Have you ever feel that sometimes money is just controlling you?
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
Pasay, Philippines
May 26, 2011 10:48pm CST
Not in terms of you can't wear the most expensive attire just because you don't have money. Or you can't travel around the world because you don't have the money.
The point here is that do you think the power of money is just controlling you? Like for example you can't argue with those people who are helping you in terms of financial that you even ignore their insulting remarks against you since they are helping you a lot in financial needs. Or example you are taking care of your parents that is already dying because you are waiting something from them. It could be also like a wife does not want to be separated with her husband even if they are already having troubles in marriage life because the wife does not have a work and she is only dependent to his husband's money. Vice versa the guy doesn't want to break his girlfriend even if he is already looking for other girls that he wants, just because he is also dependent to his girlfriend's money.
What are some cases that you think the money is controlling you even in just little ways?
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11 responses
@marvz023 (189)
• Philippines
27 May 11
i hate to say this but this is the absolute reality of life. everyone is controlled by money nowadays. your stature, your life, your future depends on those money. if you dont have much, then you are in deep deep trouble. if they dont depend on those money, might as well live on the streets and nobody wants to live on the streets.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
Thank you for the honest answer. But yeah we really need money. All people needs money even if they are rich, poor, charity institution, church and so on. Now the question is if how do they handle the money. Too bad many people are fighting because of this material and at times this is the one cause to break the relationship, marriages and family. Sometimes there are others who are willing to give up their dignity as person for the sake of money. And there are others that are being social climber that are basing it to the money.
@katweena29 (6)
• Canada
27 May 11
In my opinion, I think money is like the source of power right now cause universities in my place are ran mostly based on money. Like, i took summer classes this summer yet its not yet even half its semester, but the university is already opening its registration for september, and the heading of the flyer was like "pay your registration fee right now." Also, people go into "good" universities because they know they can get better jobs = better salary = money. I feel like these days we are just basically robots working for little or no money to survive T T;
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
That is normal that money can control our lives especially when it comes to education. But how does it affect us as a person. Like for example you are willing to be slave that people would hurt you physically and emotionally but you can't fight because of the money.
@kareemadivina (1230)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
I know of some people who are willing to be enslave because of money but I'm not one of them.I have always been a fighter and I always fight for what is right no matter who they think they are.
@rainbowink (296)
• Philippines
27 May 11
I work because it's what helps me survive in this world. Money is everything. However, many can argue that money can never buy true happiness, love and so on.
I do feel for people in those situations mentioned. Sometimes, we're trapped in situation due to, in our language (Filipino) "utang na loob" or debt of gratitude.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
I totally hate that thing about "UTANG NA LOOB" system. That is crap mentality. I agree that not all things money could really buy. Because we have to admit it that even rich people they are still encountering worst case problems. Especially here in our country we are facing too many complicated crimes almost everyday.
@moksha09 (467)
• India
28 May 11
The lack of money makes you meek and respectful to those who have financial control over you. You swallow slights and insults because you dare not show your dissent for fear of losing the financial security.
when you have surplus money you tend to be careless about how you behave with others and enjoy it when the others choose to suffer silently at your hands.
If you realize the evil that is residing within you can start to think how to tackle it. After that it is the action that you take or don't take that will determine your ascent as a spiritual person.
But the truth is the materialistic world forces us to subservient in front of money power. A spiritual person has power over his mind and body so power has little or no hold over him.
Thank you for starting a very meaningful and relevant discussion.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
Thank you for understanding and appreciating my post. Because that is true some people are being controlled because of money. Not to their lives but as a person already which indeed very wrong. Now I learned a lot from the observations to other people. There are times that I observed them that there mentality is just always basing to the money. For example they think they are respecting the person because of the money not because that person is something with integrity.
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
27 May 11
Yes indeed money is the key factor which decides every thing which you do or wish to do. If someone don't agree to it than he must be lying with himself. I know if you want to buy clothes then you need to check out your budget first you cannot spend more than your budget if you do so than you might have to cut something else.
I can say this because very soon my children will start going in school & here in DELHI the school fees is so high that it has become tougher for medium class person to get admit his child in a good school. Now i also will have to check with my budget & select a school which suits my pocket.
There are many instances where i have to compromise for the sake of money in life. Yes this is reality money is controlling every thing. Imagine now its been heard DIESEL rates are going to be increased very soon so what will happen rates of every basic things will get raised & now again we will have to compromise for the things to save money.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
I think I should have written the title if the money is controlling you as a person not in life. We really have to admit that we need money in our life. But sometimes it suffers as a person as well. Like for the example that I have stated even if the person who is insulting you like a hell indeed you don't want to argue with that person just because of money. Another example here is that some people tend to make a crime because they believe to themselves that they can pay anything so that they won't be put in jail. Worst case here is that they tend to kill other people because of money. As I also stated on my example the wife doesn't want to divorce her husband even if they are already in trouble not because they lack of money for annulment but because the wife is relying on her husband's money.@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
29 May 11
Metatronik this i think is not right. If wife is not happy & she know every thing about her husband then in any case she should not continue with the artificial relations with her husband.There is a law husband has to take financial responsibilities of his wife & children after divorce also therefore she should not afraid of the money if she get separated from her husband.
Its right she will suffer with many things after divorce but to carry on with broken relations has no meaning.
@kareemadivina (1230)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Money has indeed controlled us in some aspects of our life.We need money to travel, have a good education, to be healthy and stay beautiful.However, I think we should not let money control our lives completely.We should not let money ruin our marital relationships and personal relationships in general.We should not look at down people or boastful of how much we have, because everything is not permanent.We can have much money now and just lost it later; perhaps due to loss of job,illness,disability or catastrophes.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
Money should not control ourselves as a person to the extent that we have to give up our pride and dignity just because of money. There are other people who have been bragging of what they have since money can do lot of things but unfortunately it is only a temporary happiness. Are they also happy in terms of relationship within the family? 
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Well, to tell you the truth I wish I could experience some of that! I don't have enough money in my life though to worry about something like that. If someone is being nice to you and helping you out financially that doesn't give them the right to start critisising you and being all horrible about it. I would not accept that at all, I would much rather starve!
There are some very complex scenarios that you mention and I have no experience with any of them but agreed, in those types of situations it can be very difficult I suppose. As regards the very little money that I do have I am in control of this and it definitely does not control me! I carry out a weekly budget and so I know where I stand to the penny. I try to be as careful as possible in relation to spending money, things are difficult but I believe that I have to try my best to make the right decisions in terms of my finances. Andrew
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
Thanks for understanding my post Andrew. I remember that we have talking about our relatives in our country which is my cousin who is already married. There was a time that one of my Aunts have heard our Uncle and Aunt which indeed they are couples that told their daughter not to tolerate the verbal abuse of her husband since my cousin has her higher salary than her husband. Though as a family her husband is really rich indeed and no wonder why my cousin have married this man. Then I told my parents that there are things that money couldn't buy. And OH MY GOD! what a mentality and lame reason for my Aunt and Uncle of what they have told their daughter. It is so disappointing for them that they are involving the money. Where in fact if I am a parent I should have tell that my kid should not tolerate the verbal abuse of their spouse because it might affect their relationship in marriage and a husband or wife must respect each other as a person. DDUUUHHH!!!! What a heck that they can say those sensible things?
Then I told my parents that there are things that money couldn't buy. And OH MY GOD! what a mentality and lame reason for my Aunt and Uncle of what they have told their daughter. It is so disappointing for them that they are involving the money. Where in fact if I am a parent I should have tell that my kid should not tolerate the verbal abuse of their spouse because it might affect their relationship in marriage and a husband or wife must respect each other as a person. DDUUUHHH!!!! What a heck that they can say those sensible things?
@lou_is (665)
• India
27 May 11
Yes friend i have faced such situations with my friends. Because i have took money from him and i was unable to return it within the time. But after giving the money he started insulting me one than in other way. I used to tolerate his insults. Even i was unable to reply because i was in his curse. And i think yes may on that moment money was controlling me to say give reply to my friend. From that time i realized if i take money from some one then how the situation will be.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
So you mean you didn't fight back just because of the money? Well I think in some cases I am bit related to you. That just because of money I am not fighting back against the person.
@naija4real (1291)
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27 May 11
Money can not control me. I will control money. If money start control me then it means I am not an organized person. I do all I can to make sure that I have control over money.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
Thanks for understanding my post. 
We really need to give importance to ourselves as a person. We don't have the right to put down other people just because we are earning high salary in work.
We really need to give importance to ourselves as a person. We don't have the right to put down other people just because we are earning high salary in work.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
29 May 11
It is really important to us. That is the reason why we are working just because we need to earn. My question now here is how does the money controlling you as a person. Too bad I did not bother to make clarification on my post and topic title.
