Does long distance relationship work?

Philippines
June 8, 2011 11:52pm CST
I am in a 5-year relationship with someone who is 6832.43 miles from me. We have sustained the distance in our relationship for five years. Sometimes I feel like the longer the time that I get to see that person again, the farther we are, the more I am dying inside. I do not know what is in that person why I chose to get my heart attached still. Love? Yes I do love that person so much. Sometimes, with my eagerness to feel my baby's touch, lips, warm skin, I instead found myself reaching for my pillow. Distance. That's what sets us apart. Physical presence. That's what we don't have. It is of good relief that my baby will soon see me in September. That I cannot wait. I am in so much zest right now thinking of that to happen. What I fear now is the thought when my baby will have to go back 6832.43 miles away from me. Pearls of tears now slowly falling down my cheeks. What a cry baby I am! LOL
13 responses
• United States
9 Jun 11
wow...first i must salute you to be able to maintain 5 year long distance relationship. it is not an easy thing to do. i used to have this kind of relationship, but it only lasted for 3 months!! LOL... the simple problem: i didn't text for 2 days and she was so angry that she broke up our relationship. well, i think i must learn from you now how to sustain it for long time. is there any possibility for you to go to a place where your girl is? and to stay with her there as long as she lives there.
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Thanks for the response. there is indeed a possibility of me to go there. But it requires thorough planning and money. It is so far from where I am. Eruope_Asia. That is the distance. This September, that person will be going here in the Philippines to visit me yet again. I am damn excited. :D :D
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
My parents had a long distance relationship..and they're currently having that now. it just depends on how you cope up with the distance.. The most important thing is contact and honest, and trust too- you should talk to each otehr daily and share what's happening in your life.. There's skype too.
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Thanks lady1993. Your example brings forth joy and inspiration to my heart. It is amazing how your parents coped with it but it is truly so nice to know. Yes, skype works. I don't know what will happen to this relationship without the advent of technology! Cheers to YAHOO MESSENGER AND SKYPE!!! hehehehe LOL
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Oh you are such a darling. I salute you for withstanding that 5-year long distance relationship. It's rare to see couples holding on despite of the distance. It's always been out of sight out of mind to most, but i still believe that no matter how far a couple is from each other, as long as their love for each other is there and they know how to keep the flame going, it can still succeed. Don't think of the time that you will depart from each other again as this will only bring sadness to you. Rather look forward to the day that you will meet each again and make each second worth while.
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Thanks toniganzon. You are correct. It is how I enjoy the moment that I am with that person that matters. The distance is nothing to the happiness and joy that I am with that person once we see each other again. No greater distance could tantamount to the stringent love that we have. Thanks again, toniganzon. But I hope I will not have to endure another 5-years with this relationship. It is high time to settle, I guess?? hehe
@Gaurav2d (29)
• India
9 Jun 11
are you in regular contact,do you have photos,pictures,videos,emails,files,communicate over PC regularly,well then do not worry,stay calm.
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
wow, your such a patience guy and willing to wait, well it is very long for 5 years not to see your love ones, maybe that Love can do...... well for me i have before a long distance relationship for almost 4 years,before it is working because he was in ship, sometimes in the middle of nowhere, we could had communication only if he was in port.So for almost 4 years he always called me,every month, every weeks, every other country he was going....I thought it would work-out like that, but some of my co-worker's told me long distance relationship would not be work out unless you have continued communication, and you should put your trust on that person...I also heard a lot of long distance relationship some of them succeed, but most of them seperated....I really admired that kind person that are willing to wait no matter how long the time, how hard it is....to end my stories, my long distance relationship was ended because after 1 year we don't have communication, he never called me again, and i never had a news about him, so i get married 2008, and also him he got married 2010....my advice to you is that you should be strong and put your trust in GOD....hope to see you your loved ones...
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
I am in a four years and four months relationship before he left to his place we always go out a lot together and watching his basketball games.We are distant for about 2 years already but still we manage to call& texts everyday.Sometimes we chatted through yahoo messenger.Base on my experience we manage our relationship to keep on working through continue communicating with each other though I can't feel his presence physically but I can still feel that he is still there for me no matter what happen even the both of us were distant.
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
First off, welcome to myLot frept. Yes, long distance relationship does work. There are a lot of people who have been successfully married and guess what, their relationship starts from long distance. In this relationship, patience and trust are needed. If trust is lost, then everything is lost. I believe you have a good and strong relationship. With a 5-year relationship, that is something that you need to be proud of. You really deserve that girl and she also deserves you. I hope everything would really go well at your end with your girlfriend. Happy mylotting!
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
the girl is lucky to have you. don't shed a tear over something that has not happened yet. focus on the event where you and your love will come to see each other again. entertaining thoughts other than that will loose your focus on making the day unforgettable for her.
@moirai (2842)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I think long distance relationships can work. Just like it is working for you right now. It really depends on the two people involved. It takes a lot of work, patience, understanding... but it can work. Hopefully, it's only temporary, and eventually the time will come that you two can permanently close that distance. =)
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Hi frept, WELCOME TO MYLOT! You already have the answer to your question. FOR a 5 YEARS you had a relationship far from you! IT REALLY WORKS! You give us the answer to that question. We admire both of your partner being LOYAL to each other. Stay TRUST and MOST IMPORTANTLY BE B-E-H-A-V-E! GOD BLESS
@leigabs (40)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Awww... I feel you! I'm currently in a long distance relationship too. Though not as far as yours. We're still in the same country though different region. We chose the setup because of our careers. I have my work here that pays well in the city, though I can consider relocating (maybe in the future) and he has his own there. We each need to make sacrifices I think. You just need to trust each other.
@SAMKAT (91)
9 Jun 11
believe me there are scammers in this world of internet so just avoid sharing secrets with him/her
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
It really depends on the couple. If there is a constant open line of communication, which is provided by technology, and a lot of discipline for both individuals, it can work. I really don't have any experience with that, but probably if both individuals are mature enough, things can work out just right.