I'll feed anyone who comes to my door
@Masihi (4413)
Canada
June 7, 2011 12:15pm CST
That's who I am, really. I was raised in a "polite society" home, and my foster mother was a pretty darned good hostess. She always had food available for her guests, no matter who they are. And she was always offering them drinks of any kind, from wine to beer (she doesn't drink beer but often buys some for some guests) to coffee to tea - anything.
I'm the same way, except that I can't afford cases of beer, haha, but I will share my vodka and wine if I have it in the fridge.
I'll serve anyone, and I have done so repeatedly. Now, I"m on welfare, definitely not polite society, LOL! But even if I have a social worker coming over, or my children's itinerant teacher, our Reverend - and this may sound foolish, but I've even offered refreshments to children's aid workers (child protection) - when they called to investigate an allegation. I'd have the table cleared off with tea and some of my home baked goodies on a nice plate.
I suppose I'm kinda strange that way. Sometimes I think refreshment is good on my part because it gives me something to do with my hands (I get anxious quite a bit), and I do know they help ease the atmosphere, and also, it's simple common courtesy.
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@fantasticbabe (981)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
well your very kind and not choose any visitor whom you only like to be serve. that is a good attitude but somehow it get abuse. so be very careful you may encounter those arrogant and think you are his servant not a good host. your job is good you help other people especially children. so you are motivated to do it as long as you feel happy that still alight.
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Jun 11
It does give me pleasure to see people enjoy my food and hospitality, but yes, in this day and age, it's really sad that people do abuse the kindness of good people. I don't expect to get anything when I visit others' places, but then again, a lot of people do, unfortunately. Then again, I'm not going to worry about it either. I offer refreshments partly so that I can have an excuse to "fiddle" with my cup or something in my hands, as I tend to give in to my anxiety disorder, and so I do like to be a little bit busy serving as well as talking, it sounds strange, but it actually helps calm me down somewhat.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
That's very hospitable of you Masihi. Keep it up.
Though, sometimes we should also be discerning of the people we talk and entertain. There are people who would come to you and be entertained and will come again for the 2nd, 3rd and nth time. When that happens, i hope you will know how to shoo them away. 
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Jun 11
Yes, you do have a valid point there, and we have done that to a few people, not just the food part, but they come up to complain all about their problems, and my husband put his foot down and told them that he wanted to spend happy times with them, and they got really upset and didn't come anymore.
@GardenGerty (169530)
• United States
8 Jun 11
Hospitality is evidently one of your gifts, and you enjoy practicing it. I very seldom have people over, but I am known for my good cooking and I also love to share meals with those from the church who are sick. I go so far as to get disposable pans, so that they do not have to worry about getting things returned to me quickly. On a hot day a nice cold beverage is perfect and the same on cold days with hot beverages.
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
8 Jun 11
If I was hosting a party I would give people plates of leftover sweets to take home on a Styrofoam plate just because I don't want the extra stuff laying around, lol. Of course they appreciate it, too! :-D
@anklesmash (1412)
•
7 Jun 11
I come from a familly and know a lot of people that arent wealthy or polite society but treat their guests really well, people who come even if it is my mums mortgage adviser are offered at least a coffee its simply good manners.I have an Aunty and Uncle who take this to the extreme she tries to give you at least one meal plus tea biscuits and cake.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
7 Jun 11
Hehe, well that is a bit extreme, yes, although I have offered a piece of cake a few times :-p LOL
It's strange, we just give what we have and we never go without - talk about good karma :-D
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
7 Jun 11
It has been my common practice whether I had a lot or a little. Generally anyone entering my door is immediately offered a beverage and something to eat. I also insist if they refuse. Though I won't force them it is just my gracious way of offering them something no matter what time of the day it is. 
Actually too in my culture, you are considered rude if you do not offer. Though I am not one to speak badly of anyone who does not offer me anything as I am one to always plan my meals prior to going out anywhere. But the elders in my culture will always consider one rude if they are not offered something, even if they refuse it they still feel they should have been offered. lol
I am like you and find that it is simply common courtesy to offer.
Actually too in my culture, you are considered rude if you do not offer. Though I am not one to speak badly of anyone who does not offer me anything as I am one to always plan my meals prior to going out anywhere. But the elders in my culture will always consider one rude if they are not offered something, even if they refuse it they still feel they should have been offered. lol
I am like you and find that it is simply common courtesy to offer. 1 person likes this
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
7 Jun 11
Hehe, then you're definitely my kinda friend I'd love to have over! :-D Truth be told, I do get particular delight seeing people enjoy my goodies, just gives me this warm feeling inside and a boost of pride knowing that they love my cooking/baking.
