Why is it hard to find a good friend ?

@thepank (201)
India
May 25, 2011 5:02am CST
Its really a strange thing that its difficult to find a good friend in the whole world.A friend whom you can believe and who never breaks your trust . Why we don't trust others so soon coz we have faced betrayals , why is it so ??
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23 responses
@tammy27 (1245)
• Philippines
25 May 11
yes, i know how hard it is to find a best friend. i have encountered tons of "fake best friends" and it's painful in my part that i treated them real but they didnt do the same to me. im very lucky that i have my best friend. we've been together for 5 years now and despite all the misunderstandings we're still open to hear each other's voices, :)
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
Yes now you got someone special hope you both maintain a good relation coz a small misunderstanding can create lots of problem in a good relation .
@tammy27 (1245)
• Philippines
25 May 11
well... actually it's just a few months ago when we talked to each other again. it's been approx. 2 years since he avoided me, well i made a major mistake. hehe and to make things worse we're far from each other, he's currently at Japan and im in the Philippines. but now im glad that we're ok. :)
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
I wish you both live a good life and start talking to each other :)
@shibham (17019)
• India
25 May 11
because almost everyone is self centered and think about themselves. If you have a good status or you are an icon or you have enough money, then you have tons of sugar coated friend around... but in hardest situation you have no one. Thats why i have no friend in real world but in this virtual world... i have lots of. have a nice day.
25 May 11
its easier to express yourself when you aren't face to face, which is why people find virtual friends are better to have :)
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
I agree with you , most of them are sugar coated but not the real friend , and yes finding friends in a virtual word is every easy rather then having a single good friend in real word .
26 May 11
in the virtual world wo have less consider about the identity problems.where do you work?what's your job?yearly salary? despite these,we can more attention inner world of other people.so than ,we have more friends naturally
• Philippines
25 May 11
Hi thepank! Yes, it is hard to find a good friend because everyone is preoccupied of self-advancement. We emphasize more on what we can gain rather than what we can share to others. Thus, friendship becomes secondary to the list. I am very lucky that I have true friends, one that I can really trust with. They know my secrets, my flaws, and my faults, but despite of that they accepted me wholeheartedly. I am deeply grateful for them because they unconditionally give their time and attention whenever I need someone to talk to.
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
You are very lucky to have some trust worthy friends with you , because its so hard to get someone who can understand you more than yourself.
• Vietnam
25 May 11
Yes, we are find a friend is easy but finding a good friend that is really very difficult. so when there are good friends, we must respect this.
• United States
25 May 11
Well these days theres no such things as friends only associates and at the end of the day friends come and go
@casualkT (141)
• Canada
25 May 11
It's because I confuse friendship with caring , and I'm not completely attached to them, I want to think for myself and I think that if you can find the energy inside then why do you need a good friend?As that treats fairly except for your important one - is there much to this question?
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
May be you have made yourself like that but a normal person always need someone else who can understand him or her , and help him/her during his bad time :)
@casualkT (141)
• Canada
30 May 11
that is a complicated system , I have yet to try it ..
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
25 May 11
It just depends on the personality of the person. If the personality of your friend is carefree, he/she could help you out by comforting you in a carefree style they are when they help you out in a certain problem (this would depend on the problem too). There are lots of different kinds of people out there in the world. It's really difficult to find a friend that believes in you and does not break your trust. I believe that there will be a time when you will find your real good friend.
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
Yes the badness is increasing day by day in this world and no body wants to trust on other person it takes long to make a strong relation but that too hard to sustain .
@casualkT (141)
• Canada
25 May 11
those that don't seem too heavy and present will work
@carpediem17 (1317)
• Singapore
26 May 11
It depends on one's definition of "good friend" and one's expectations of this good friend. At the end of the day, we are all human and we do disappoint one way or another. Thus, it is good to appreciate a friend who is loyal and appreciates oneself too. Cheers.
@thepank (201)
• India
26 May 11
Yes loyal friends are hard to find and they play very important role in our life, so they are just priceless :)
@mantis36 (4222)
• Philippines
26 May 11
because most of us are judging the book by its cover.... or.... judging the website that pays due to its designs and color attractiveness and pleases..
@thepank (201)
• India
26 May 11
You are correct my friends , we all are same now a days .
@cream97 (29151)
• United States
25 May 11
Hi. thepank. Welcome to myLot! It is very hard to find a friend because, people have changed and they are not the same as they used to be. Many people are selfish and they also make it difficult for someone to be friends with them. Many people trust others, but they don't want to have friends. There are some good people in this world. I am looking for a few close friends that I can have in my life too. So, right now, I am just enjoying my life even when I don't have close friends. I know that God is my friend, I can trust him, he will never betray me.
@thepank (201)
• India
26 May 11
Yes its hard to trust any one now a days hope you get few good friends soon :)
@lou_is (667)
• India
25 May 11
Friend i think if each and every one in this world became good means then "Bad" word won't exist in this world. So for that reason god has made such things where we will get easily and few we need to search for it that is what we call it as good things. Bad things are easily available for you but good things or friendship is very difficult to get. You can make friendship with every one whoever you see, you talk and you go with. But the real good friend is one who is always look different from these people. That is why he called as a good friend.
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
yes god has created human being and we made ourself good and bad , but if you find a good friend then it would be like you got something priceless.
25 May 11
i completely agree with you. a good friend is really hard to find. i've started to believe that there are two different types of people in this world. there are people that you just meet, and they become part of your life for a while, either as a friend, a lover, a partner, and then they go out of your life.. you get on well, have a laugh, share some memories, good and bad, and then they walk out, because they are not meant to be in your life forever.. they are just people you happen to meet on your path.. and they teach you something.. whether it be not to associate yourself with people like that again, or maybe they teach you something good about yourself. and these lessons we take in, and use.. so when the other type of people, the people we are MEANT to meet, and made to have in our lives forever, when they come along.. we are prepared. for example, having ex's.. teaches you the rights, and wrongs in relationships, so when you meet your one, your soulmate.. you are ready.. i think friends are the same :)
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
Yes we should not take someone for granted coz it hurts when someone leaves you and its good to learn something from others .
• Philippines
25 May 11
I hope you can find true friend/s someday.
@thepank (201)
• India
25 May 11
Yes I am searching for some good friends :)
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
27 May 11
You right, friend. It's hard to find a good friend. There are many that called us friend but we don't know if they are real or not?
• Singapore
27 May 11
TO treat heart trust each other
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
26 May 11
All can be your friends in times of fun and laughters but with your own self reservations, it strictly holds you to be open in everything. You can not give your trust so easily even to your closest friend and so just have them to be your company that satisfy your being happy,that is having somebody around to kill time. You lose nothing if you keep your secret within yourself and you should not be sad because you can not find somebody that you can trust, just be with yourself to take time to entangle the load and pressures in so many other ways.
• China
26 May 11
Hi,pank!I almost lost all my good friends. I don't think there are good friends around us forever just because all the things around us are changing constantly.That is to say,as time has gone by,the friendship between two friends will change more or less,maybe he or she has had elitism and don't have to ask you for help,or doesn't want you to bother him or her,so the previous friendship and trust have disappeared gradually,and then you can't find the friends who you used to have.
• United States
26 May 11
People are so different these days so it does make it harder to find good friends. It's hard to know who to or not to trust these days. Luckily for me I still talk to and keep in touch with my childhood friends that I grew up with. We tell each other everything. Matter of fact were getting together tomorrow at the park so our kids can play while the adults chit chat since one of my friends is moving away the 3rd of June.
@amitgune (877)
• India
26 May 11
Thats the way life is. It is always easier to get the bad things and difficult to get the good ones.
@sanijas83 (270)
• Latvia
26 May 11
It is hard to find a good friend and sometimes it is not easy to maintain up relations with the friends one already has. I used to have a friend when I was at school, but then we went to study in different places, moved to another town. I wonder if distance breaks the relationship. Now we contact each other occasionally. Maybe it happens that friendship can grow through space and time, and friends who do not see often can still be on the same wavelength. The older I get the harder it seems to acquire new friends. Sometimes a friend betrays just when he or she moves to another town or country and forgets the ones he or she once used to be together.
• China
26 May 11
Wow this is really a meaningful question , I fully agree with your viewpoint, find a good friend is not easy. But in this word there still a lot of people can find good friend and even true love. this depends on your lucky and really out of your control. So my suggestion is : do not take care this so much and just followd god's arrange , in the meaning time you also need to make the opportunity to find new firend.
• Philippines
26 May 11
The best friend and the only true friend you can have is yourself. So finding a good friend outside yourself is but a futile endeavor. What is truly ideal is to just be yourself, let self-love radiate, and people will begin to feel your energy of love. and once they feel you, you become a magnet for good people to whom you can share your love with...so you dont search for friends, you just attract good people to you...and its all made possible because of your loving relationship with yourself.