Why is it hard to find a good friend ?

yes, i know how hard it is to find a best friend. i have encountered tons of "fake best friends" and it's painful in my part that i treated them real but they didnt do the same to me. im very lucky that i have my best friend. we've been together for 5 years now and despite all the misunderstandings we're still open to hear each other's voices, :)

because almost everyone is self centered and think about themselves. If you have a good status or you are an icon or you have enough money, then you have tons of sugar coated friend around... but in hardest situation you have no one. Thats why i have no friend in real world but in this virtual world... i have lots of. have a nice day.

It depends on one's definition of "good friend" and one's expectations of this good friend. At the end of the day, we are all human and we do disappoint one way or another. Thus, it is good to appreciate a friend who is loyal and appreciates oneself too. Cheers.

It just depends on the personality of the person. If the personality of your friend is carefree, he/she could help you out by comforting you in a carefree style they are when they help you out in a certain problem (this would depend on the problem too). There are lots of different kinds of people out there in the world. It's really difficult to find a friend that believes in you and does not break your trust. I believe that there will be a time when you will find your real good friend.

It's because I confuse friendship with caring , and I'm not completely attached to them, I want to think for myself and I think that if you can find the energy inside then why do you need a good friend?As that treats fairly except for your important one - is there much to this question?

Hi thepank! Yes, it is hard to find a good friend because everyone is preoccupied of self-advancement. We emphasize more on what we can gain rather than what we can share to others. Thus, friendship becomes secondary to the list. I am very lucky that I have true friends, one that I can really trust with. They know my secrets, my flaws, and my faults, but despite of that they accepted me wholeheartedly. I am deeply grateful for them because they unconditionally give their time and attention whenever I need someone to talk to.

Hi. thepank. Welcome to myLot! It is very hard to find a friend because, people have changed and they are not the same as they used to be. Many people are selfish and they also make it difficult for someone to be friends with them. Many people trust others, but they don't want to have friends. There are some good people in this world. I am looking for a few close friends that I can have in my life too. So, right now, I am just enjoying my life even when I don't have close friends. I know that God is my friend, I can trust him, he will never betray me.

You right, friend. It's hard to find a good friend. There are many that called us friend but we don't know if they are real or not?

Friend i think if each and every one in this world became good means then "Bad" word won't exist in this world. So for that reason god has made such things where we will get easily and few we need to search for it that is what we call it as good things. Bad things are easily available for you but good things or friendship is very difficult to get. You can make friendship with every one whoever you see, you talk and you go with. But the real good friend is one who is always look different from these people. That is why he called as a good friend.

All can be your friends in times of fun and laughters but with your own self reservations, it strictly holds you to be open in everything. You can not give your trust so easily even to your closest friend and so just have them to be your company that satisfy your being happy,that is having somebody around to kill time. You lose nothing if you keep your secret within yourself and you should not be sad because you can not find somebody that you can trust, just be with yourself to take time to entangle the load and pressures in so many other ways.

because most of us are judging the book by its cover.... or.... judging the website that pays due to its designs and color attractiveness and pleases..

I hope you can find true friend/s someday.

i completely agree with you. a good friend is really hard to find. i've started to believe that there are two different types of people in this world. there are people that you just meet, and they become part of your life for a while, either as a friend, a lover, a partner, and then they go out of your life.. you get on well, have a laugh, share some memories, good and bad, and then they walk out, because they are not meant to be in your life forever.. they are just people you happen to meet on your path.. and they teach you something.. whether it be not to associate yourself with people like that again, or maybe they teach you something good about yourself. and these lessons we take in, and use.. so when the other type of people, the people we are MEANT to meet, and made to have in our lives forever, when they come along.. we are prepared. for example, having ex's.. teaches you the rights, and wrongs in relationships, so when you meet your one, your soulmate.. you are ready.. i think friends are the same :)

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Hi,pank!I almost lost all my good friends. I don't think there are good friends around us forever just because all the things around us are changing constantly.That is to say,as time has gone by,the friendship between two friends will change more or less,maybe he or she has had elitism and don't have to ask you for help,or doesn't want you to bother him or her,so the previous friendship and trust have disappeared gradually,and then you can't find the friends who you used to have.

Wow this is really a meaningful question , I fully agree with your viewpoint, find a good friend is not easy. But in this word there still a lot of people can find good friend and even true love. this depends on your lucky and really out of your control. So my suggestion is : do not take care this so much and just followd god's arrange , in the meaning time you also need to make the opportunity to find new firend.

People are so different these days so it does make it harder to find good friends. It's hard to know who to or not to trust these days. Luckily for me I still talk to and keep in touch with my childhood friends that I grew up with. We tell each other everything. Matter of fact were getting together tomorrow at the park so our kids can play while the adults chit chat since one of my friends is moving away the 3rd of June.

Thats the way life is. It is always easier to get the bad things and difficult to get the good ones.

It is hard to find a good friend and sometimes it is not easy to maintain up relations with the friends one already has. I used to have a friend when I was at school, but then we went to study in different places, moved to another town. I wonder if distance breaks the relationship. Now we contact each other occasionally. Maybe it happens that friendship can grow through space and time, and friends who do not see often can still be on the same wavelength. The older I get the harder it seems to acquire new friends. Sometimes a friend betrays just when he or she moves to another town or country and forgets the ones he or she once used to be together.

The best friend and the only true friend you can have is yourself. So finding a good friend outside yourself is but a futile endeavor. What is truly ideal is to just be yourself, let self-love radiate, and people will begin to feel your energy of love. and once they feel you, you become a magnet for good people to whom you can share your love with...so you dont search for friends, you just attract good people to you...and its all made possible because of your loving relationship with yourself.