There are some phrases that just don't sit well with me-how about you?
By dragon54u
@dragon54u (31633)
United States
June 24, 2011 2:53pm CST
Some things just hit my ear wrong. Take, for instance, the phrase "reach out". Hey, reach out to Congressman Sphincter and see if he's free for lunch. Reach out to the food bank and see if they need any canned beets. The president reached out to the Saudis and set up a meeting. Reach out to burglary division and see if they have a line on the perps (I actually heard this line on Law & Order). Etc., etc.
I don't remember when that phrase came into vogue but I guess it's meant to replace the word "contact" and make it more touchy-feely. It makes me think of some poor child crouching over a sidewalk vent in the dead of winter, selling matches and slowly freezing to death. Or a drowning person desperately trying to reach a piece of wood floating by.
Are there any phrases or words that just strike you wrong, make you want to laugh when you shouldn't or are just strange to you and you can't imagine why people are using them?


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12 responses
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
24 Jun 11
Reaching out to somebody is a diplomatic way to do things. There are no committments. It is done in a friendly manner in order to break the ice before you can get down to business.
When you contact someone, it immediately means that you want to talk business and there is no room for chit chat. If you want something and are not optimistic about getting it, the friendly approach of reaching out is giving you a far better chance to get what you want.
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
25 Jun 11
Do you have more than one phone company now?
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Aussie, here the term "reach out" is used generically, not specifically as you have illustrated. I can understand your definition and it makes sense but it's not used that way here.
Maggie, thanks for the blast from the past. I'm glad Ma Bell was finally broken up! I remember going for months without talking to my loved ones because none of us could afford it so we wrote a lot of letters!
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
25 Jun 11
The phrase "reach out" is especially annoying to Americans because it was part of a campaign slogan the overbearing phone company used to promote long distance calls. There was a jingle: "Reeeeeach out! Reach out & touch someone!"
The irony lay in that, at the time, the only thing being "touched" was our pocketbooks, & when one tried to "reach out" to the phone company to fix any problems, they were difficult to get on the phone, & often had the attitude that since they were the only phone company, we should be grateful for any attention they deigned to grant us mere lowlings. So the phrase annoyed us then, & now it's often associated with hypocrisy.
Just a bit of history to explain.
Maggiepie
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, & the other is getting it. The last is much the worst." ~ Oscar Wilde, writer 1854-1900
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Jun 11
a lot of the words that kids have changed over time to mean something else that really is oppisite of what the dictionary says or is the real maening. its like they are creating a whole new language that no one over 30yrs is supposed to know.
like bad is supposed to mean good now, fat spelled phat by them is supposed to mean good looking , ot over weight, etc. you know what i mean? its getting on my last nerve
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Maggie and Bunny, slang has always been with us! See this:
http://www.rugglesrag.com/lookout/OLD-LOOKOUT-DO-NOT-USE/a_19th_century_slang_dictionary.htm
http://www.fromoldbooks.org/NathanBailey-CantingDictionary/transcription.html
Every age had its slang!
But today, yes, children are taught to think the world revolves around them. And every generation thinks that it is facing an exceptional set of circumstances--it's all the same, usually, it just seems special to them.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
26 Jun 11
What really frosts me is that every year the dictionary people actually add some slang to the official dictionary!!
Our language is being polluted.
Our language is being polluted.@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Yes, youth has always had its slang, but did Madison Ave. take it as seriously as they do now? Even the residents in the nursing home seem to know what the slang means. 

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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 11
hi dragon54u yes this overused phony baloney :have a nice day." I went to the bank a long time back at my husbands request to take out twenty dollars in our joint accountant. When I shoved my slip across to the teller He said oh maam I am sorry but you are overdrawn Must be yyour husband did not remember to subtract that 20 he drew out four days ago. but have a nice day." Say what, I am standing there humiliated at being told my husband took out money and again forgot to subtract it,then to kick me while i am down with that insincere " have a nice dayl"
Again I heard this when the landlady handed my son an eviction notice and smiled and said with a sneer"Have a nice day." So now when i see this written in comments to my responses'" I have no idea but have a nice day." I want to say that is a comment? Did you not know you are not suppose to thank us or wish us a nice cay,you are supposed to make a valid comment. Maybe when this first started out it was a heart felt comment to a friend or acquaintance but now its just a thoughtless
comment with no meaning at all unless its to say up yours without being vulgar. lol lol lol.
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
24 Jun 11
I agree! When phrases become popular catchphrases they lose their meaning. One of my pet peeves is "I love you", which is said as someone goes out the door, when leave a lunch with someone, when you say goodbye over the phone--it loses all meaning because it's no longer special or thoughtfully said. "Have a nice day" started sometime in the 70's, I think, and at first it was sincere. But then it became a way to say goodbye or to end a conversation--and yes, also a way to say up yours without actually appearing offensive!
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
25 Jun 11
HATLEY: What's worse is that many businesses require employees to say it, or else suffer at least a reprimand, or even have their pay docked!
I think that's so mean, petty, & inhuman! Those poor working slobs!
Maggiepie
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, & the other is getting it. The last is much the worst." ~ Oscar Wilde, writer 1854-1900
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
25 Jun 11
"Nome sane?" FOR: "Do you know what I'm saying?"
"My bad." (cringe...makes my teeth itch!) FOR: "My mistake."
"This is a close, personal friend of mine." (Talk about the "Department of Redundancy Department!"
) FOR: "This is my friend."
There are many others....
Maggiepie
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, & the other is getting it. The last is much the worst." ~ Oscar Wilde, writer 1854-1900
) FOR: "This is my friend."
There are many others....
Maggiepie
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, & the other is getting it. The last is much the worst." ~ Oscar Wilde, writer 1854-1900@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Yep, I hate "my bad"...sounds like the person is mentally retarded. "Nome Sane"--well, if I've been listening of course I know what you're saying, you idiot!! Do you?! 

@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Good on both of you!
(Sorry, but I just find using the phrase "good on...you" too funny to resist! At least I know it's incorrect! 
)
Maggiepie
"English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows other languages down dark alleys, knocks them over & goes through their pockets for loose grammar." ~ Seen on a t-shirt (source unknown)
(Sorry, but I just find using the phrase "good on...you" too funny to resist! At least I know it's incorrect! 
)
Maggiepie
"English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows other languages down dark alleys, knocks them over & goes through their pockets for loose grammar." ~ Seen on a t-shirt (source unknown)1 person likes this
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I forgot about 'my bad'.
My uncle broke me of saying; 'you know what I mean?' He would always interrupt and say...NO, I don't know what you're saying, you haven't said it yet. Or some such retort.1 person likes this

@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
25 Jun 11
There is a term that really rankles me. It is "trailer trash". We lived in mobile homes, and we were not trash. Nor were our neighbors. Once in a while some unsavory person slipped in, but we got rid of them fast. Shape up or ship out was our motto. We have not lived in a mobile home for over 30 years, but the term still offends me.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I remember that term "trailer trash" but where I grew up it was a very descriptive term. The trailers in our town were used by trashy people, dads who got drunk and beat the kids and wives/"girlfriends" who shopped in curlers and never changed out of their bathrobes, always smoking and usually drinking.
However, when my sister and her new husband moved into a trailer because they couldn't afford anything else I got somewhat confused. I was only ten years old and was forced to discard comfortable stereotypes!
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I agree. My Mom had to live in a trailer for a while after she & Dad were divorced. I have friends who use them. Some are very nice, in fact, with flowers planted around them, porches & decks added on.... I would dearly love to live in one of those giant doodlebug types--"Airstream." They're so beautifully & practically designed! Every inch of them offers loads of space!
I hate even worse, however, the racist term, "white trash." It implies that "So-&-so family/bunch are white, thus they should be ashamed for living like black trash (& all blacks are "trash" in these warped people's view)!"
I don't use either phrase.
Maggiepie
"In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, & the other is getting it. The last is much the worst." ~ Oscar Wilde, writer 1854-1900
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@ravisivan (14082)
• India
24 Jun 11
It is not a phrase but the word "manipulation" -- I always carry negative meaning in my mind that you try to force some person to agree and u try to make things against the interests of others. So whenever a person uses 'manipulate' I am tempted to disagree with him on that issue and other issues as well.
It is due to perception -- rigidity in perceiving things. What I think as bad is always bad.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
24 Jun 11
The word "manipulate" always makes me think of a long-legged spider on the prowl! That was a good one!
Love your avatar, so cheery! 
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
•
25 Jun 11
"I'd like to make this absolutely clear". Then they don't. Or "The country has given us a mandate to..." when they haven't. Or "The Public demans that we..." when they haven't. "We are introducing new money...." When they've removed the "old" money in taxes/efficiencies resulting in a smaller budget. The ones that bugs me the mlost though is "At this point in time." and the one that is akin to finger nails scraping down a blackboard "Empowering". Just grates with me.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I agree with all of those! When you hear "let me make this perfectly clear" you know you're in for a mind-numbing few minutes of inane rhetoric that does everything but answer the question that was asked!
"Irregardless" is another that irritates me. I don't think there is any such word. "Regardless" is the proper work to use. 

@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
26 Jun 11
BOTH of you are 100% correct! Down with inflated (& plain ol' LYING) speech!
Clarity! Let that be everyone's clarion call!
Maggiepie
"English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows other languages down dark alleys, knocks them over & goes through their pockets for loose grammar." ~ Seen on a t-shirt (source unknown)
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
It's been awhile since I heard that one! "Shake it up" always makes me think of that song by the Cars and I picture a couple on a dance floor with shiny lights shaking up and down like dice in a cup. It's a very funny picture!
Upset the apple cart I've heard from my grandparents. Another is don't rock the boat, something I personally learned one should not do! 

@jeneias (608)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Ok, mine isn't a phrase, it's certain word. 'Resilient.' I don't know why but EVERY single time I hear someone say that word, I think they're saying 'Brazilian.' Maybe it's just me and most likely because I am Brazilian (lol) but it's so weird. Whenever I hear it now my ears always perk up because I think they are talking about something from Brazil. Ha!
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
That's kind of funny! I don't often hear words wrongly but I read words wrong. For instance, today I tried to use a coupon for a single item but it was for 5 items, not one. I misread "15 count boxes" (containing 15 items in the box) for 1-15 count box. I was kind of embarrassed but the print was so small and my eyes are old. 

@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Jun 11
We tell these words as "glutton word" because such words or phrases have eaten several words. There are enough words on my local language but here i can give an example and the word is "fine"
How are you? fine
what about the taste of your launch,? fine.
how is your day? fine.
how my home looks like? fine.
your comment on this painting? fine.
where as the answers should be like these respectively... fine, tasty, okay, beautiful and artistic or fantastic.
Am i right? what do you think?
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
That's a good example of a word that can drive you crazy! I think a lot of people over-use a word because they are lazy.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Maggiepie, not only do they encourage poor English they are now accepting misspellings and poor grammar in written and oral assignments without correcting them because "the purpose is expression, not perfection"!!!
I know that had my self-esteem not been hurt when I was a child I would be nothing but a whiny loser right now. Losing and being corrected made me want to be better. We're robbing our children of that motivation and it's an absolute CRIME.
I know that had my self-esteem not been hurt when I was a child I would be nothing but a whiny loser right now. Losing and being corrected made me want to be better. We're robbing our children of that motivation and it's an absolute CRIME.@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
26 Jun 11
DRAGON: I'll second that! I think we have a plethora of lazy teachers, as well, who allow such sloppy speech, afraid to hurt dere widdow students' much-vaunted self esteeeeeeeem.
I'm just sayin'...
Maggiepie
"English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows other languages down dark alleys, knocks them over & goes through their pockets for loose grammar." ~ Seen on a t-shirt (source unknown)
Maggiepie
"English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows other languages down dark alleys, knocks them over & goes through their pockets for loose grammar." ~ Seen on a t-shirt (source unknown)1 person likes this

@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Jun 11
We tell these words as "glutton word" because such words or phrases have eaten several words. There are enough words on my local language but here i can give an example and the word is "fine"
How are you? fine
what about the taste of your launch,? fine.
how is your day? fine.
how my home looks like? fine.
your comment on this painting? fine.
where as the answers should be like these respectively... fine, tasty, okay, beautiful and artistic or fantastic.
Am i right? what do you think?
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@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Baby bump in the tabloids when someone is obviously pregnant. or even the most recent use of 'bump' as in Obama's rating 'bump'.
Why can't we just say what we mean? I also can't stand someone who has NEVER been in the inner city trying to sound 'gangsta'.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Yes, the "baby bump" is rather disgusting. Trying to make something so miraculous into something cute and trivial. "Been there, done that" is also irritating, why can't they just shut up and listen because it's usually in response to a friend who is trying to talk about a problem.
I've never understood why anyone would want to sound "gangsta". I think this is the first generation ever that elevates ignorance and in-articulation to a fashion statement.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I ask my 16 year old grandson; WHY do you want to listen to music that promies to 'bust a cap on your a$$'?
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@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Thought of another one....'been there, done that.' oooohh!! 

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