I think I may be in love with my best friend..
By iamsarahdell
@iamsarahdell (6)
Philippines
May 2, 2011 5:44am CST
I think I may be in love with my best friend.. but i don't think he feels the same way about me..
I have known him for more than a year now.. we used to go out almost every night and we used to watch movies, have dinner, go out, go to the mall together.. but then i needed to move to another country..
We still managed to keep in contact through internet and facebook.. and two weeks ago, he visited me over here for a week.. we were sweeter than ever.. he told me he loves me.. but then he also told me i'm his bestfriend.. i don't know if im just in over my head but i don't think that's what he meant.. body language and the way he looks at me, and holds me, states otherwise..
Now he's back in LA and we still chat and talk.. and makes sweet comments.. has anyone experience this kind of relationship?? can someone give me advice regarding this??
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23 responses
@darkridersoumya (199)
• India
2 May 11
My personal opinion is to talk with him regarding this atleast try to give him a cue.Trust me guys are more insecure about the relationships.From what I feel I think he too is into you but is afraid that if he says it he may ruin your friendship.Even if he does not I suggest you can have a talk with him,rather than feeling sorry and speculating all the ifs and buts in the future its better if both of you say your feelings.My dear it is wortha shot.If he is your best friend then your saying so will not change anything if he does not feel the same about you.You have nothing to loose but a lot to gain.Go for it.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 May 11
You know, if MY best-friend were a 'she' within my age-range, I'd want to spend all my time with her ... so much time that it might start 'looking shameful' if we DIDN'T get married.
(That's how my mom's best-friend's sister's daughter got married, I think ... she was living with the guy, and didn't want to 'shame' her family.)
@iamsarahdell (6)
• Philippines
2 May 11
yeah i hope so too.. and i would be the luckiest if he ever falls in love with me.. :)
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
2 May 11
It's wonderful to have a best friend. I do hope you'll develop an everlasting relationship in the way both of you desire. Grow together individually on your own terms accpeting and respecting one another will become a solid foundation for you. Who knows you might end up getting married. My very best wishes for your happiness!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
8 May 11
I think cuteprash is saying they think you are right about thinking you are in love with your best friend.
Welcome both of you to myLot.
Remember to always think about what you are going to say so you can give a detailed response or comment...just saying
"I agree" or "Yes" or similar doesn't earn you anything. You must read all of the original post, then read other's responses and if you have something different to say that will add to the discussion....start typing.
Have a lovely time.
@rrbterania (95)
• Philippines
2 May 11
why don't you try to tell him what you really feel, just be ready for his reaction and how he will accept it. There can be a big possibility that he loves you not just a best friend but also someone very special to him. most friends are afraid to admit their feelings especially for their best friend because this can ruin their friendship if turned down by the other, but you will never know unless you try. Right?
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@onlytheo (23)
• United States
2 May 11
When it comes to males and females being good friends its hard to tell sometimes if there is more there. Sometimes the best relationships start as really good friendships though. I have some female friends that I can only see as someone like a sister to me and others I could see myself in a relationship with them. It is all in a feeling, if you feel this way about him 9 times outta 10 he feels the same way about you. He just might be scared to say something because he thinks it might ruin the friendship.
@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
3 May 11
I definitely agree with you. Otherwise, she wouldn't get the wrong signal if it isn't so.
but if he never committed to you and never ask you to be his GF, i don't think you can expect more from him. cause one day he could just walk away if his feelings disappear and told you to be just friends 
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
4 May 11
My husband was my best friend before we began dating as a couple. He's still my best friend.
Tell him how you feel and hope he feels the same. You won't find out if you don't ask. If his body language, the way he looks at you and the way he holds you state he loves you, take a chance. Tell him you love him, too, but you think it's gone past best friend status.
Good luck.
@mariacecilia13 (490)
• Philippines
3 May 11
It is very common to fall for someone we usually spend a lot of time with, and tat includes our befriends. I already felt that before and it was a good feeling knowing that someone cares for me, though he's just a friend.
I am not sure he felt the same way, but just like your best friend, he also showed that he loves me, (or maybe I was just hopeful)that he cares for me. But it was just like that, I mean he didn't tell he actually love me more than a friend. I was very sad that time, but then, after few months, I was able to get aver my feelings with him and I was just so happy because the friendship remains.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 May 11
I strongly think that your bestfriend is in love with you. He is just ashamed to admit it, so he added he is your best friend, but he is meaning more than that.
However, it is not good to assume, so it's still best if you can have a heart to heart talk with him and ask him about it. That way, everything will be cleared. Coach him in a subtle way that you too is in love with him, so that it wouldn't be hard for him to open up his true feelings for you.
@naija4real (1291)
•
3 May 11
Relationship does not developed instantly it is a gradual game and I think your relationship is growing and with time you and your guy will become true lover. Both of you have a lot to contribute to make it work. You do not need to leave the game for only him just do your best to make things move on.
@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
3 May 11
I think he likes you... I hope he likes you.
Well, I have heard that if a guy likes you, he wouldn't make you feel like he doesn't. So tell me, how does he make you feel? Sometimes actions speak louder than words you see.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 May 11
Sometimes too much closeness can be mistaken as love.
But no...it's plain friendship...we just assume.
Do not assume too much it might hurt you,just wait for the right time till he tells you that he loves you more than a friend.
have a great day and welcome to mylot
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
2 May 11
I think the absence just awoke the feelings between you.
I know it is more fun to just let yourself fall, I hope that you give a little consideration to your mind and think this through. The worse thing that could happen is that you get hurt.
Take your time, and don't rush into things.
It will happen if it is meant to be.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
2 May 11
Hi iam sarah dell: This is complicated. And what if he is in love but he doesn't find the situation to tell you this. You can give him some clues or be a little bit open and make him now what are your feelings. It's better to tell how you feel and if he says he doesn't love you that way, at least you stop hoping that something happened. Some boys are just too shy. This is my case so give him a little help.
ALVARO
@sabhari05 (263)
• India
2 May 11
Yes I too felt the same but not this much we were good friends and I loved her but I did not say her my love and after our schooling is over we forgot about it because I felt it was infatuation so my opinion to you would be rather than thinking like this just ask to your heart whether he is a good friend or good lover by thinking about the good things he done to you i meant not chatting in real life and then you think does I love him by remembering the sweet things and then you think whether you had the same feeling with others if you think You does not had the same feeling with other I feel you love him and say to him boldly that I love you.
@loloangela (17)
• United States
2 May 11
Let him know how you feel, but be sure you really feel that way. The last thing you want is to realize that you were just infatuated with the idea of being with someone, and mess up a good friendship. I think you should wait it out and see how things go. When you do tell him be prepared for the rejection.
I have a friend and we went through the same thing but we talked about it and decided not to go through with it. It wasnt the right time and we liked being friends and we liked the openness we have now and didnt want to destroy it. Were still friends and im glad I didnt rush into it.
Things will work out be patient
