Is it ok to keep your "single" friends at a distance when...

it depends on your perception actually but I actually felt welcomed by my happily married friends and we shared so much despite them being married and I kept my single friends close even when I got married and I am glad that I did as now all of them are married and we all have strong bonds to share and we rely on each others for ranting out and sharing joys and sorrows of parenting , marriage and so on. Friends complete you and more the merrier your life will be.

When one gets into a committed relationship, it is healthy to make the transition from the single life. Your single friends, if their truly your friends, should understand this. Of course there is nothing wrong with a girl's night out. But when you do it with single friends, you may find yourself in situations that you would perhaps want to avoid. As far as telling what goes on in the relationship, its not any of their business. I won't kiss and tell.

I do not feel this way about my friends who are single. Whenever they ask about my relationship i tell them about it and i don not feel they have a different mindset than mine. These friends i an talking about are my friends since college and most of them are single but they are very logical people and are always the first people i go to when i have problems.

Hi JJohnson, I'm very private when it comes to relationships and do not talk about it with my friends. I think too much talking to others rather than the person you are involved with can cause more problems than it helps. Other than that though, I do not keep my friends at a distance....I'm still a good friend to them and spend time with them and all and it doesn't matter either way to me if they are single or in a relationship...it's all the same.

First of all I think you are very mature in your way of thinking. Single people are apt to do or say things that are not appropriate for people to be doing that are in a committed relationship. And your partner could hear back or see things that shouldn't be going on.I don't think it is wrong of you to feel this way but I am sure your friend is curious. I would just change the subject. A with it person will get the idea.

Well, it is not unusual for people to distance themselves from their group of friends when in a relationship. But, you should at least spend some time with your friends to keep up with what's going on and to prevent you from becoming too clingy and needy to your man. If your friend asks what's going on, maybe they're just curious about what's going on with you. That's what friends do, right? If they ask, you don't need to spill your guts and tell them every detail about your relationship. Little casual things will do. :)

I think it's necessary to keep our single friends and still enjoy them, whether in a relationship or not. Too often I see people 'losing themselves' while in a relationship, and our 'sisters' of friendship keep us true to who we are. My friendship circle has an equal number of married women, as well as single women. This one woman disappears each and every time she's in a relationship, and the only time we ever hear from her is when that relationship doesn't work out: and then it's back to the old girlfriends. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad she's happy. But when the only time she wants anything to do with us is when she's single, then to me it seems more like a friendship of opportunity. I'm not the only one in the group who feels that way either. It's one thing to distance the single friends a little bit, but it's a whole other deal to completely ignore them and make them feel like they don't matter anymore. I don't think I'd be offended if one of my single bff's asked me about my relationship, heck, I'd be flattered that they cared. Of course, that would depend too on what kinds of questions they were asking, some things are way too private within a relationship to be shared with others. One of the truest things I ever heard was: men (relationships) may come and go in our lives , but girlfriends are there forever no matter what.

I have been happily married for 40 years and my wife and I still have some of our own friends. I see nothing wrong with her going out to visit her friends or my going to visit my friends. We have friends in different parts of the state so we do not get to see them all that often. Keep in contact with them. I have known people who have lost a spouse and are at a loss because they have no friends of their own, all their friends were joint friends who don't always have time to take on a third person.

I don't think its right to distance from your friends, if they are true friends. for some people friends are just people they hang out with. for others they are like an extension of family. I don't have many friends, but the friends I have mean a great deal to me. I know I can rely on them, and they can rely on me. if I cut them off because I was in a relationship, I would not be being a good friend to them.

It depends.. But then i notice that when a single person gets into a relationship tend to spend less time with their friends. I guess its because when you are in a relationship, you spend time with that person to learn and explore things together to make the relationship work. Unfortunately the relationship with friends suffer. I think its okay JJohnson that you keep some limits with your friends but then dont put an end to it. Friends are the family you choose =) and we need a breather from our intimate relationships once in a while. If your single friends ask you about you and your man, it would be nice if you will tell them that things are okay without spilling much details about it. Dont feel offensive if they ask you such question, they are not prying or something. They maybe want to know that you are happy and okay. I guess a nice and polite answer would make them feel comfortable. If they gets too prying, then tell them that you rather keep things in private. If they really are your friends, they will surely respect your view.

I think it is "normal" for friends who are in new relationships to distance themselves away from their friends. It is part of life to have friends, but for most people it is also part of life to meet someone. It is possible to keep both in your life. Most of my friends are married or are in relationships, and I am happy for them. I am not "unhappy" because I am not currently in a relationship. When I am in a relationship, I spend time with my boyfriend, but I also set aside time away from my boyfriend for girlfriends, family, and ME. It is important to keep friends outside of our intimate relationships, and you know who your true friends are because they will be there for you when your boyfriend makes you sad or leaves you. Boyfriends will come and go, husbands may come and go, but girlfriends are there until the end.

I'm in the same boat as you to me i only let the ones i trust my life to around my bf, two years ago i use to be firend with this girl and i was single i was find with being single and she had a bf it was cool i didn't like him like that and even if i did i would never do anything like that. I don't do suff that i would want done to me she would all the time make little commants about her haveing a bf and me being single that pissed me off cus i didn't care for her bf he was ugly and a jerck. so i was o the bus one day and thats how i meet the f i'm with now. the bf i'm with now we meet when i was still firends with her and when he and i were first dateing she didn't say anything in tell i show her his pic and she said he was cute. ever seicne then she would you say you should breack up with him and i'm like wtf he didn't any thing and you haven't even meet him, she would call me in the middle of the night asking me if he called her cause she had a missed called i was like wtf he don't know you and don't have your number i always have my phone. she was one of those people that like people being jeouce of her and was mad that she was jelouse of me, she told me lots of times that my bf looked better then hers. so its not all single people that do that cause she had a bf and tryed to get him. i end the friendship for that and other suff she was doing. sorry about the spelling i can't spell

I am single for a long time too but I am happy and never think that the moment one of my friends will have a relationship I will feel miserable. I think it is not good to distance yourself from your friends just because you are in a relationship now, try to get in touch with them, real good friends are more valuable, in the event that you and your boyfriend will be in the trying times there's no one to turn to to share your anxieties and troubles than your friends. It is very difficult to survive without friends. Your concept of having a "different state of mind" might not be the same concept breathing by your friends.

You should always spend the same amount of time with your single friends. If you don't, hostility grows and they will feel you have become a different person. Involve your significant other in their life. They will appreciate that and it will be a great opportunity for them to make a new friend!

I am single and I know that it can be hard to be friends with people who are not single. I was in a relationship a few years ago that caused me to alienate a lot of my friends. Once the relationship ended, I was lucky to get those friends back. I have a wonderful group of friends. Some of them are in relationships and some are single. Maybe you should have some of your single friends over for dinner or something. They might just need to get to know your man a little better before they will realize that you are serious. Hang in there girlfriend! :)