Seen or Heard. One for all, All for One.
By Chevee
@Chevee (5905)
United States
June 11, 2011 8:09pm CST
Hi Everyone.. I am a member of this group at church call the Single Ministry. Well we had a meeting today and I was the first member there alone with the person-in-charge everyone else was late almost an hour late. Well the person-in-charge and I had a very good conversation going on about some of the upcoming events and suggestions about things the group can do. Now when the other members come in late, the person-in-charge let them know what we were discussing. Well one of late members really didn't go for any of the suggestions that were made. She started stating what she felt should take place. So I just kept quiet after that. Now she realize that the others and myself weren't talking. So she blurts out and say, why isn't anyone saying anything but me. Then direct her statement at the person-in-charge, "you are talking to all of us aren't you including them too", well the other person tried to say something, but I didn't. My question is, why can't people see their own faults sometime. It's alright to be outspoken sometime, and sometime you should just shut up and listen. i am not the type of person that has to have all the focus on me. Everything I said she shot it down. Now what was a person to do but let her have the floor.
This reminds me of the saying, the wheel that squeaks the loudest gets the most grease.
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@toniganzon (77209)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
This reminds me of the saying, the wheel that squeaks the loudest gets the most grease.
I like that one. Actually I used to be that kind of person. I always think that my ideas were the best and even though I listened to other suggestions I never considered them as better than mine. However, I realized that if I belong in a group, I should work with a group. To become effective I should give others the chance to contribute. It's really a great realization for me and now I can say that I belong to a group because I listened.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
12 Jun 11
Sounds to me as if she wants to be the person in charge. I bet she seldom fits in anywhere, because of her abrasive attitude. Yes, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Are you all going to go along with her plans or do people vote on ideas? I suppose you could revert to Robert's Rules of Order, but that would be awful stuffy for what is supposed to be a fellowship.
@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
12 Jun 11
From the discussion it sounded as if no one really was that much into what she was saying, they were just politely listening.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
12 Jun 11
There will be someone there that have more pull than I do that will vote it down if they don't like it. I am one of the ones that don't have much of an input into anything there. I am more of a follower than a leader. Whatever float their boat is alright with me. I will play David Copperfield on them and disappear in a heart beat.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Personally if she has so many thoughts, and wanted to be in charge of everything making sure everything that happened she was for, then why was she not there earlier to help in the main planning of things? In reality these are the type of people that Bug me, even if they are Christian. Sometimes I think they need to be more open instead of wanting to take Charge and have everything as they want it.
@AmbiePam (120899)
• United States
12 Jun 11
That person is in a sad state if they couldn't see how annoying and self-centered they were being. Maybe if she wanted her ideas taken seriously she should show up on time and not base everything around what she thinks is best. If only those kind of people would be the ones who would just sit quietly and fume to themselves.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
12 Jun 11
The wheel that squeaks the loudest get the grease, but its the second mouse that gets the cheese!
The moral of the story is, let the first mouse do her thing, while you stay back and wait. When she gets caught in the trap, you can step up and get the cheese!
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
12 Jun 11
Hi Chevee..... some people are so hard to figure out and this person fits that catagory perfectly. Some have to have all of the spot light or attention or they won't feel they're a part of the decision making. It's not right and they need to be called upon their actions or else they'll continue to be like that. As for the people who were late, next time give them a time an hour before the actual time that you're suppose to meet. That way they'll arrive in time. lol Or maybe do some reverse psychology which works great too!
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
12 Jun 11
Thanks for your response, because they do want all the attention on themselves, or to try to prove to others that they are bright as in wise and knowledgeable. But there are some people there that will calm that beast down and have done it but in a loving way. Even that way cause them to have some negative reactions towards the person that did the calming.
