will you allow your girlfriend or boyfriend?!

You cannot control another person or a situation. Yes you are being paranoid. What are you so afraid of? Love is not control, love is complete trust. You are being insecure and you need to examine your feelings to find out why you are insecure. I will leave you with two quotes from one of my favorite authors Dr. Wayne Dyer. "Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you." "It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized."

Your girlfriend has a job. She is required to participate in team building regarding her job. There is no reason you should be allowed to go along. The company pays for their employees to attend these seminars. Those other employees will not bring their partners, spouses, etc., either. You are definitely being paranoid -- and you are showing absolutely no trust or respect for your girlfriend. Do you think because she is away from you for two days that she cannot conduct herself appropriately? You need to give her some credit. She is going to a WORK-RELATED event... she's not out partying at a club or something. I see from your profile that you are very young. I'm sorry and don't mean to offend you but you need to develop some maturity with regard to relationships. You do not own your girlfriend. She is an individual in her own right and she has responsibilities that simply do not include you. Wish her good luck and success at her team building and let her do what she has to do. You will see her in two short days.

Yes, I think you are being a little paranoid. If your girlfriend is going to a team building, then it will be a professional setting somehow. Plus, there are a lot of them there so I don't think one guy could do something bad. As for temptations, you said yourself that you trust your girlfriend, so why worry about temptations? You must allow your girlfriend to join the team building because, first of all, it is required. You wouldn't want your girlfriend to lose her job, right? Secondly, it's just for 2 days, so relax. Your girlfriend is old enough to know what's right or wrong and she's old enough to look out for herself.

it is TEAM BUILDING rhejans! lol not some outing, i did allow my husband when they had team building and i also do not know all but it is WORK lol..

What are you afraid off? do you trust her? you either do or you don't! or are just to scare to spend 2 days without her? and what do you mean when you say "to let her go without me?" wow man get a grip on your self! I'm sure she can look after her self very well...with out you!

i think you are being paranoid. it is not actually the people around her you are most bothered about. it is your girlfriend that you are so anxious about. i bet there are many things playing in your mind. be still. trust her. do not insist. also, it is a company activity. you are not needed there.

You can't keep your girlfriend to be with your forever. Sometimes both of you need your own room and privacy. If you love her, set her free. If she comes back, she's yours. If she doesn't, she never was. There are many temptations in the world. You should trust your girlfriend. It is just like a test. If you can't overcome such kind of little issues, how will you counter the marriage? I love China

I would never want to be in a relationship with someone this paranoid. If you do trust her as you said then there should be no problem. I really suggest you let go of your paranoia before it ruins your relationship.

If I were in your girlfriend's situation my husband would have the same thoughts as you do. He trusts me, but he would be afraid that he couldn't trust the other people who were going to participate. I usually tell him that I love him and I tell him that I am not interested in other men. Even if some of them were interested in me or started flirting with me it wouldn't change the situation, because I wouldn't be interested in them. You write that you trust your girlfriend and I think that your trust in her is more important than the other people. Even if some of the men are interested in her they can't "take her away from you" without her permission, that is reason why I think that your trust in her is more important than your trust in the others.

See,U have to trust her and let her feel your trust ...u can't prevent her under any condition coz these is her career ...but u can keep in touch with her whole time and in these way u can feel little bit better

If I am in your position I will let her attend on her team building. Because I trust Her very much I know that She is old enough to know what are they going to do. I know that she will not let her self to be harm by others. You must pray and hope that it will be fine.

Of course I will. I won't let my insecurities be a hindrance for her to grow personally. She's old enough to take care of herself and probably know what is right from wrong. Let her do what she has to do.

you may just be paranoid, do not be so glued to your "love". I understand that you do not trust the people she is with, however the bigger question is do you trust her? and DO YOU REALLY trust her? If you do not truly trust her, then maybe you love her for different reasons. I suggest you grow to love her and make your self more dominant in the relationship, so that she has a reason not to deceive you. Make a reason for her not to leave you or lie to you. If you continue to act this way in your relationship, guarantee your relationship will not last, and you will create steps closer to becoming an abusive relationship. Take care.

If you do trust her whu should you be worried about her being with her officematrs they are with her everyday and if she wpuld cheat or if they will be hitting on her then you would not even wait till the team building for that to happen. Right?

If you do trust her whu should you be worried about her being with her officematrs they are with her everyday and if she wpuld cheat or if they will be hitting on her then you would not even wait till the team building for that to happen. Right?

You don't really care about your gf do you? You only care for yourself. What do you mean "allow"??? Does your gf get to do only what you allow her to do? So she could lose her job but that would be OK? Do you consider that you own her? Does this work both ways? If your gf said I do not like you going to the office and I will no longer allow it? What would you do? You are the one getting all the bad ideas so I can only guess that you are the one not to be trusted...you are judging your gf by your own standards. Break it off with the girl because you are all wrong for her. Realise that you and your partner should be equal and the trust between you unquestionable. Consider feelings of respect and loyalty too. Maybe you need to grow up some before you have a relationship with anyone.

Hi Rhejans. If i were you, i would allow my boyfriend go to the team building for his professional development. His inputs in the discussions would be of good help to the company.

You don't have to trust other people, that doesn't matters anything after all. If you trust your girlfriend then you have nothing to worry about, she will for sure put limits to anyone. You say temptations? Maybe others will have and some might like your GF too, but here your confidence and trust in her begins to play, she will kindly refuse everything with anyone other than you if she loves you really, no matter what. Besides, you have no authority at all to allow her or not to go to anywhere. You're your boyfriend only, you may suggest and express your feelings and fears, but never disallow. Such kind of imposition often ends in the relationship being broken.

I can't allow him go. who will be resporible if there is something happen with him. it's not save.