Traveling on my own

@gloryacam (5540)
Philippines
May 10, 2011 3:44am CST
I did it! I booked my self to a trip and booked just me! No friends, no family, whatsoever. This will be my first trip alone, and I feel queasy. Well, it would still be in 2012, on my birth month, but, I need to really psych my self into it. Any tips for solo traveling? I know a lot of people here travel alone and even recommend that. But, especially for a woman, there could be dangers out there. Well, it's still within my country, but, the culture is entirely different...Have you gone traveling solo? Any do's or don't's? TIA!
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31 responses
• Philippines
10 May 11
hi glory, Really? I hope I can too soon but traveling with someone is more convenient so you can have a photographer You should more be careful to the people around you and be aware in your surroundings new places you know what i mean I remember i just watched a Bollywood Movie (Indian movie) the girl travel alone her family told her " A girl traveling alone is like an open treasure box" you will never know what can happen along the way, enjoy your travel and don't forget my pasalubong happy mylotting
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Yes, but, I'll be bringing my tripod . I'm always traveling with someone, so I thought I'd do it alone for a change. An "open treasure box?" Wow...hahah... Right, I'll send you your pasalubong (If I have space in my luggage).
• Philippines
15 May 11
A tripod would be nice. hahaha... That could be used as a defense weapon if need be. Have tried traveling alone thrice in our country. You really don't know what to expect. Just be extra careful and don't attract to much attention ( less of the blingbling and less sexy outfit ).
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
16 May 11
@doggydimon: "less of the blingbling and less sexy outfit" Noted! Although, even with friends I rather travel in conservative wear and rarely wear blingbling. Too much hassle (am on vacay to have fun not to look cute !) Thanks!
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Sometimes we need time for ourselves and being alone does not mean you will not enjoy your travel. Having peace of mind is what we are looking for when alone.
• Philippines
12 May 11
thumbs up..I also love going to hotels alone here in our place..just to go far from those people who keeps on ruining my day.. when i land a job, i will also try going to other places :)
• Philippines
12 May 11
That is good, we need to befriend also ourselves and give it time to look for what it is looking for.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
@ Biiyah: Be careful of the hotels that you're going into. You might run into not so good company.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
2 Jun 11
yes, I traveled solo for quite a time in my country and the last time I traveled alone was when I go out from my country. It is exciting to meet other people but I don't feel strange at all because there are lots of people from my country who were with me in that same travel so, i don't feel alone though we are in a foreign land. Just be attentive to details when you are traveling alone. Don't be shy to ask when you don't know what to do next but be sure to ask from the right persons like the security guards or police officers or other authorities not from anybody out there. Good luck.
@daeckardt (6239)
• United States
11 May 11
I guess the biggest things to keep in mind is personal safety. Be aware of what is going on around you. I would make sure that I walk with confidence, even if I feel very nervous, because most of the time people will not pick on a person who is really aware of what is going on around them. I would do a little research on the area you will be visiting (especially if you know there are cultural differences) so that you are doing things that are acceptable in the area you are visiting. I have traveled several times, mostly to take English teaching jobs in China. When I was on school breaks, I would travel to other parts of Asia. Sometimes I did go alone, but I often felt lost in trying to figure out what to do. Most of the time I traveled with someone else who knew more about the ropes of traveling so I could get ideas of places to go and things to do. I hope you have a safe trip!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
That's right, I guess. Being too overly suspicious and showing it would all the more invite attention to your self. It's in my country, though, so physically, I wouldn't be singled out as a tourist. When I speak, maybe, yes because I would have a different accent from theirs. Yes, definitely I will do some research, and I've asked a friend to give me her itinerary when she went there and see which sites I could go to. Thanks for the input!
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@daeckardt (6239)
• United States
14 May 11
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Who knows, you might find some other lone traveler and get to know him or her and start doing some things together. Time will tell. Don't be afraid to make friends but do be cautious that noting more will become of it unless you want it to. Have a safe trip!!!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Thanks! I guess it's just a matter of knowing how to deal with people, strangers. And, you're right, it could be an opportunity to meet other people - locals and fellow travelers. Thanks again!
@Cherish14 (2694)
• Philippines
11 May 11
hi there, i also travel alone sometimes, far distances but only by bus. but there was one time i traveled alone and by plane. i was also worried because i usually travel with my boyfriend but that time it was only me. good thing i didn't get lost and especially being a girl who travels alone in a place so not familiar is really different. but it was all worth it my tip is never trust anybody. some may just take advantage of you. good luck and take care
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I guess you're right. It's hard to trust strangers. But, I believe that the majority of people are good. But, still, I will exercise a bit of caution.
@CTHanum (8250)
• Malaysia
11 May 11
Never but I wish I could travel alone someday! For a woman to go travel alone, my family will have a problem with that. Anyway I like to have someone to accompany me~ It is great to have someone to share the joy travelling other places.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Well, I haven't told my family about my solo trip yet, but I guess they would trust my judgment on it. I know I can make this a good trip and I'm looking forward to it!
@CTHanum (8250)
• Malaysia
15 May 11
Hope you will enjoy the trip. Don't forget to have a full preparation so just in case anything happen and you already get prepared with it.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Thank you. Yes, I have a long time to prepare for it, so I guess I'll go prepared.
@sweet_pea (3323)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Wow! That is very adventurous of you Glorya! Another first,another milestone. I am not that courageous to discover the world on my own. I need someone to blame when something doesn't go well as planned! I prefer traveling with someone rather than being alone, since it is much safer for me. Oh well just take care, if it is just a local travel, you can trust the local people to help you on your travel. By the way, where is your destination if it's okay to ask?
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Yes, a milestone! They say that traveling solo is empowering. And, I want to see that for myself. Yes, it's just local. Bacolod. Ooh, I'm excited! Butm that's still a long time from now.
@sweet_pea (3323)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Oh! The City of Smiles. I'm sure there are a lot of friendly people there although I am really not familiar about what to see in Bacolod. I only know that they are known for the Maskara Festival. (Mask Festival) Somehow you know what is to see when you just say the name of a place like when I hear Bohol, the Chocolate Hills comes into my mind. Or Palawan,the Underground River. Briefly what is there to see in Bacolod and what made you choose it over the other islands. Is Bacolod in Visayas or Mindanao? Uh,oh..somebody needs to check her geography.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
It's in the Visayas, and it's a long story why I chose that place. Maybe I'll tell you that in person when we have a chance to meet personally in the future (well, I promised bhabycatch that). You're right, it's the City of Smiles, so probably there are a lot of friendly folks out there.
• United States
11 May 11
I am not sure I would want to travel alone. Seems more fun to have someone with you. Aren't you scared you will get bored or lonely? Please let us know all about your experience! I admire your bravery but don't think I would be able to do it by myself.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Well, yes, it's more fun to travel with someone, but this trip is not just for fun for me. I want to go "discover my self" or I want it to be a "soul-searching" trip, and the place and time has a significance. Surely I can't be bored because I enjoy being alone sometimes. Besides, I hear that solo traveling is empowering. I have a lot of fears I need to conquer on my own. Surely, I will let you know about it! Hopefully, myLot will still be myLot and we would still all be here by then. Thanks!
• United States
12 May 11
I think it is awesome that you are facing the world and your fears yourself. I hope that you continue to grow on this journey. I will be waiting for updates so don't forget about us. By the way...I am a tiny lady so I can probably fit in your suitcase if you change your mind and want some company after all!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Unfortunately it's just for a few days so I just have with me my handcarry. And, it's still in 2012. Need to psych my self first. It's just that the seats were on sale, and I grabbed the opportunity.
@Bernard9 (56)
10 May 11
I have not travelled alone but I would plan where I wanted to go and what I wanted to do and then look on line to find out what I could about the place I was visiting.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I guess you're right. A good planning will make a good trip. A friend is giving me an itinerary of places there that she's been to, so I guess I would just have to add if ever there would be some place I'd like to go to. Thanks!
11 May 11
Good planning throws up less surprises and means that when you get to your destination you do not waste time trying to find places to go. Although you cannot plan for everything. There maybe something or somewhere you did not find in your search. Someone also said not to go to any deserted beaches. I would stick to places where there are a lot of people. Also be aware if you use a cash machine in unfamiliar territory that there are people who watch out for people taking money out of a cash machines. It happened to me out in Greece, it was a busy street and I thought nothing about taking the cash out of the machine. My wife said to be careful you do not know who is watching. So I glanced round to see if anyone was following. There appeared to be so I told my wife to walk faster and this guy kept up with us. The main thing to do in a situation is not to panic and go down a side street, which my wife wanted to do. You are safer on the main street with a lot of people about. Anyway, I found a place where I could turn round and obviously see this guy, (there was a clothes rail outside a shop). So I went to the other side of it and turned round so I could see him. He did falter in his stride, but carried on past us as if nothing was wrong. Normally I would have gone in the opposite direction but to get to the bus that I wanted to catch I followed him. He turned into a cafe and greeted his two friends. Call me suspicious but what would have happened, I feel, is that he would have tried to lift my credit cards out my pocket. If I had noticed he would have run up the street to the cafe which had a convenient rear exit. His two friends would have been there to impede my chase. The main thing to realise is that where there are people you are generally safe. I would also take the advice of the other person who said to get a money belt so that you can keep your travel documents and money safe.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Whew! That was scary! Well, as I've said to one of the other posters here, I guess I'm bringing more cash so I will avoid withdrwing from any ATM. There have been many accounts on how many people steal from people getting money via ATM, so I'm a bit careful on that part. I'm also a suspicious person so it would ruin my holiday if I'd be watching my money, cards, etc. like a hawk. Yes, I've also heard from a friend about the money belt bag, which I think is very convenient. Yes, I guess I need to avoid too deserted beaches and other places. Thanks for the input!
@manubla (472)
• Philippines
10 May 11
congratulations on taking the first step to your first solo travel! it's not as scary and hard as you think. well, i haven't really done a solo travel but i tried exploring a place on my own as well on the succeeding days after meeting with friends in their hometown. prior that trip, i asked friends for an itinerary and read about the directions to the different spots which i planned to visit. I got lucky that the staff at the inn where I stayed were friendly and helpful everytime I ask for directions and recommendations. don't worry. you'll have plenty of time to psyche yourself about this...and i know you'll have fun!!! also, buy me something from there please?!!!! i'll pay you :D
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Thanks! You're actually going to give me the itinerary, right? You promised! I bet you I'll have fun. And you know the reason why I chose to be alone, and why I chose that place, right? Makes the trip more worth it for me! Sure, if it's not much, you don't have to pay me. Unless it would weigh so much, then, pay me! I did not pay for luggage, so it's just me and my handcarry...
@manubla (472)
• Philippines
11 May 11
yes, remind me at the time you'll be planning your trip. i just want cheesecakeS from calea :D
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Sure thing, Ms. Cheesecake girl!
10 May 11
Hello, gloryacam! Yes, I have done a lot of solo travelling, and still do. I never worry about doing anything like this as I am now 56 years old and an old hand! I'm always very careful to dot all the i's and cross all the t's before I go, and read all the small print about insurance, etc. I also make sure when going abroad that I have all the relevant health docs and jabs, you can never be too careful, especially in hot countries with poor sanitation! I lived in India for 3 years and didn't touch salads (you didn't know in what they had been washed!) or drink any bottled water that wasn't sealed in a container from a reputable company. The water could have been taken from a highly contaminated source, or just a puddle at the back of some hovel! Ice cream was also avoided because the milk could've harboured bacteria. We always drank milk that had been thoroughly boiled. I did slip up once and paid for it dearly by catching bacillary dysentery! I certainly don't want to put anyone off travelling, and I hope you have a lovely time exploring new cultures and meeting kind new people. From my personal experience 95% of people wherever they live in the world are good, and help is always available for the new traveller. Blessings on your travels! XJane
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
That's no problem for me. As I live in a third-world country, those scenario are pretty familiar. I love learning other peoples' culture and languages, and I agree with you on the fact that the majority of people are good and will help you in times of need. I certainly hope to bump into you in one of these travels one day! Thanks!
12 May 11
Ah, that was sweet, gloryacam, thank you! Well, you never know! :) XJane
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
13 May 11
Yep, what do they say? "It's a small world, after all."
@KrauseHome (36663)
• United States
1 Jun 11
Back when I was single, I used to actually travel quite a bit there for a while, and enjoyed doing so. Gave me a chance to explore, meet New people and see other sites. I can remember traveling on Amtrak, Greyhound etc. and having a wonderful time. Because of all of this I was able to see a lot of sites. Now that I am married, I still Love to travel just never seem to have the time.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
That's what my married friends tell me. They say that I have to do it all before I settle down because once I do, the priorities change. So happy to hear you had that chance to travel when you were single.
@Kalyni2011 (3497)
• India
17 May 11
This means you have booked tickets well in advance, many like to travel alone, it has its own charm, but once you are in the train, bus, ship or plane, the copassengers become friends soon. I do love travelling with hubby, kids and grandkids during vacations of grandkids schools, hubby is retired, i resigned from job too. We usually travel by train in 2 tier air-conditioned coaches, vey comfortable, just like our home..we soon become friends with passengers there lol Thank you so much for sharing Namastey. Kalyani
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Yes, I have. And since it's a very advance booking, I got them at very low prices. We often have promo fares for plane rides and I took advantage of it. I always travel with family or friends, so this time, I thought about traveling alone. A friend has done it and she says it is truly enlightening and empowering. Thanks!
• Philippines
14 May 11
I experienced traveling alone but it's not really that far from where I live, and the atmosphere is just the same, I mean the dialect that people speak. Its comforting to know that you understand each other. I admire you for such guts, considering that as you said its culture is entirely different. For me, just as long as you know how to read and understand road signs its fine. Also it would be helpful if you know how to read body language, especially when you are talking with the locals of that place and you barely understand what they're saying. Visiting its local tourism office would be a suggestion, the contact numbers might come handy if you need them.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Yes, I guess there would be no problem because it's still local. And, yes, you're right about being able to read body language. And, yes, I will be visiting their site for information about their place. Thanks!
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
12 May 11
Great discussion. I see so many different attitudes reflective of the diverse cultures here. Very interesting. I have traveled alone. I love it. When I was young, I stayed in youth hostels. They are great for meeting people and hooking up with other travelers. You can learn a lot from the other young people on were to go, were to stay, were to avoid etc. Of course sharing a room means you can't leave anything valuable in your room. You shouldn't leave anything valuable in a hotel either. My first big trip was Australia. I traveled from the south to the north. It took over 2 months to compete the trip. Then I went to New Zealand before coming home. I actually moved country alone. All it takes is courage to get up and go.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Yes, it's interesting, indeed, how people of differing cultures see the situation. One thing is for sure though, I guess that everyone pretty much mentions to be "careful" or something like that. I would probably not opt for hooking up with other travelers. This trip is just for a few days, so I'd want it to be just me and me. It's just a local trip, but they have a different culture there and a different dialect, and though we could speak in English or our national language, my accent would still be different from theirs. Other than that, I wouldn't be singled out as a tourist in a crowd. You're right, all it takes is just some courage. I live in a different city now far from my family and where I grew up, and though I originally had a roommate from my hometown, she has headed back home and I'm on my own now. But, I'm no longer scared of the big city as before.
@shynie (556)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Traveling has been a passion for me, and I love traveling alone. It gives me time for myself and to explore wonderful places. When I was still single and not yet a mom, I see to it that I always go to a new place, alone, not even with my boyfriend. The thing that i can only advice you is always go to a place that is safe. Know the history or anything about the place you are staying. If you are traveling abroad, make sure you always secure your passport. Because that is a very important document. I hope you have a great time in your travel. Have a safe trip!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
That's what got me interested in traveling alone - accounts of people who've done it, enjoyed it and lived to tell how much they've enjoyed it! Yes, I agree, I have to do a bit of research on the place. Though a friend is going to give tips as she's been there before. It's just local, so no need for my passport, though eventually, I'd like to try traveling abroad on my own. I have a friend who traveled to Europe alone and I guess she had so much fun! I would like to try that, too. Thanks!
@biiyah13 (64)
• Philippines
12 May 11
wow..i want to try it..as a student, i dont go travel alone..but it is really one of my plans to travel outside the country when i get a job..:) have a safe trip..
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
12 May 11
Do well in your studies so that you would land a good job. When you have a job, you can do many things that you couldn't as a student. Thanks!
@naija4real (1292)
11 May 11
As an adult I do not need the support of anyone to travel. I have travelled with car from one end of my country to another part of my country. It was quite exciting and I really enjoyed myself.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Well, I think there's a bit of difference between men and women as to solo traveling. And, generally the thinking is that it's more dangerous for a woman to travel alone. But, if I conquer this, I guess I would have a good time, too.
@youless (104228)
• Guangzhou, China
11 May 11
I hope you will have a nice trip by yourself. I had traveled alond in the past but I was not in a happy moment at that time. I broke up and therefore I hoped to go to a new place and perhaps I would feel better. This is why I had a travel alone. But it was not a happy travel anyway. And it is not a good solution, too. I love China
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Oh, I could just imagine that! I guess I would also do that when I'm feeling down. There is comfort in running away and I understand that. I love being alone sometimes so I guess it would still be good for me.
• China
11 May 11
You are great! I am 28 years old, only one time to traveled by myshelf on 21 years old to went to my college at first year, basically, that didn't actually meaned travel by alone, just taked a train alone, then arrivld at the destination. now, I don't want to travel alone, I always want take my baby and my husband go travel together. but, you are really great, go travel alone is not safe for a woman.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Well, I travel alone from my place now to my parents' place which is 7-8 hours by bus. But, since I do it regularly, I don't consider it as travel. But, this travel I'm having alone is really a solo vacation travel, so I don't know how to go about that. I've seen some women who travel alone, and with precaution it could be quite safe.