Why do they say fall in love and not rise in love? It sounds so ominous..

@vandana7 (93674)
India
June 7, 2011 2:40am CST
Kind of strange, dont you think? Does it mean love will now take hold of you and make you do wrong things or foolish things? Conversely does it imply that those who dont love are always doing right things or wise things? And I do love a small 2 year old girl out here. Would that also be falling in love? * to me love is..thinking about a person for considerable period of time during waking hours and such thoughts are essentially positive and desirable.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
7 Jun 11
"fall in love" is an idiomatic usage ;Isn't it Vandana? So you cannot take it literally and talk about 'rising in love' or’ falling' in love unless you are just trying to jest with it. If we are just going to joke about it then you can have many interpretations saying that 1] 'love' is likely bring a lot of hurt and complication and so it can be likened to 'falling ' in love .A person who falls is likely to sustain physical injury .Here there is likely to be some emotional injury. 2 A person who falls , sometimes never rises Similarly , a person who 'falls' in love is never likely to rise again. His life is doomed. 3A person who ‘falls’ can manage to rise slowly and can get back to normal again. It can happen in love too. Whatever be the quixotic interpretation it only would stem from the underlying theory that ‘the course of love never did run smooth’. So, to conclude , do not take an idiomatic usage literally. There are different kinds of love and we can only understand the meaning form the context.” Falling ‘in love does not refer to affection shown to parents or children .However, at times we do exaggerate and say “I just fell in love with the flower vase when I saw it” I agree with your interpretation of 'love' though sometimes we may not spend most of our waking moments thinking of another person.But it would be true in a broader sense .
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• India
8 Jun 11
Great and well researched information sister kala I had no idea about this too, i thought we say 'fallen' because it is kind of 'surrender' for a woman particularly. Thank you so much for sharing in details Namastey. ^Kalyani^
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@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
Kala that is simply great information! @kalyniji ..I have to agree. :)
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
8 Jun 11
Thanks a lot Kalyaniji and Vandana , a very big 'thank you' for the BR.
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I wouldn't know about that. I guess it's a slang. Falling in love might mean that your insides are like falling from where they are. You feel that they're tingling inside you like they're falling apart, just a wild guess.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
7 Jun 11
It is not a slang frontvisions; it is an idiomatic usage. Don't we have many others like "fall through", 'fall in line", 'fall out'? it must also be in the same category.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Okay then.
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@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
That was a funny explanation for sure..wonder if those who are in love right now would really appreciate it though. @kala..I presumed it to be one of those things in English that are hard to explain. But thanks for your explanation. You did take a lot of pains to find that one out. :)
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Jun 11
Dear Vandanaji I have had a similar thought and I felt it was always wise to take love as it comes, as it makes me do, as it makes me feel, as it makes me live I have always believed in love to be a power - to me, it has given me direction, desire, aim, objective, a sense of safety, sense of security, a feeling of being pampered... Gosh! the list seems endless and no where I can see that I fail or fall or even have the need to. It is like what you say - "About walking and thoughts that are really so positive, healthy and yes so very desirable and needed" For the headline - "Fall In Love" - Someone failed to understand love, its power and sulked - I fell And as we normally follow the wrong things, this became a statement and now it seems it is the latest trend... But I never agree with this as I always feel, Love is something that will always show you the path to success, happiness and all the good things in life. Loved this one
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
Kiddo..I am so glad for you. And because of whatever you say, I am beginning to like your wifey a lot. She must be something to have this much of power. Do remember next time you come to this part of world, you and your family would stay with us. Our flat is small, but our hearts are not. And I would love guinea pigs. :)
@besthope44 (12124)
• India
7 Jun 11
Hi Vandana, Thats a good thought. I would go with two, fall in love first and then rise in love and thats how life goes more lovely. You made to think about it, creative thinker you are.!!
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@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
It is a bit confusing thought actually. If love is sublime, and if love is superior, then it should be up and not down. So how can we fall in it, we should be rising isn't it? But then, kala does have the right reason, and I cant argue with that. :) Thanks for the compliment though. :)
• United States
7 Jun 11
HI vandy, I would only assume as I really have not given it much thought, that fall in love is like an action or affect. See fall down is an action and affect, therefor, falling in love is an action and affect. Rise would mean continual growth of the love, is how I see it. When one falls on the grown one must rise up to attend the pain and wound right, so when one falls in love one has to rise up and continue to flourish the love.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
That is truly a blond answer sweetie.. Kala found the actual meaning. Tell me what is equivalent of fall in love in your language. And tell me whether it also means the same. I am just curious.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
12 Jun 11
There is difference in Being in love and falling in love. The whole of Europe is obsessed with falling in love I suppose.. And this hug is especially for you because you are a blond.
• United States
8 Jun 11
"fall in love in your language" Here is the Spanish Translations: enamorarse equivalent to fall in love Also in Spanish verb form" 1. estar enamorado = equivalent to Being in love 2. amelcocharse = equivalent to fall in love 3. encampanarse = equivalent to fall in love
@moksha09 (467)
• India
9 Jun 11
To the bachelor who is getting married we say 'welcome to the ditch' and to the person who dares to love we say he/she is falling in love, obviously.
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@vandana7 (93674)
• India
12 Jun 11
If love and marriage are that undesirable..why are those things still there..
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
8 Jun 11
Hi vandana, I think fell in love and love a child is not the same thing. 'Fell in love' occurs between a man and a woman. To love a child is affection. Parents love for their children is also affection. Similarly we love our mother and father. Love is a feeling. It differs from person to person. When a man and woman fell in love each other then we can say they have relationship of both body and mind. In this love there is a biological touch.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
I may differ with you here. Parent's love for child is true love. It expects nothing in return..normally. The kind of love I feel for that child is also something like that. Her smile makes me feel so good. Puts me in better frame of mind. She is expecting nothing from me, nor do I expect any reciprocation of my feelings from her. Unlike this, the love between adult male and female seems to be more of a barter system, do you love me, how much, if you love me do this, cant you do this much for me, do this for my sake, blah blah..
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
you are so funny, V. your question is sensible but somehow it amuses me. fall in love is an idiom that simply tells to love somebody or be enamored with somebody. i have now realized that there idioms that could be as funny.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
9 Jun 11
Me too .... I think opposite though..if you love someone you must criticize her ...if you don't love her you will sing love words ...I know that's funny ..working on that.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
12 Jun 11
I guess..I am funny..hope that is not an idiom as well. @zed..are you sure you are from Planet earth...may be times have changed since Shakespeare's era..you know Romeo used to stand near the window and sing those love words..which people memorize today becoz it just doesnt come from heart..
@bounce58 (17392)
• Canada
7 Jun 11
It does sound ominous! Maybe love is really somewhere below that people have to really fall to get to that level of being "in love". And maybe that's why when people get out of relationships, they learn to 'pick themselves up'. To get up to the level where 'right things or wise things' dwell.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
I knew somebody would find my reasoning not so odd..:) Was just wondering..but Kala has searched the net to get the exact reason, and she does seem to be right. Which makes me wonder whether they say fall in love in every European language..
@jennyze (7030)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 11
Ah, still pondering with English... To love is everything... it can make you do the good things and it can make you do the wrong things, too.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
Oh jenn I badly want to master English..even at this stage of my life. :)
@jennyze (7030)
• Indonesia
9 Jun 11
There's no problem with that. Only that sometimes you were funny in your way of asking and trying to get the answers. I always think that we could never know why they say this or that because it relates to their way of thinking, their culture and their views in expressing themselves. I always say to others who learn languages that you need to learn the culture and the way people think and express themselves to learn a language better. So I never asked why...
@akp100 (13643)
• India
7 Jun 11
May be directly falling is good instead of falling after rising.... Just a joke. I don't think love will make you do wrong or foolish things. (unless it is one sided (not in all cases)) It is a good thing which makes things better then before.
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
Really? Have you ever been in love akp? And more important, are things better for you after falling in love..
@akp100 (13643)
• India
9 Jun 11
Not much difference....
@Jinrai (28)
• Netherlands
8 Jun 11
What can I say? I stumble upon awkward things in language frequently. But, I agree with you. It has a negative ring to it :)
@vandana7 (93674)
• India
8 Jun 11
I knew I stumbled upon something..and discovered something as great as Archemedes..