Do you tell your friends the truth?

United States
April 27, 2011 5:13pm CST
From little white lies such as "does this dress make me look fat" to big ones, do you tell your friends the complete and honest truth knowing that they'll flip out or get sad? To be honest, no matter how close the friendship is, it's hard to tell them a genuine truth. I hate having the cold shoulder or the silent treatment.. it drives me crazy. What about your situation?
4 responses
@Orson_Kart (6169)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 11
Usually it's a good idea to be economical with the truth unless they NEED to know it. Rather than say, "Your bum looks big in that", I'd say, "You looked better in the other dress" Diplomacy can get a guy a long way! ;)
• United States
28 Apr 11
I actually never thought about it the other way around.. thanks for the tip! I am definitely that. Hahaha.
• United Kingdom
28 Apr 11
When the moon hits you eye like a big pizza pie That's Amour, Helen Thanks for the BR and although I can't see it, I am sure your bum is perfect. ;)
2 May 11
I'm a kind of person that when there's a bad thing that she/he shows us and nobody dare to make a move then I'll do my very best to accomplish or say what I have been in my mind. I don't care if she get hurt with my harsh words but at least I'm not so 'plastic' to her...
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
28 Apr 11
I have a saying: if you do not want the truth, do not ask me, but that does not mean everything I say with a raw sincerity. It is good sometimes to nuance things, fearing the reaction of others. To lie, fail, or can not keep silent, not that someone asks me something, but it's better to be careful how we say.
@misc11 (384)
• United States
27 Apr 11
I try to tell them somewhere between the truth and what will make them feel good. When your friends ask you for advice or guidance, you want to tell them the truth and help them, but sometimes the truth will only make the situation worse and won't help them. When your friend asks if they have gained weight and they have, i always say well a little but you still look really good, and no one has said anything. I only noticed because you said something. If you hadn't, I would have never noticed. I say things like this because they are looking for the truth but if you tell the whole truth, they will be crushed and you don't want to do that either! If your friend likes a guy and you know he doesn't like her is also a hard situation to tell the truth because you don't want her to look like an idiot but you don't want to hurt her feelings, so I just say that he is not good for her and that she can do better and don't waste her time and try to steer her away without really explaining the situation. I always feel really bad but I do think somewhere in between is better than an upset friend!