Why are people unhappy?

This topic reminds me of a quote .."most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be" I think there is a lot of wisdom in that thought. It isn't always easy, but possible. The quote has been attributed to Mark Twain. There are many kinds of love..and yes love can bring happiness.

Unhappiness is important... how can you be happy if you do not know what a lack of nappiness is. It seems very cliche, like Ying and Yang. But yet it must be true.. People who are spoilt will still find reasons to be unhappy - like that their gold watch is not gold enough. =/ But people who have started and lived through unhappiness to achieve better things tend to have a purer more complete happiness. So I think unhappiness comes through experiencing the world in general, it's kinda important and natural.

I believe that people are unhappy because they self-identify with material things, social status symbols, and events in their life. This is all false. We are not those things. What makes us who we are is something much greater than money, career, popularity, looks, the relationship they are in (or not in). What we truly are is something that is untouchable. We have to realize that a great deal of things are just circumstantial. Our life story is only that- a story. It is not what happens in our life, but how we react to it; how we perceive it. "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change." ~Wayne Dyer We are constantly judging ourselves and others. We hold such high expectations. These expectations give us a sense of control, I believe. When others do not reach those expectations, we think they are bad, lazy, stupid, etc. When we do not reach those expectations, we may do the same, but we also make up excuses for ourselves. In reality, we all makes mistakes and that's really the point. We all want the world to be black and white, but it is mostly just shades of gray. Those shades of gray create uncertainty, which can be very scary. To be happy, we need to live in the now. The past makes us depressed and the future makes us anxious. It's okay to look at the past and the future. We learn from our past and we need to plan for the future so that we can reach certain goals. However, we should not dwell in these times. They are not real. The present is the only time that we will ever be present for. Tomorrow never comes. I agree with you in that happiness is associated with love. The problem starts when people think that they need a romantic relationship or tons of friends to have love, to be happy. The truth is that love is all around us.

When your expectations are high and are not met, you get disappointed, making you unhappy. For me, in order to be happy, we just have to simplify our lives and have simple wants and needs. That being so, you can easily achieve them, thereby giving you satisfaction, which in turn makes you happy.

hi, oh my,love really have pertinent in our love life,we are happy if there is someone who can love us with full loyalty and respect. but of course still love have biggest role in our life.that is to feel the pain and hurt.

the only reason why we are unhappy is because of dissatisfaction ,disatisfaction with what we have dissatisfaction with conditions that we face ,not satisfied with what we get from others,not satisfied with the love given by others

Some people are unhappy for obvious reasons: pain, suffering and so on. Some are unhappy because they're unloved. Others are unhappy because the love they get doesn't match the ideals in films and stories (which is ridiculous - ideal love is a one-in-a-million thing). But most of the people I know who are unhappy are that way because they always want more. They want what "everyone else" has, even when they don't need it. It's what I call the "Mars bar principle": imagine someone gives you a Mars bar. You're happy, right? I mean, you have a free chocolate bar! Woohoo! But then the same person gives the guy next to you TWO Mars bars... now you're not so happy. Why? Because you think you should have two as well. If more people were content with what they have, I honestly think there would be a lot more happy people in the world. (And no, I don't mean we should stop trying to do better, I just mean greed for money and material possessions.)

Hi! "Happiness is a mental state of well-being characterized by positive emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy" Quoted from wikipedia. So, to make someone happy, there must be something that can causing a feeling of great pleasure, contentment or joy. If either one of these did not exist, there they will feel unhappy.

hello, In my opinion, people are not happy because of lacking of money because sometimes it is one reason. People are not contented in there life because they cant buy anything that is why they are not happy. We can say that they are smiling but deep in their heart we want more.