Does it really change?

Time changes everything. Living with someone also changes a lot of things: the person may change or it may just be a bad moment. Don't forget that, instead of just seeing him when you go out on a date, you're now seeing him all the time. Every day. All day. You're bound to notice more annoying things and to have difficult times. It's impossible to answer your question, really. Your best bet, like anyone's, is to talk to him. Ask if there's a problem. Ask if something's annoying him. Communication and honesty are always a good thing. I've known my lady for 18 years and we've been together for half a dozen of those. We still laugh and joke and have loads of fun, but there are moments when I'd love to tape her mouth shut and stick her in a cupboard, just to stop her annoying me (which I'd never do, of course! )... but we talk and ten minutes later, everything's fine. Only advice I can really give you is not to listen to people who aren't relationship professionals. Your friends will have a skewed view of everything (and will be on your side automatically), so don't go making any grave decisions based on what they (or we MyLotters) say.

Sadly at times when couples are married for a while they sort of get so comfortable that they take one another for granted. I say granted because they are so comfortable knowing the person will be there the next day and so forth that they no longer go the extra mile to please their partner. I do hope you two can resolve this because as time goes on and the communication stops it does not get better. Hope he realizes what a good thing going he has at home.

It can happen, but I do not think it's healthy or right or something that happens to everyone. You have to talk to HIM about it. Confront him for his comments. Tell him straight up that this is not how he was when you met and how it makes you feel when he says things like that.

We do change over time and in marriage the changes are inevitable the longer we are together. My husband and I have been through quite a lot and I recall a time when I wasn’t sure if I could stick it out but I’m glad I did because things are a lot better now. It sounds like a cliché but as long as the communication is open and the commitment is there most hurdles can be overcome. It is hard work though isn’t it?

Hi ja hernandez rivas: Unfortunetly people change. We all are evolving the way we see things. I think you have to tell him your worries to make him now what you are expecting from him and what makes you uncomfortable about thgis new situation. You love him, try to understand how he feels and why has he changed. Thanks for sharing your feelings with us. ALVARO

Most couples whether it be marriage or a long time commitment goes through such phase where we seem to feel uncertain about past decisions and about our own commitment to each other. Unless we learn how to compromise and think of ways to better the relationship or make our day to day lives more exciting than before, then there;s no other way the relationship is going except downhill. There are some things that we begin to discover in relationships that make us feel like there was a mistake somewhere but just couldn't go back and do things differently. It's best that we move on and do something about our relationship, be reminded why we made such commitments to each other and what to do to make things more interesting than before.

Relationships can't just remain to stay the same. they have to change to grow. We can't expect them to stay as they are if we still want them to meaa=n something to our lives.

Everyone changes overtime regardless if they are married or not. I don't think the actual act of getting married really changes people. But I do think people grow and change over the years after they marry. The same would happen even if they weren't married though. Some people have different expectations about marriage and what they expect from their spouse than what they expected of them prior to marriage. Let's not forget that married people priorities usually changes too.

I believe things do change over time. I would think that he would mellow out though, not be so cranky. I guess, I'm really lucky. My husband is the tame one in the family. I'm mellowing out but has definitely been a long process.