Everyone should fall in love.
By shibham
@shibham (16977)
India
June 6, 2011 3:50am CST
Everyone should fall in love. Now, i have learnt it from a friend's current actions. He married a girl on last 13th may and now we had a soft distance. A hidden truth of mine that i am about to confess. I have been drinking alcohol for last 5-6 years almost without missing a day. He was the partner of my evening time on maximum days But from his marriage, he is far long away from my table and have not taken a drop of alcohol. I asked why? he said... i have gained all the love from her and thats why i have lost my interest on alcohol....oh great, congratulations
He almost avoided after fixing the marriage ( arrange marriage)... He also told that once you fall in love, you will be sincere on yourself, your living style, attitude, routine everything will be changed. You will not stare at a girl... hahaha... how much true?
Now, i realize, why i have been taking alcohol and pushing myself to death?
If i would be in a relationship, would i drink? His answer... never... love has a special power and it can conquer all. His polite suggestion... " fall in love and watch this life with a different attitude... the life is full of happiness if you are in love" Hmmmmm.... is it true?
Well, i wish to live a long life and avoid drinking. Save me. I have tried several times to avoid but still unable. If love works in such a way, then i should fall in love....
Where is my love????????????
He almost avoided after fixing the marriage ( arrange marriage)... He also told that once you fall in love, you will be sincere on yourself, your living style, attitude, routine everything will be changed. You will not stare at a girl... hahaha... how much true?
Now, i realize, why i have been taking alcohol and pushing myself to death? If i would be in a relationship, would i drink? His answer... never... love has a special power and it can conquer all. His polite suggestion... " fall in love and watch this life with a different attitude... the life is full of happiness if you are in love" Hmmmmm.... is it true?
Well, i wish to live a long life and avoid drinking. Save me. I have tried several times to avoid but still unable. If love works in such a way, then i should fall in love....
Where is my love????????????6 people like this
16 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Jun 11
Hi mamu 
A late realization no doubt... but they say it is better late than never. I am so very happy for you that you realize this. We had been trying to tell you the same for so many days now. I am sure me, your bhabi(my wife) and many at mylot will be happy reading this and finding the change.
But just a word of caution - Do Not Lose Hope and Faith on whatever has changed you. I too was on the same lines as you until I met her in 2005-6 and that really changed me entire outlook for life.
As for where is your love - there are so many you already love - your passion to write, your passion to be a good son for your parents. Yes, I know you are looking for someone else and not these but hey, you still have time and already have a few great friends. The right one will appear soon.
A late realization no doubt... but they say it is better late than never. I am so very happy for you that you realize this. We had been trying to tell you the same for so many days now. I am sure me, your bhabi(my wife) and many at mylot will be happy reading this and finding the change.
But just a word of caution - Do Not Lose Hope and Faith on whatever has changed you. I too was on the same lines as you until I met her in 2005-6 and that really changed me entire outlook for life.
As for where is your love - there are so many you already love - your passion to write, your passion to be a good son for your parents. Yes, I know you are looking for someone else and not these but hey, you still have time and already have a few great friends. The right one will appear soon. 1 person likes this
@shibham (16977)
• India
12 Jun 11
Why suspicious mamu?
I have realized but not fallen yet.
oh... great then, i mean you have showed this discussion to bhabi too? fine.
You are lucky and thats why i asked bhabi about her sister and both of you supposed to tell me about a cousin, but where are she?
Waiting waiting and waiting for the right one but you all are my beloved who have changed at least many aspects of my life.
have a nice day.
I have realized but not fallen yet. oh... great then, i mean you have showed this discussion to bhabi too? fine.
You are lucky and thats why i asked bhabi about her sister and both of you supposed to tell me about a cousin, but where are she?
Waiting waiting and waiting for the right one but you all are my beloved who have changed at least many aspects of my life.
have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
dear shiby,
Now you are asking "where is love" ?
Asks first "where is GOD" -because GOD is LOVE and LOVE is GOD!
I assure you...you will be a new man once you fall in love
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
@ visavis,
Hahahaha...you really made me laughed with my eyes twinkling like this 
i am a good girl and my "dad" knows that
i am a good girl and my "dad" knows that 
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
17 Jun 11
Yes my dear friend, from the time you fall in love you are presented with a wondrous opportunity to change your life easily. Of course you can change anything at any time but it is NOT easy to commit to such trials. However when love for another is guiding you and the two of you are in perfect synergy then you can do anything, change anything, achieve anything. The reality is that you must keep the love alive to be able to accomplish all you want to do.
@shibham (16977)
• India
21 Jun 11
Hi Tickle..
I have no experience on love and this will be my first love and i will like to continue it for good. next to it... if she is able to change me, i never refuge her suggestions and will be ready to change myself holding her caring hands. I do hope that one day, she will come to my life....
have a nice day.
have a nice day.
@vandana7 (98989)
• India
6 Jun 11
Shiby ...I asked Mayavati to send her photographs...when she was young. 
Actually Amma (Jayalalitha) was quite good looking when she was young, and right now..she doesnt look bad except for all that flab.
I am searching for some more...may be Mamata Banerjee..
Pity Priyanka Gandhi married before you came to this conclusion. 
Actually Amma (Jayalalitha) was quite good looking when she was young, and right now..she doesnt look bad except for all that flab.
I am searching for some more...may be Mamata Banerjee..
Pity Priyanka Gandhi married before you came to this conclusion. 
@vandana7 (98989)
• India
12 Jun 11
Oh I have lots of guys I fell in and out of love with. Started with Clarke Gable, and right now..you wont believe it, my pet would Prannoy Roy. I am ok with Rajdeep Sardesai as well, or Senthil Chengalvarayan. Udayan Mukherjee is too smart for me. Its a long list. Jackie Chan is there too in that list.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
6 Jun 11
Shiby, your friend spoke the truth about love.
It changes you for the better.
No worries, you will find your love when you least expect it.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Tequila
CHEERS Dear
Looking around where is mom? 
CHEERS Dear
Looking around where is mom? 1 person likes this
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
hi,
that's true,and i believe that real love can conquer every thing in the world,because its magic and power,but sometimes it will be the cause why there are many people who are problematic and depress because of this love,so that sometimes other dont wanted to fall in love again.
@shibham (16977)
• India
6 Jul 11
Hi asilah...
same things happened to me too... i had no believe on love and i stated here why and what was the cause but as per the experiences of my friend and his thinkings...now i am guessing that there may have some power to motivate a person. have a nice day.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Jun 11
These are some interesting concepts and ways to look at things, because personally I can say that when you fall in Love and get married your outlook on life a lot of times does change as your needs. You now have someone in your life who cares about you, and wants the Best for you. They are there to work with you through anything you may go thru and encourage you in other ways as well. But your drinking could stem from other issues you may want to look into more as well.
@shibham (16977)
• India
14 Jun 11
Hi dear friend..
You are absolutely right. After marriage a person has to face more responsibilities and thats why he needs to change himself to some extend. here is a point too that the wife should take care of him and love. I am agree here too that in case of avoiding some habits... the will power of a person works a lot.
Have a nice day.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
7 Jun 11
You know what, I want to literally fall in love too after I read your discussion. I want change my life, and want to be great on myself too. I don't want to be lazy anymore, and I want to do something great, someone I can look forward to. Someone who smiles on me, and I can smile back with sunshine. Love definitely can conquer all. Where is my love too?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Had you been with a girlfriend, you wouldn't be drinking that much everyday of your life. You would have been busy visiting her on those evenings you are drinking instead.
I guess, when a man falls in love and gets married, they feel responsible. It's because having a family of their own is now their goal. Besides, there's the wife to go home to , after work.
@shibham (16977)
• India
12 Jun 11
yes, i am also thinking that and have written to zandi on previous page that i get bored in the evening as i have no friend to gossip and really live myself.
Its also a matter that responsibilities increases when a person comes to knot.
have a nice day.
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@MsPatriciaDV (636)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I believe your friend. Love really changes people from the inside out. It comes automatically when you are truly in love.
Another concrete example? My boyfriend (we're 6 years and counting now) is a really hard-core playboy and an effortless creature. Not to brag about it, but when he got me (and I don't even know why I've fallen for him. True love is love without reasons!), he stopped playing around and flirting with girls and concentrated to become a one-woman man. He also pushed himself hard to attain something in life, which is a miracle for someone who seemed to love just going with the flow without putting any efforts.
You will find yours soon. Don't give up. There is a saying that positive thoughts attracts positive circumstances and negative chi with negative things. So if I think if you want love, feel it flowing in your veins and love will come running after you.
@shibham (16977)
• India
12 Jun 11
Hi friend...
Love is not to search it comes spontaneously and that happened to you as you fell in love where as you claim that he was a playboy and effortless person. but here i would like to say that the love should be trustworthy and same beloved lady... i mean after marriage, if the bride seems so careless to me, then nothing will work for me. Have a nice day.
@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 11
don't think if love just betwen man and woman. people with their job, people with their coutry, and people with their faith, that was love too. love is universal. if you wanna find a girl, and falling love with her, you will find that match with your heart, not because her face or her job.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
6 Jun 11
Hi shibham,
If you build another Titanic and sail in the sea it would sail unless it his a glacier. What you got? Careful and not over confident.
And see that friend of yours who is with his with his fair arms would be back on the table and look for you. He might not come if he has built up Herculean strength and Casablanca promise but if it is other way round you would laugh both at your friend and love.
Wait and tell me....
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Haha,be patient amigo,I believe each and every one of has has its own love for life.
Yes,love can do wonders..even a playboy can become a one-woman man when he fell in love.
I guess you will just know the answer when you fall in love amigo but don't rush okay,haha! Just let your heart fall in love with someone but not with your lady that is already married huh! Hehe!
See yah!
Yes,love can do wonders..even a playboy can become a one-woman man when he fell in love.
I guess you will just know the answer when you fall in love amigo but don't rush okay,haha! Just let your heart fall in love with someone but not with your lady that is already married huh! Hehe!
See yah!