i wish dad is alive...

@tammy27 (1241)
Philippines
May 15, 2011 1:40am CST
if he's still alive, i know i wont get beaten by my brother. if he's alive, i know life would be so much better that this. if he is alive our family will still have the disciplinarian, and if he is alive i will always get scolded about all my mistakes small or bad... but at least im wont feel this injustice im feeling now. at least i wont feel like i just want to die, at least i wont be beaten by my brother. i wish dad is still alive.... :(
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15 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
15 May 11
I am sorry that you are experiencing physical abuse by your brother. It is important to find a way to make him stop. No one has the right to beat anyone. If it were me, I would probably try to have him arrested for striking me. There is no excuse for it. Please do something about it.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
15 May 11
its not that easy. especially here in the Philippines. people here, whether authority or plain mothers, they're not as sensitive as i wish they should. i want to escape... i want to die, im so sick and tired of this...
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
15 May 11
How old is your brother? Seems to me he should be concentrating on his life. Does he tell you why he beats you? This is so disquieting to me. knowing that you are in that situation.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
15 May 11
Try this website. Maybe you can get some help there. It is a battered woman's resource website in Philippines. http://www.unifem-eseasia.org/projects/evaw/vawngo/vamphil.htm Please do something about this.
• Philippines
16 May 11
hi..my deepest condolences to your family.. may i know when did your dad rested..? mine was last 24December2010, i know what it feels like to lose a father. 'til now, we still miss him. but as days pass, i realize that it's time to be more mature and disciplined. about your brother, i guess that's natural among siblings! =D cheer up..
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
16 May 11
i lost my dad feb. of last year... why did your father die? wanna share?? well, my dad was murdered.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
16 May 11
im sorry, i dont want to go deeper.
• Philippines
16 May 11
bet his a really good dad. maybe the culprit was one of their adversaries..may i know how was he murdered..? was he shot..? stabbed..?
@hpalm710 (87)
• Philippines
17 May 11
hi tammy! i am so sorry to hear that you have been beaten by your brother. i do not know what happens but whatever the reason is, hitting you is not the solution. i wish he will realize one day that what he does for your is totally unfair.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
17 May 11
yes, im hoping for that same thing a well.. but i think that wont happen any sooner.
• Philippines
15 May 11
I am sorry to know that your brother had beaten you. Personally I cannot make some retort knowing that I don't have the full story of what really happened between the two of you. Sibling rivalries and fights often erupt in the family from time to time. It is a normal occurrence in a family to have an argument over something. You can never wished for someone to come back to life, my friend. Sometimes we felt like it is really needed given the situation but really..we all know that we cannot undo the past. Just learn to patch up your differences with your brother on your own. Surely you are big enough to handle your own fights. Be strong cause I know that this conflict that you are undergoing will come to pass.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
15 May 11
Siblings do fight but that is when they are young like 8 or 9 years old. In late teen years and early twenties, it is simply not acceptable. It seems that the brother is battering and abusing this woman. Must stop. No excuse. It is normal to argue, not to beat. Seems to me she needs to get out of there.
• Philippines
15 May 11
Well in that case, something must indeed be done. Physically abusing a sibling is unacceptable in the Philippines. Though it is not uncommon here, there is a law that prohibits the physical abuse against women. Though I may wish that it must not have to resort to this-being a sibling at that, if worst comes to worst it must be stopped.
• United States
16 May 11
I feel so bad for you. Your father seemed like he would have put his foot down if he was still alive. I also understand why you wanna die. I think a lot of us have been there at one point or another, but just pray to God for it to get better.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
16 May 11
yes, im still hanging on. hope i cant let go.
@nashtom (23)
• United States
15 May 11
I share your pain about wishing my dad was alive. Cancer took my dad from me and I was just starting to really get to know the man I always called dad. You can go to the autorities and tell them that your brother is hitting you which is against the law for a person to hit a child. More importantly is there an Uncle that you are close to that you could go to for guidance, I sincerely hope there is for your sake. A teacher you feel a close relationship with any adult will help you with the situation with your brother.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
16 May 11
oh, im sorry for your loss. my dad was murdered. and with regards to my brother, telling the authorities is not that effective cause here in our country there's no juvenile and children under 18 cant be put in jail. they'll just put him in the DSWD (social walefare thing) and my mom will just get him there.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 May 11
tammy how old are you? first you must tell your m om or cloest relative that your brother is doing gthis as its wrong and nmust not be allowed to go on. this is way too seroud to just let him gt bay with this behavior no matter what is happenind Do yhou tell you mom and does she make him stop? if not go to a trusted relative and tell him or her what you have told us. this is all wrong if your mom condones this she is not doing right by you. go to a teacher also or the principal as you cannot let your brother drive you into doing something drastic. We cannot bring back your dad but we can help you by suggesting you go to some authority and tell them what is going on in your family.if nothing else go to Children's protective service and tell them about your brother and how it makes you feel like you want to die. and let us know what happened. hugs from hatley.
@celticeagle (159932)
• Boise, Idaho
16 May 11
It is very hard to raise kids when you are a single parent. It must be tough for your mom. Your brother is probably holding in alot of anger about something and then taking it out on you. I can understand the injustice you are feeling now. Without authorities and more involved mother I really don't know what you can do.
@Anitismo (229)
• Bahamas
16 May 11
In every family its different and it depends on the person, and how well you know the person and we all don't feel the same way as you because of that.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
17 May 11
I understand how it feels if your dad was still alive. It is really a pity to hear that your brother always like to beat you. Perhaps you should find someone like your older relative or cousin to speak to him. Because that kind of abusive attitude is really not good to himself in the long-run. It is much better for him to start learn to control his emotional while he's still young. Perhaps you can helps yourself by helping him first in the first place. Good luck to you and hope your brother will stop abuse you soon.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
16 May 11
You should do something about your brother abusing you. You shouldn't let anyone hurt you or effect your self-esteem like that. If your mother is of no help, try another adult. I am sure that reporting him to the police would be difficult since he is blood, but that might be something you have to do. My brother used to hit me also. My father told him he would be responsible if I couldn't have children and then he stopped. When you are younger it might be normal, but it isn't when he gets older. You need to get some help!
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
15 May 11
hello, I am so sorry for what are you experiencing. I dont have any clue why your brother hits you all the time even in a small mistakes? that is not good but did your mother aware to it? Try to talk to your mom and tell her what is your problem about your brother maybe she could help you.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
15 May 11
she's not only AWARE, her eyes are completely seeing how my brother puts his fist on me. it sometimes happen in front of her, but all she does is telling my brother to stop it. take not of that, she is just TELLING, she's not screaming to my brother to stop immediately. i dont know what to do anymore.....
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Aw. I'm sorry to hear that tammy! Don't worry, it will be just now.. Once you grow older enough, your brother won't hit you anymore. I know, I am lucky I still have my dad... Hope you're okay!
@gyani1978 (147)
• India
15 May 11
Oh my god. "He don't know what he is doing may god will forgive him." But you don't dear, you have to stand against your brother, now a days women can do everything against illegal, abusing, something like injustice. If your brother hurt you by treating badly, mistreat, psychologically harm then don't stand over their silently. You can directly call the media and give the complaint regarding this. One more things my sweet dear, we all are with you if some one want a proof then we will be there. Hey What happen with your mother if she is there then take her with you, you have to take help of your mom. Why she doesn't stop this nonsense things. Sorry to say.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
15 May 11
Oh sweetie, I am sorry to hear about your brother's abusive behavior towards you. Brothers are suppose to take care of their sisters, not abuse them. Is there not anyone could can put a stop to this cruel act of your brother's? Perhaps and older brother, or another male figure in your family? If this is allowed to continue it could go on for years. The older your brother get and there is no intervention from someone your brother could think that he can get away with doing this to other people who is not in his family and this could led to serious problems for him, like being put in jail or worse. I hope you can find help for yourself, in the meantime try to stay out of his way.