Why I must fogive those who hurt me?

for me, it depends on the standing or the person in my life, and the sin he/she has made. those are 2 things that i consider when it comes to both forgiving and forgetting. i will also see to it if the person deserves my forgiveness, and if he/she is exerting efforts to earn forgiveness. forgetting on the other hand is not really in my vocabulary, because for me... negative or positive experience, there's always a lesson that i can pick and i always worth that lesson.

Forgiving and forgetting are two very different things. I was always brought up with the expression "Forgive and forget" but find that "Forgive but don't forget" works better. Being hurt... well, it hurts! It's not easy to forgive a person for hurting you. Holding on to the hurt can drive you to two things: revenge or motivation to do better. Rather than brood on the bad things, it may be better to look at how you were hurt (and why), then use that knowledge to either build better defenses or to learn from a mistake. Personally, I find the desire for revenge a waste of time and energy - it won't make any difference in the long run and just continues to engender bad feeling. Is the world really a better place because you're angry at someone for something you can't change? Forgiving a person is often an act of looking at the situation through their eyes. Why did they do it? They surely had a reason. If you can understand their reason, it may be easier to swallow the pain and let things pass. If it was just a desire to be mean, you'll know not to trust that person as much (or at all). If it was for personal gain, you know that they place more importance on their own well-being and happiness than on your friendship. If it was a thoughtless accident, they may simply have not realised the consequences of their actions. Forgetting is another matter: if you forget the whole thing, you're likely to make the same mistake and get hurt again. Experience, unfortunately, mostly comes from making mistakes and paying the price. Learn from what happens and you can avoid it happening again. That's why I don't forget but try to forgive.

You can't have mountains without valleys. You can't give forgiveness unless someone has hurt you. That is to say, why would you forgive someone who hasn't hurt you? It's what forgiveness is for! That's just simple logic. Morally, Christians forgive those who have hurt them because Christ forgave His murderers, & told us to forgive our enemies. He even said that if we don't forgive those who have harmed us, He will not forgive us for our sins! That's enough motivation for most, right there. One should forgive because no human is perfect. We constantly hurt others (often unknowingly!), & even ourselves, by the mistakes we make, & the sins we commit, so not only must we forgive others, we must even forgive ourselves. And last, until we forgive others, our souls can't know true peace. That's "why." Maggiepie "Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds." ~ Albert Einstein

To forgive is something very powerful. It's not easy to let of the grudges that you have on somebody. But you need to ask yourself if it is really worth it.

I think in terms of forgiveness should be limited. when someone hurts us, then we forgive on another day he hurt again, then we forgive if he hurt constantly, whether we will continue to forgive? that person, you could say "bold insolent against us, because we look weak in his view"

Are you comfortable how you feel if you don't forgive? if you will never let go of this hard feelings then you lose because you will never have peace in your life. Do you believe that every time you allow wrath in your heart to people who hurt you everything will turn back to you and it is more painful.Forgive and forget and you'll see, you will feel relieve and at peace.

I forgive and leave vengeance up to My Lord. However I do not forget and am always vigilant that I do not allow them the opportunity to hurt me again.

because your choices determine the actions you take, your actions determine your reality. if you choose to forgive and forget or any of both you will find it easier to start a new but then again some things you need to remember so that it doesn't happen again if you keep on going with who is right who is wrong you will be bound to the past, to these people that hurt you and the memory itself will hurt you again and again it's not living there is no MUST you decide, what you want to do, who you want to forgive or forget, when and why after all, you will reap the rewards of your own actions, no one else

We must forgive those who have sinned against us or hurt our feelings to have some peace of mind and to live a happy life. it's not easy to forget those people who have hurt us...but we must. Having hatred won't give us peace and serenity and will also give us a bad personality. Better be good always and forgive those people...so that we will be forgiven too.

If some one hurt us what can we do. Are we hurt him, he again hurt us, it is endless chain. I am agree that it is not easy to forgive any one. But if we not forgive and forget who hurt it is not good for ourself. So forgive but don't forget about the nature of who hurt you. be careful from that in future.

I completely understand why can't a person forgive or can't even forget someone. It's really though but I always set my mind and heart that everything happens for a reason. Though some people hurt me, I forgive them. Of course I can't forget what they did to me but I won't be holding any grudges against them.

Because if you do not want to forgive the load of hate will be yours and not hers who just did not mind at all hurting you or has hurt you.

In order to have a peaceful living, we must forgive those who done wrong with us, those who hurts us. Do it for Christ's name. Afterward give distance with them. Avoid dealing with them as possible as you can. Do not go near with them, the hurts they gave to you should serves as your lesson.

I have had a tough time with forgiveness also. I struggled with forgiveness, because I felt that those that hurt me did not deserve to be forgiven. As I tried to come to terms with this issue, I came to learn that forgiveness isn't about saying that what they did was OK or that it didn't matter anymore. Forgiveness isn't something you do for them, but for yourself. Dr. Wayne Dyer once said something that struck a chord with me and it resonated deep within me and my struggle to forgive: it is not the snake bite that kills you, but the venom that spreads through your system. The hurt someone has inflicted upon you is the snake bite; the holding on to pain, resentment, anger, bitterness is the venom staying in your system. Letting go of that with forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Without letting go of past hurts, that part of your heart is simply held hostage, immobilized, and only limits and robs you of the ability to love and experience joy fully. By not forgiving, you allow those who hurt you in the past to continue to do so in the present. So, for your own sake, and for your heart, mind, and spirit to be free, you must forgive.

I believe forgiveness is to let go of energies of pain and hurts. Each experience is useful knowledge for future interaction with people. When people hurt you it has its reason. When you know the background it can help to forgive them who caused you pain and suffering. I believe when someone ask you for forgiveness, they have realized that they have hurt you. It is a human gesture to forgive and be forgiven to let go and move on with your life. We grow by experience , we learn from our lessons and we can with a humbled compassionate heart bring out good things out of people wh has done bad things. There is something good in each human being.

Forgiving is the firts step to self healing. When someone hurts you it is not pleasant until she or he apologizes. If that does not happen you have to relieve yourself from that pain by forgiving the perpetrater. Surely you cannot forget someone who has hurt you no matter how long ago it happened. Just forgive to move on with life. but never forget your experience.

one thing is to forgive another is to forget. the bible says forgive and you shall be forgiven. so you must forgive if you want to be forgiven because it is true that people hurt you but you also hurt others. i will tell you to forgive but not to forget because all these are experience that will help you to build your life.

Whenever a person doesn't forget to forgive it usually means that they haven't cleared their deepest troubles , the reason of forgive will gradually turn as the mind begins to open up to inner realizations held way past the due date. People will not feel that the emotion is embedded within the trauma anymore and the reaction will be more pleasant if they replay said experience the next time.

It's easy to say your opinion for someone but when you already experience the same thing you find it really hard to make a decision. Forgiving someone that has hurt you so much would be very difficult but by forgiving that someone lets you move on and live the life you once had until he or she took it away from you.....Forgiving also takes risks but it's the only way to achieve real happiness........

When you stay mad at someone you give them power over you, so the longer you stay mad at them, the longer they have control over your thoughts. Don't give anyone that much power over you. Forgive them for what the did but you don't have to forget, use that experience and know not to go down that road again.