.2 people like this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Apr 11
The infamous deletions.. Sometimes it is hard to tell if something is a violation or not. The guidelines are good but sort of on the vague side sometimes.
Oh well dear ajk, crank it up and keep on starting them. lol It is good to see your lol's again. 
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@aghiuta (525)
• Canada
26 Apr 11
Wow!!! that is a whole lot of frazzle for such a short time,As they say,When it rains it pours sometimes! But you came through it all! I do not think that I ever had this kind of thing happen to me,even though I had a few upheavals and changes to go through in my life,like changing countries of residence,having a baby in a transit country....We humans usually adapt to changes and try to make the best of it!
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
You are so right. We adapt and make do with what is before us. Hope all is well with you and that life is treating you nicely.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Apr 11
I will pray that his surgery goes well and that you two get to enjoy the vacation. I will include a safe driving trip and that you do not get so frazzled. Do take care and let us know how all went.
@aghiuta (525)
• Canada
26 Apr 11
Most is well.Monday my husband is scheduled for surgery(to repair a hernia repair that was not well done 8 yrs ago).He was postponed twice,hopefully it will be this Monday an it will be a total success.Then we will be able to look forward to a trip we booked before the postponements to Williamsburg ,Virginia.A long drive,we will do it in 2 days.And probably I will be doing most of it!So it is my turn to get frazzled....
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Apr 11
Hi Sweetie
Goodness you have certainly had a bad time here, I am so sorry about your Boyfriends Cousin
I hope that everything is ok with your Boyfriends Mum,
I hope that you are going to rest after all this now
Big Hugs and much Love
As for your Question yes it has happened to me to but I got there in the end
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Hello there sweetie
Yup it is what makes us strong in the end. Every battle in life whips us a bit but we learn to dust off and pick up the pieces somehow, we always do.
It has been quite eventful for me these last few days but this woman is like a mother to me and when I needed someone early last year she came running to my aid in her car. She is such a wonderful and helpful woman.
I will be getting some rest soon, as I am formatting my laptop from a really bad virus shortly before I left.
Thanks for stopping by and many hugs and kisses to you and Gissi.
Yup it is what makes us strong in the end. Every battle in life whips us a bit but we learn to dust off and pick up the pieces somehow, we always do.
It has been quite eventful for me these last few days but this woman is like a mother to me and when I needed someone early last year she came running to my aid in her car. She is such a wonderful and helpful woman.
I will be getting some rest soon, as I am formatting my laptop from a really bad virus shortly before I left.
Thanks for stopping by and many hugs and kisses to you and Gissi. 3 people like this
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Now you wish you could just teleport and transport yourself right away. There are times we have to go through such and it can be pretty exhausting. I have been into such situations and often times those are times where you want time to freeze for a minute.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
You are so right and one day we will have it all together. 
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hi there,
You are so right for a second I would close my eyes and wished it was all a dream, lol, sadly it was a great deal all at once to have received the emergency call but all is done for now and hoping to get back into the swing of life for now. We will eventually move with her as she is 72 and will not be able to be alone for too much longer with her health. Thanks for stopping by and your nice respoonse.
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@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Oh, so sorry about the loss of your boyfriend's relative. And, I hope that his mother gets better soon. Yes, usually, too, when I'm on vacation, especially where there is not internet or where access is unstable, I neglect all my earnings online activities. Ah, so that was why I haven't seen you for a while. I just thought that you hadn't been involved in discussions I was involved in.
Glad to see you're back!
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@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
So many things you have to consider. I guess with her age, she really would need help.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Yeah we are concerned that with her health issues and perhpas depression for the loss may take a toll on her so we are putting it together and making sure it is the right thing to do for her.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Apr 11
That's 'PMs'--not '22 women's special-time-of-the-month,' yes?
Anyway ... yes, I probably HAVE been so-frazzeled a time or two in the past; but part of 'the amazing ability to get through it with grace' involves not paying it enough attention to make it memorable. 
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
You insinuate and I shall respond. lol.. Glad I can share my life with you. 
As always my dear friend thanks for the chuckles.
As always my dear friend thanks for the chuckles. @hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Hey there,
Nope not quite that time of the month, thankfully that time passed earlier a couple weeks before the havoc started. lol...
You are so right I basically did what had to be done and tried not to think while doing all that had to be done. I am home now and dealing with my computer issues but thankfully the netbook works fine.
I will deal with tomorrow, tomorrow. lol
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Apr 11
Okay! a little bit TMI 
but Okay!
And myLot will be here with you ... maybe not FOR you, and maybe not even having anything to do with you 
but we'll be Right Here
but Okay!
And myLot will be here with you ... maybe not FOR you, and maybe not even having anything to do with you but we'll be Right Here 2 people like this
@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
26 Apr 11
I have been in frazzling and frustrating positions, but lets talk about you. Are you saying that you are moving to Arkansas at the end of the summer? Is your boyfriend going to be able to get work if he does move there? Is there a family history of heart disease and is your boyfriend going to be checked for it? I believe I am familiar with the area you have mentioned where she lives, and it is a beautiful area. I see you say she has a daughter, can the daughter take care of her? I guess I am saying e mail me if you need to talk and keep us posted on here as well.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
[em]We knew that eventually we would move there because her health has not been the greatest. We will know more during the summer if we will move because the sister can be there until the end of the summer.
My boyfriend getting work there may be tough because his acting career is here. He has already sacrificed a great deal of his career once but for his mother he mayu not have a choice.
I have been to Arkansas many times before to visit and it is absolutely a beautiful place to visit. I am a city girl so it will take some time for me to get use to if I can. I do love him enough to follow through, but it will take time for me to get use the idea since my children are here.
Thanks GG for always listening to me.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Forgot to mention that there is no family history of heart attacks but I am convincing my boyfriend and his family members to get this checked out. It is odd that at such a young age and presumed healthy he would pass in his sleep.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
OMG we will be like neighbors. We will be very close to both Branson and Eureka Springs.
We checked and asked several questions and as per the cornoners report there was no traced of substance materials. So that was a relief to a sense because they had entrusted this person for so many years.
His sister is definitely taking this serious so she is going to make the necessary appointments to make sure it is not hereditary of some sort. Now if I can convince my boyfriend who says he feels fine. 
It is good to know that if we make this move I will be able to see someone outside of his family. lol
We checked and asked several questions and as per the cornoners report there was no traced of substance materials. So that was a relief to a sense because they had entrusted this person for so many years.
His sister is definitely taking this serious so she is going to make the necessary appointments to make sure it is not hereditary of some sort. Now if I can convince my boyfriend who says he feels fine.
It is good to know that if we make this move I will be able to see someone outside of his family. lol1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Apr 11
iam so sorry hardworking! I do hope you all can figure a way to get his mom to change her mind. im sure you dont like the idea of no internet there. It does seem like when something bad happens, its like a landslide, all just keeps coming with it. but hopefully things will turn around for you all soon.thats really young for a heart attack. wonder how it happened. @hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Hey there,
Oh gosh yes way too young and not sure what happened because there is no family history of it. Although I have been trying to get my boyfriend to make sure because he is older and this sort of thing normally does run in the family and at times people ignore symptoms that can later turn out so devastating.
Gosh no internet there would kill me because I at least like to keep in touch with certain people here. Especially my children, although I can phone them I don't think I can survive knowing I am so far away.
Stuff at times happens for a reason, I am just trying to figure out what my reasons are these days. Thanks for your lovely thoughts.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
29 Apr 11
Too much journey can causes to too much dullness.
And you say that in Arkansas hills there is no internet connection, i am shocked that even in America also there is no internet facility in remote areas, Don't they are not located any signal towers...
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
1 May 11
Yes, till now also i have engaged with another degree exams.
You know that i am doing two degrees in parallel(Engineering and Arts).
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Apr 11
Hi Remo
Oh gosh I was so exhausted with so many fast arrangements that needed to get done. I am very grateful that we were able to do all that we did in such a short time.
As for internet, they do have it there in Arkansas, it is just where his mother lives, she does not have the proper wiring and being so poor she could not afford it, also she has no use for it herself. She lives in an area where a long time ago many installed what they needed but you had to pay for it.
But once, someday we move there we will work on that because both my boyfriend and I will be needing it.
Hope all is well with you these days, as I know you have been busy with your exams.
Oh gosh I was so exhausted with so many fast arrangements that needed to get done. I am very grateful that we were able to do all that we did in such a short time.
As for internet, they do have it there in Arkansas, it is just where his mother lives, she does not have the proper wiring and being so poor she could not afford it, also she has no use for it herself. She lives in an area where a long time ago many installed what they needed but you had to pay for it.
But once, someday we move there we will work on that because both my boyfriend and I will be needing it.
Hope all is well with you these days, as I know you have been busy with your exams.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
4 May 11
Wow you are very busy, hope all works out well for you. You know I always have you in my prayers. I want to look back some day and say that Remo is doing so well in life.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
We arrived a few hours ago back home and you have no idea how comforting it is to return to our little apartment. I was so sad that I could not get a message to anyone as to what was going on with us.
My boyfriend and I have some serious decisions to make because his mother needs the help, only I too am a mother and been born and raised here not sure the mountains and me will agree to making it my permanent residency.
Although a bit frazzled, I am happy to be back here on myLot as it is always a stress reliever for me.
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@zralte (4178)
• India
26 Apr 11
I don't envy your situation right now. In fact, I would not wish it on anyone to make that kind of decision.
I'm sure you will make the right decision, whatever that might be. We are always here if you need to let out.
Old people can be really awkward. My husband's grandmother was adamant that she would die in her house even though she had Alzheimer's. My father-in-law had to forcefully move her when she was bad enough. Forcefully as in, she still said she didn't want to move, but they kind of fooled her, saying she was just going with them for a visit, and well, with her Alzheimer's, she sort of settled down.
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@zralte (4178)
• India
26 Apr 11
It would have been much simpler if she's happy to come live with you. Now you have to worry about moving and everything involves with that.
Oh well, if life's easy, we'd have nothing to complain and it would be sooooo boring.
Anyway, all the best. I'll be praying for you to make the right decision.
Anyway, all the best. I'll be praying for you to make the right decision.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
I have taken several breaks to be able to adjust right back in.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
ahahaha, @ the famous part.. I have not thought of it this way. hehehe, believe me I would prefer 20 if at all possible but of course with the number of listed friends here they grow by the minute. lol
It will take me a while to go through them all and figure out what interests and what doesn't. Thanks for the chuckles. I have been so happy to be back because I have been missing the laughter thanks to all of you wonderful friends.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Wow, things have definitely been eventful for you. Sorry, to here about the bother. 32-years old. I hope things are calming down for you. This would've frazzeled me also. When my husband was over the road truck driving, I had a message on my answering machine that his brother past away. At that time, I was working until 11:30 at night. I listen to the message and after I calmed myself down I had to figure out how to get ahold of him. We didn't have cell phones then. I called his work and after about an hour and several attempts someone finally answered. I told them he needed to call me back it was an emergency. I found out he already knew. I packed my bags and off to Vegas to meet him for the service. There 1 day gone the next.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Oh gosh so you too had to the experience. You know the feeling about that call and no time to plan but keep moving.
It is what we do to pay respects and help in whichever way possible. We will someday be blessed for all of our caring ways. Thanks so much for responding and sharing with me.
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@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Good morning my friend,
So sorry to hear what you've gone through, my sincere condolences....
When I noticed that you're not around, I just thought that you're on an easter vacation. But I'm glad that you're back, I just do hope that everything will be fine for all of you there. Moving out is really a hard decision because of the adjustments that goes with it.
Goodluck my friend and see you around!
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Good my evening during your Good morning my dear friend.
Thank you for your kind words, it was such a loss as his cousin was only 32 and so healthy as far as we all knew. His mother worries us quite a bit because that was her true life line. She enjoyed cooking and doing his laundry as if he were a child because it gave her something to do and we were so greatful that he was simply there to keep an eye on her during the evenings.
For now his siste will be there and we will perhaps at the end of summer move out there, she will need help and such a wonderful woman we can certainly help her. Little life sacrifices that we in the end will be later blessed.
Thank you friend for responding.
Thank you for your kind words, it was such a loss as his cousin was only 32 and so healthy as far as we all knew. His mother worries us quite a bit because that was her true life line. She enjoyed cooking and doing his laundry as if he were a child because it gave her something to do and we were so greatful that he was simply there to keep an eye on her during the evenings.
For now his siste will be there and we will perhaps at the end of summer move out there, she will need help and such a wonderful woman we can certainly help her. Little life sacrifices that we in the end will be later blessed.
Thank you friend for responding.@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
lol I often forget that so many of us are in different times zones but it is always a treat to see someone say Good Morning to me because then I know they are sharing a few minutes with me.
My boyfriend and I were discussing the fact that his mother never really needing the internet never installed the proper wiring needed there and that will be our first project because he too is hooked on the internet.
That is something I am grateful for as he will make sure I do have access while I am there. Thanks again
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@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Oh yeah, I forgot its still evening in your place
In life, we can't really tell what happens next and life is full of mysteries. Your boyfriend's mother really needs your presence to comfort her in this time of sorrow.
I know that the sacrifices you'll make will bring you something good
Always keep intouched even from a distance okey?
In life, we can't really tell what happens next and life is full of mysteries. Your boyfriend's mother really needs your presence to comfort her in this time of sorrow.
I know that the sacrifices you'll make will bring you something good
Always keep intouched even from a distance okey?2 people like this
@Delicious36 (190)
• Netherlands
26 Apr 11
Hardworkinggirl....my heart is with you.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Hi Delicious
Thank you my friend and for your lovely words.
I have not seen you around the Lot and do hope all is well with you.
Thank you my friend and for your lovely words.
I have not seen you around the Lot and do hope all is well with you. 4 people like this
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
27 Apr 11
hardworkinggurl,
I am sorry to hear of this sudden tragic loss and I hope that everyone especially your boyfriend's mother is recovering from her shock and grief.
About heart failures, I have enough experience enough to tell you that these fatal attacks can really happen without any notice. One of them actually happened to my church elder who was really as fit as a fiddle. He even climbed the Everest and a loyal supporter of the marathons. And, during one of the training sessions for an upcoming marathon he just suddenly collapsed and departed.
Not forgetting, the number of professional soccer players who collapsed on the field during their competitions. So, it is really scary and that we should never take symptoms for granted, even when we are physically fit.
Take care and wish you all well here.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Awwh Skysuccess what a wonderful response. You are so right as I am very athletic and eat so properly and something always hurts and or bugs me and I am one to take it for so granted. I am working on my boyfriend hoping he does listen and at least do some testing, especially since he has health insurance and is able to do so.
Thank you for the well wishes, mother is doing better, although her health is not so great. We have her daughter there for the next several months holding the fort and hoping all will be better for her. We will eventually move there to help her, because she is such a wonderful woman that we can't imagine not doing so.
Thanks so much for you very positive and informative response.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Yes, that's happened to me before and I'm sorry for your loss. The situation has to be stressful. I hope you'll both be able to make a decision that everyone is happy with.
I was called away at the end of February when my mom was dying. When I came back 4 days later my mailbox was full. I didn't want to deal with it so I just deleted them all and started fresh. Sometimes you have to start fresh and not stress over what you've missed.
You must have a lot of very close friends to have 22 pms in your email, that's wonderful.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Hi dragon,
I do remember your loss such a hard and sad time. You comforted me a few weeks later to the loss of my grandmother. Thank you for the condolences.
I have known of the great close friends here and was so distraught that I could not get a message to them.
I just completed the return PM replies and am not concerned so much with the discussion alerts but am kind of frazzled with the so much running we did in such little time.
I will take one moment at a time and get back into the swing of things.
Thank you for the condolences.
I have known of the great close friends here and was so distraught that I could not get a message to them.
I just completed the return PM replies and am not concerned so much with the discussion alerts but am kind of frazzled with the so much running we did in such little time.
I will take one moment at a time and get back into the swing of things. 4 people like this
@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
26 Apr 11
HWG, go take a nap, have a cup of tea, and get your feet back under you. That is very sudden. I missed you, but I had assumed you were celebrating Easter. I am so sorry about this.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 11
hardworkinggurl oh y es all of which meant I lost 30 days of computer time on mylot,twenty days to recover from the fall on Feb 15th got back the fifth of March.was here and online for two days and my rommie came down with shingles. so kicked out for 13 more days no computer no mylot and no email or phone. I do not have a cell phone. yet.when i got back
I had 669 email notifications from mylot.After working and working and not making a dent I deleted the oldest and worked on the newest too.
I am so sorry about your boyfriend mom and nephew.I hope you and your boyfriend can work out something you can all live with.
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@jameygc (452)
• United States
14 Jun 11
I am very sorry you have passing by so stressful time. Sometimes things in life comes all together and make us run as crazy. Right now, my family is passing a hard moment with my grandparents. Even when I am not able to flight right now, I feel my mind is crazy thinking a hundred things at once. I hope everything get well for you two. Do not precipitate to take a decision is going to affect your lives. Best wishes for you.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Jun 11
Hi jamegygc
You are such a sweet girl. I am sorry about your grandparents and do hope that all gets back to normalcy soon.
Yes it was quite of a mind boggling time period two months ago, and sadly we are still contemplating the move. I am so hoping not to move there but for the sake of his wonderful mother I would have to go and help. I never had a mother of my own per se and feel that this wonderful woman is like a mother to me. Therefore, I will do simply that and always hope for the best.
Who knows it might be a good thing to have a change of pace for me. Thanks so much for stopping by and your positive response.
You are such a sweet girl. I am sorry about your grandparents and do hope that all gets back to normalcy soon.
Yes it was quite of a mind boggling time period two months ago, and sadly we are still contemplating the move. I am so hoping not to move there but for the sake of his wonderful mother I would have to go and help. I never had a mother of my own per se and feel that this wonderful woman is like a mother to me. Therefore, I will do simply that and always hope for the best.
Who knows it might be a good thing to have a change of pace for me. Thanks so much for stopping by and your positive response. 
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
we missed you hwg! i wondered where are the active members during the holy week but it is understandable that they also have their own businesses they attend to. Anyways, I am sorry about what happened to the cousin of your boyfriend. Maybe he had signs and symptoms of his illness before and just did not mind it or go to the doctor for check up. I hope this serves as a lesson to never hesitate and have a check up if we are feeling anything with our bodies.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Katrina
Awwh thank you, I too missed everyone. myLot is my daily routine and I was not able to get online at all while there. I am happy to return to so many well wishes.
You are so right, my boyfriend's sister already took the necessary steps to schedule appointment's to check this out because it was a shocker for the family. My boyfriend I am working on because, he has insurance and he needs to understand that sypmptoms cannot be avoided. I tell him I am going to drag him to a doctor because this is important.
I have been guilty of self medicating at times but this does serve as a lesson that we are here today and tomorrow is not promised but as people we need to take care of ourselves.
Thanks so much for responding.
Awwh thank you, I too missed everyone. myLot is my daily routine and I was not able to get online at all while there. I am happy to return to so many well wishes.
You are so right, my boyfriend's sister already took the necessary steps to schedule appointment's to check this out because it was a shocker for the family. My boyfriend I am working on because, he has insurance and he needs to understand that sypmptoms cannot be avoided. I tell him I am going to drag him to a doctor because this is important.
I have been guilty of self medicating at times but this does serve as a lesson that we are here today and tomorrow is not promised but as people we need to take care of ourselves.
Thanks so much for responding. 