Love marriage or arranged marriage.

DEAR , I agree with arranged marriage. but dont dislike love marrage if we are able sussesful find a good lover. thanke you...

I grew up in a society that the reason for marriage is born out of love. Thus said, I couldn't begin to fathom getting married to someone because my parents had arranged it for me when I was a younger woman. I was twenty-one years old when I met the man that is now my husband, but we weren't married until I was twenty-four years old because it took that time of sharing our lives together before we really knew that we should spend our lives together.

Many times the known devil turns out to be worse than what is anticipated.Love is blind it is said.People fall in love and they are so blinded with their passion and everything looks rosy and fine.They get married, usually against the wishes of their parents.For some time everything is loveydovey but slowly the true colors of the couple start being exhibited and thats when everything becomes topsyturvy.Fights start taking place on a regular basis and sooner or later there is a breakup and finaly a divorce.Not that this a rule but it does happen quite frequently and we see the outcome on a regular basis.Arranged marriages are also not foolproof as i have seen breakups happening in the lives of some of my very close friends.I think one is lucky to get a good life partner whether it is by love or arranged and there certainly are many people who have lived happily ever after by going through both the systems.

I don't believe in arranged marriage because we don't practice it here. Boys court girls and girls select among her suitors and the couple plan for their married life. Whatever happen to them, it's their choice and it's their right. Outsiders do not have the right to interfere and could only give advise and reminders for couples to make good of their married life.

I would definitely not go for arranged marriage. This is my life and i would definitely decide for myself. Arranged marriage is not good especially if don't know the person personally...

I definitely prefer to be in love in marriage. It will last and it was my decision, no one else's. I don't want anyone telling me I have to marry someone, I'm not a child anymore and I wouldn't want to be told what to do as when I was a child.

I prefer the unknown ghost. This way We both are just doing this out of some family obligation. So once the sons are born , we can have separate lives. No emotion to ruin this arrangement. Perfect!

Hi DoctorDidi, I know very little about arranged marriages expect what I have read but I understand that they often work out very well. In my country, arranged marriages are virtually unheard of and everyone choses a partner for themselves. It is what you refer to as love marriages. Now nearly half of all marriages end in divorce and many people are just living together and there is no marriage at all. Blessings.

THis is one way of looking at it. In many countries arranged marriages are very common. I don't live in one of those countries. I think a person needs to be proactive enough to get to know someone before they marry them. Then there shouldn't be a problem. Most people don't do this and that is one reason why there are so many divorces in the U.S. today. People jump into a relationship with no boundaries, no self respect and expect to be happy.

Arranged marriages is not something my culture practices. I am glad too because I personally do not think I could ever marry someone for which I did not love first. I understand there are some cultures who do arranged marriages and understand it works out well for some. I suppose it is part of their culture and they are accustomed to doing it that way. I would not say an unknown devil or ghost as the day I marry I would hope I knew the person well. I have been living with my boyfriend now for 6 years and find that I do know him well, therefore, no devil and or ghost in my arena. lol

Love marriage is the way to go, for it will last.

your saying is funny actually^^ i agree with that i rather have a love marriage than an arranged one. what if you marry a guy, and then never fall for him? thats a nonsense. you would be unhappy for the rest of your life. i rather be single than to marry someone without have any feelings for him^^ im happy that arranged marriages are ending. its just sad that in some religions it still happens.. but i wish that someday it can change. that way people will be happier for sure^^