How to forget your 1st serious relationship?

Philippines
June 10, 2011 6:41pm CST
It's been a long time since the last time we talked and seen each other. And now i still remember all the things that we spend when we're together. He's my 1st boyfriend and i can't believe that we're going to end our relationship cos of he's always busy and he has no time for me and the thing that's important to him is his "career". its hurts that he just let me go. Im the one who always understands him i did all the efforts that i can give,my time, i did everything to him and he just wasted it. He don't care about my feelings. And until now he don't make any moves just to communicate with it hurts a lot T.T. i really want to forget him but how? is it true that if you try to find someone else you gonna forget that person? Now im busy on my work and somehow i dont remember him but when im alone ahhhh he 's always on my mind. and i hate it =( what should i do?
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12 responses
@Mickie30 (2626)
11 Jun 11
Okay, so you need to concentrate on your career and what is really important to you. It is going to be difficult knowing that you love him, but you should try to get busy because this will help. Try not to get depressed because there's so many others that are out there for you and it obviously wasn't meant to be. You will know when you meet your soul mate so try to be patient and open to others. Although you may struggle to trust men again, in time you will.
• Portugal
11 Jun 11
i understand you im sorry for your situation. i wish i could help you in some way. i guess that his love for you wasnt enough. i think that he didnt truly love you. if he loved you so much he would choose you instead of his career. besides he knows that you really love him so why he didnt try to contact you? this just means that he doesnt love you and you should forget him i know that its hard to accept this but if you keep waiting that he contacts you, you will just get hurt. about find someone to forget him this isnt an easy thing. it wont be easy that you forget him but im sure it can happen^^ we all have someone meant for us, and yours is still out there. so just wait for him to knock in your door^^ and cheer up. this guy lost the chance to be with someone that really loves him^^ he is the loser and not you. remember this and smile^^ if you need to talk, just message me. i will listen and advise you
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
11 Jun 11
if you like time pass with relationship then go ahead an have someone and play, true love is only once and i hope you have with your 1st boyfriend, and what you told you just understand him well, yes he is doing better to think only about his career now rather than you, if in future if he will not be in good position of career you people will dumb him, rather than supporting him you are thinking about your own emotion ? sorry if my thinking is wrong
• Indonesia
11 Jun 11
why would you wan to forget it. i mean technically, the only way to erase some of your memories is by getting amnesia or something.you need to move on, like finding some one else
11 Jun 11
The best thing you can do is move on, if you do not learn to move on from your 1st relationship that relationship will overtake your life but if you will learn to let go of it you will be happier. When you can truly forget your 1st relationship you can experience love,joy and peace that life has to offer move on girl!
• United States
11 Jun 11
It will take time to forget. A good way to not think about it is to stay busy just like you said if the relationship is already over. If you are still in the realtionship you might try talking to him. I'm 33 with 2 kids and a wife living on a single income. It is tough barely having enough to cover some of the basic bills. We've had to cut out Cable, eating out, movies, etc. We are still struggling with our bills and may be forced to move to bad part of town due to rent being to high in our current residence. Both cars are broken and we don't have money to fix them. Perhaps your boyfreind has thought about trying to make good money because he wants to be a good provider for any future family he may have. You won't know unless you try to talk to him, being upfront and honest with him and trying to be understanding of him as well. Perhaps he feels torn between spending time with you and also trying to pursue a career. Life is very hard and while money isn't everything it is a tool to a better life and can give you some advantages over others.
@zhpshql (693)
• China
11 Jun 11
Hi, I don't think forgetting is the best way...I mean you don't have to forget it..its part of your life...and it's a rule that the more you try to forget,the deeper you will memorize it...^^ so just take it easy,,,anyway,you were serious...just remember it...you will take your lesson from it.
@celticeagle (161452)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Jun 11
I don't think we ever really forget our first serious relationship. It sounds like you have made a sound decision on reasons for ending this relationship. You would be a very callous person if you just forgot all about him. He isn't going to hurt that bad because he has his mind on his career. Keeping busy will help you forget and before you know it you will be in another relationship and hardly thinking of this other guy at all.
@kanecn (149)
• China
11 Jun 11
ask yourself a couple of questions:1.is he the right man for your life? 2. is he worthy to love who doesn't car about your feeling? If not, just let it go and don't even try to forget him
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
For me about one year but to remember by doing it you have many reason to be no to it.
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Nowadays, Career is really important knowing that the food, shelter and clothes right now is way too expensive.. and maybe your boyfriend is too matured to think on that stuff and choose it over you... But, don't get discourage because there's so many out there for you. be patience and open your heart to others. My first relationship was too painful, what I did was I kept myself busy and go to church to pray. Ask help to God... and cry it out loud, don't keep it to yourself. talk to your friends about this over and over again until you will get tired of crying and decided to move on. Time heals everything, just believe in that quote.
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Divert yourself into something that you want to do. go travel, or hangout with your friends, or go meeting to some other guy that meets your standards. Hes not worth of loving. Find a person who will do everything for you. God bless!!