My nephew spends too much time on internet.

Hi qianlizhifeng... First off,you have to see both sides of the equation. The internet is not a bad thing. Why does everyone here say that being addicted to the internet will cause grades to fail? I'm an internet addict myself. Not am I only addicted to the internet, I also play video games on my computer intensively online or off. I never had a study routine at night. I only care to study 30 minutes before any major exam. So you see, I am like any high school student before. But in the end, I passed through my high school with honors. So, my point I am trying to make is that: I do not believe the internet affects school performance! It is all up to the person if he lets the internet take his mind away. It is just like any type of addiction. Some are addicted to smoking, some at sports. Some at books, and some at eating. It is practically okay to have any sort of addiction. So long as you can still study. And my parents never even controlled my surfing time. Why? Because they CAN'T. I simply did not let them too. And they also would not, anyway. I used the net for my schoolwork and projects, so as long as I get good grades, they can never complain to me for anything. Your sister is right. There can never be a way to change his addiction. No matter how many people around him will tell him, he will NEVER listen. As long as their is a net connection, and he is able to use it anytime at his will, he will never lose that addiction. As long as you nephew can surf and study, I see no problem at all.

I'm not sure, but there might be some kind of program you can put on a computer that lets you lock it from certain websites except for maybe an hour or two a day or week but that you could allow educational access during any hours. I don't know if that exists there, but see if you can find some kind of program that has parental controls. If that doesn't work, then perhaps you can remove the cord from the computer some time when he is not around so that he can only use it when permitted by parents. Good luck with that!

Hi! I have the same problem with my 6-year old nephew, although it's probably not that worst. My nephew is addicted to computer games. When he wakes up in the morning he goes to our computer shop and play. He's practically the one who opens the computer shop! He knows where the key is and he knows how to open a computer. (But I think my mother has changed the storage place of the key so my nephew cannot open the shop by himself anymore.) Whenever I go home I always see him in the shop playing games. Although he can only play when there is a vacant seat, it is still annoying because of course, he doesn't have money to pay and he doesn't get to pay. My mother allows this and that makes it more annoying. My brother and I always get a hard time stopping my nephew from playing because he is just so stubborn. My sister, my nephew's mother also tries to stop his son but she do it halfheartedly because she's also busy using the computer in her room. Sometimes she gets annoyed with his son, too and he spanks him and force him to go to their room. Still, my nephew is one stubborn little guy and there's nobody in our house that can stop him. His father is always away because of work so there's no "iron fist" that can straighten out my nephew. In your case, maybe you can cut off your internet connection or make it limited. Cheers.

I would have them limit his time on the internet only give him so many hours to be on it so he can concentrate on schooling and to lean him off it too. There's really no way in stopping him completely since he's already addicted but that's one way of doing it. I used to be completely addicted and as soon as I get home I would jump right onto the computer, but I don't do that anymore. I'm hardly ever on it. But maybe he needs to pick up other hobbiesi and socialize more with people that will lean him off the internet too. Best of luck with this.

I love the internet, but unfortunately it can be a huge distraction from the important things in life. I think that his parents should have put the computer in a place where everyone in the house could see it, not in his room. That way the parents can see what he is doing. They should also be talking to him about it and disciplining him if he doesn't respect their wishes. If his mother says that he has to do homework or something before he can get on the computer then he should respect that. If not then she could probably disconnect the internet service as punishment until he listens (since I doubt that he pays the bill). That being said, I also think that it might not be a completely bad thing since it keeps him from being outside with the wrong company or doing destructive things. I think the main issue here is that there needs to be a balance. It's not a completely bad thing. His computer time should be limited to an amount of time that his parents deem acceptable so that he can also get his schoolwork done and spend time with family, as well as find other activities away from the computer that he likes to do though. It sounds like typical teenage behavior. These days teens (and even children and adults) are pretty much glued to electronics. I was pretty much the same way growing up. I'm still like that. I stay all day in my room on the computer. I think it's important that he has interaction with other people because he needs to develop his people skills. That's a skill that I struggle with and it's a very important one. Of course for me it was not only because of the computer, but also because I had overprotective parents and the computer was my way of communicating with the outside world.

oh i thing you saying about me , i mean my old story i am a boy when i got computer i in-front of that box full time , day by day i lose the interest i hope same will happen to your nephew suggestion dont block him from computer if you do so the addiction become more stronger, and give him some happiness in other activities

I think you have to distract his attentions or focus to stuffs like those computer games. If it is really enough for him to stop or you really, really want to stop his addictions. Addictions very enough to these computer games can truly affects his healthy lifestyles. How about take a vacations with the family or friends. Join some clubs or extra activities like sports with some of his friends or cousins or other families. Give or have any interesting stuffs that can distract or detour his time on those computer games.

I am not a credible person to give some advises since I am not yet on the position on how to handle those kind of situation. But if I am the mother of that kid well I could only give him the whole school year to study and whenever he fails I would inform him because it is the effect of his too addiction in computer games. Then the next thing I will do is not to pay for his tuition fee and I won't let him study anymore so that he could really realized the importance of studying in school. I could feel the waste of money for tuition fee if he is not giving importance to it.

If using on the internet for searching information is tolerable, but it seems that he is only playing game from it. Maybe the solution would be not letting him ply computer for a while? Or only let him play for an hour a day? Your choice