Is it OK to ask "do you miss me too?"

Philippines
June 19, 2011 11:23am CST
I came across this question as one of my friends posted this as her status on Facebook. I believe it is a corner question. Somehow at the back of your mind you are thinking of a positive answer. What if the other person doesn't miss you the way you expected? Would you want him/her to lie instead just to make you happy. I say, just wait for the other person to tell you so. That would have been sweeter. What about you? What do you think?
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@Octav1 (1419)
• Romania
20 Jun 11
I think it is not fair to ask someone if they miss you. If they care about you, they should answer so that they don't upset you. So there is a chance to be lied. Why should anybody oblige somebody to answer such a question. If they really missed you, they will tell you this from their initiative. I wouldn't do this on Facebook nor anywhere else.
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• United States
19 Jun 11
I don't think you should directly ask someone do you miss me. It puts them in a place where they could potentially just say yes in order to avoid conflict. You don't want someone saying yes just to make you happy, you want it to be genuine. If I'm texting or talking to my boyfriend on the phone I'll just say to him "I miss you" and he immediately says it back, but that's because he genuinely means it. And a lot of times I'll get a text from him simply saying I miss you, even though we live 5 minutes away from each other and see each other a lot. I think when you're really close to someone, they'll let you know when they miss you, there's no need to directly ask because honestly, it's sort of rude.
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• Philippines
20 Jun 11
That's exactly what I'm talking about. It's like you're putting the other person in a very awkward situation where he/she would tend to lie just to make the other person happy. I totally agree with you!
@chiyosan (30197)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
hehe i think i often ask this to my boyfriend but never online. of course. i ask him if he misses me as a way to joke with him as well. ;) but of course if in public i think i won't be saying that statement to anyone... and of course i would not want them to be forced to give me an answer that they are not comfortable in saying so.
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@AnupamArt (101)
• India
19 Jun 11
Absolutely! I have found out that there is nothing about which you two cannot talk about. You should be absolutely frank with your loved one. I am always. That is helping me a lot. And if you get 'no' as the answer even then you can talk. May be to yourself. just to find out reasons why he/she said so. That will help you to get a positive answer next time.
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• Philippines
19 Jun 11
it depends on the situation i guess. i think i am sure to get a yes when i ask my boyfriend that question especially if we have not seen each other and just talking over the phone. but i think you would get a no if you are trying to communicate with your ex or something like that.
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@yangaehr (18)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
it's ok to ask that question ofcourse but it depends on the situation. i'm sure u wont ask this kind of question if u know u'll get a negative response.. the one asking would only want an assurance..
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
yea right yang! response moooooore
@jugsjugs (13032)
3 Mar 13
I feel that there are a lot of people out there that put a status up like that and to be honest I notice at times they never get a comment off anyone, so I bet they had wished they had not put it to get no response. I got bored of all the status updates that were going up, so I hardly bother with face book any more.
• India
3 Mar 13
Certainly not in face book or any site, i mean not openi ly lol.
@prinzcy (33146)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 11
I never come across this. Since I am not good with displaying emotions and mushy stuffs, my friends won't ask me such question. If I ever come across one, I would probably come with neutral answer like 'yeah' or just practically avoid it. Besides they know I don't hang around Facebook for long.