Why people came to see a girl again and again?

Actually on my time my uncle fixed my marriage without asking even to my father. Then invited us see my husband then my father and my family agreed and finally we married so I have just seen my husband once before marriage so no experience of other boys.

I do not know too much about fixed marriages as it is not a custom in my country. For me I can only marry someone I love, I can't imagine it being fixed for me. I can see if it was a tradition and or part of my culture then I suppose I would not have thought about it twice. I have heard success around fixed marriages, but again I suppose it is part of the culture.

I think it is in the mindset. As a boy, I told my parents that I will see no girl when they started hunting brides for me. I never went to see any girl and also asked my parents not to do that. The only thing that happened, I got only two proposals. I did not even see their photos. Sorry, I have no proposal story to share. As I was certain, I will not marry at that age. Later, I met my life partner, we became friends, then friendhip turned to love and we thought to get married.

So your parents followed that custom too for you. Did you not protest to your parents that you would like to choose your own groom someday. Will it anger them?

Hello Madam ! How are you ! busy with institute work. I think it is due to fate and also due to the way people in the girl's house receive boy's people. Set up in the girls house. these things matter a lot. first impression is the best impression. If people visiting form good impression then things will go on well. Also it depends on whether the girl is employed and if employed whether getting good salary. Also whether she looks beautiful. Furthermore, it is all pre determined this boy has to marry that girl and that only will happen. have a good day.

Hello surekhaji, This happens in most of the times in arranged marriages in INDIA. When things are developing so fast in these days in our country still a girl is like as she was around decades back when it comes to fixing marriage.Today also we see girl several times before fixing a marriage like an exhibition. People don't spare anything left when they go to see a girl i have seen with my own eyes when my niece's marriage was getting fixed ,her in laws family came to see her before marriage. At that time one of her sister in law told her to stand up & walk as they want to check if there is any defect in her legs. I was so depressed to see it. It was like they were choosing her to act in some bollywood film. But really still people forget they also have daughters & sisters which are also to be married some day.

When I was a single woman, I dated several different gentlemen before I decided to spend the rest of my life with one person. I think if I had been a person that had only dated one person in my life that I would have never been content to be with a single person for the rest of my life. I learned that there are people that treat women well and there are some that don't treat women well. Through my trial and error I was able to meet a man that treats me like a queen.

I hate this thing. Girls is not a material to whom some one check again again. Some people check girls by walking, reading all these are rubbish. I was reject one girl for it I feel to much guilty for long time. Girl is human being, she have self respect, sentiments and emotions. We must be respect these.

hi surekha, this is was the tradition design by the people since we are not born on the earth, that boy was given the preference to see the girl first and express the opinion, whether he likes the girl or not, if yes, then all the proceeding take place, whether to get engage or get married. where as coming to girl there no choice expect to accept the boy and get married. But yes, now a days parents are giving equal right to their girls, and are giving the right to choose the right person, to whom she wants to lead the whole life. hope coming days will be more bright for the girl to lead their choice of life with out breaking the faith of their parents.

I guess this is still practiced in your country where the parents are the one who picks whom they think is the right boy for their child.Others are pre-arranged union where both parents have agreed to the marriage when the time comes.I think too that the girl's parents have to give dowry to the parents of the boy to seal their agreement,(or is it the other way around ). Today maybe some are not following this tradition anymore.Modern girls especially the educated ones can choose whom they like to marry.

I am not sure about that. Sometimes the girl got many choices if more than one guy ask for a proposal and I would still consider that girl is lucky if it just only a guy ask her but it is not necessary for one to agree with the proposal. We still got a choice to marry the one who we like.

Hi, I only saw this kind of arrangement in movies, or in some royal families, that the one who will decide whom will be your husband or wife is your parents. But I think we all should have the right to choose who we want to be with. The man or woman that we want to grow old with.

Hi surekharathi There are very few Indian families here that still practice this kind of custom here. Nowadays the girls will choose for themselves whom they like.