How to stay positive when everything is going wrong?

@zenki08 (700)
Philippines
June 29, 2011 1:17am CST
After the new year I thought that everything in my life will turn out okay. I mean everything was in place. I was very optimistic in every aspect of my life. But everything is the opposite. I won't go into details coz I get really sad when I think about my current state. I want to remain positive but I find it really hard to do at this stage coz of my problems. How can I stay positive at this point? Yout opinions will be much appreciated.
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35 responses
• Malaysia
29 Jun 11
I found reading positive quotes really help. I even got it posted on my wall in my office cubicle here. Whenever I feel sad and down with what had happened, I just look up at those quotes. Another one way I would do is to be grateful. We always have something to be grateful, no matter how worst our situation turn out. You don't have to think of something really big just to be grateful of. The fact that you are reading my comment now, be grateful for you still can read. I know all this small things don't change your situation right away, but be grateful is a way to stay positive. And to remain positive is the key to get whatever you want. Cheers =)
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Thank you indeed this is a welcome suggestion
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
This is a great suggestion de_angel97! Yes, inspiring quotations are really uplifting in their truest sense. I do suggest the topic starter to also try to make his own quotations for himself. I agree, being grateful tends to signal that an individual is ready to accept incoming graces and be showered by it. If you are always grateful, you will appreciate everything around you. Nice inputs from de_angel97!
@1hopefulman (45121)
• Canada
29 Jun 11
Here is one that I like: "If God has brought you to it. God will bring you through it."
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I guess, when one have problems, she cannot help herself from feeling down. However, in order to overcome it, she has to deal with her problems first. She should exhaust all legal means to solve them. But amidst it, ask for the help of God. Only then, will you feel a lot lighter solving them.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 11
Agree with SimplyD. No one is free from problems. Going through a lot of pain and problems will make us learn more about life, looking for solutions, close to god and appreciate the happy time we have.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Besides, God allows us to have problems so that we will know that He is strongest, when we are at our weakest. HE reminds us through our problem, that He is just around us to be called upon for help.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
26 Nov 11
Well, now that 5 months have passed since you posted this discussion I want to ask you if things are better for you? I get days and months that I feel the same way as you but what keeps me going is, life goes on and somehow things will get better, it always does somehow. I have gone through a lot of tough times in my 54 years and I am still here and surviving. Not the way I want to live my life but I am still alive and that is what is important. I am alone in my life right now and not liking it but getting through. I have tried many ways to meet new people as I moved to a city that I don't know anyone and I am not having any success. I mean, I have met a few people but no one that I want to be friends with, nothing in common with them. I am self employed so there is no way to meet new people at work. But life goes on and things will improve somehow, some day, so I am still hopeful. I got over the other stresses in my life over the years and I will again. And so will you my friend. Cheers and happy mylotting my friend Chris
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 11
Even everything is not okay, in order to survive we have to get through this. Sun will always shine as it is. Remember to pray to God everytime you feel depressed. Is it anything to do with your health?
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 11
We should not pray and remember God in hard or particular time only. We should pray to him every time we could in happy or hard time.. Only then we will feel grateful and thankful to him. Otherwise we will always blame Him for any problem we get in our life.
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Hi! there zenki, Well I guess we're on the same boat here...for me, what's keep me going is my family. It's from them that I get strength to go on and continue with the fight. We may be struggling but I have them to be grateful for. Besides them, I also consider those things I have that makes life worth living and most importantly, I always say to myself that God loves me, this is just temporary, if I keep the faith then there will be a great reward ahead. So be strong, never loose hope and fight on
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Nicely said Thank you. I also have my family with me. But right now I'm really down.
• India
15 Jul 11
I think the real fault lies in clinging with our desires which means getting deeply attached to our desire and dreams .Our concept of right or wrong mostly revolves around our fulfillment of desires and dreams in the way and in the time interval we have expected it to happen . If something goes opposite or against our pre modelled scenario of our priorities and goals we consider that thing or situation wrong and when situations and things goes according to our pre modelled scenario we call them .This very criteria of judging right or wrong makes us depressed and sorrowful . Making our life predictable and highly secure just destroys the beauty and charm of life . You can be positive by making your life less predictable and open instead of enclosing yourselves behind the walls of your own desires and dreams .
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
5 Jul 11
Been one of those yrs. for me, so you are not alone. Mine has been my Health, and it seems like it has been one thing after another, and being allergic to one medication after another. I have been dealing with several issues which in turn turns to Financial since I end up having to miss a lot of extra work, end up in the Hospital etc. It is hard to stay positive. The main thing I do is find things I can afford to do to keep motivated, and Pray a lot and Trust god to get me thru. Anything I can find that will make me happy and keep me motivated is a plus as well.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
8 Jul 11
Take each problem and look at it from a different angle. For every negative in our lives there has to be a positive. You just need to look a bit more closely to find another side to your troubles...for instance, I'm overweight and often in pain but I have good health and a good sense of humour. I can find many things about myself and my life to be thankful for. You can find the good too.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
1 Jul 11
Hi zenki08, It is never easy to stay positive when everything seems to be going wrong. I suggest what I do myself when I'm feeling that nothing is going right. I count my blessing - and we all have something to be grateful for. Just thinking about the wonderful people in our life or the beautiful weather or a hundred other things will help us feel better. I firmly believe that all things happen for the best, although it can be difficult to think that way when everything is going wrong. Many people believe that we have spirit guides or guardian angels and we have nothing to lose by asking these unseen guides for help, and we may be pleasantly surprised. Remember too that the pendulum swings both ways and it won't always be the same as now. Say something good about another today, that always works for me. Blessings.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
3 Jul 11
Actually, I find when I tell others about the specifics of my problems, that it helps in the end. It makes me sad to talk about some of the things that went wrong, but I gained so much encouragement from other mylotters that it actually made me feel better. If you hold in what is bothering you, it will build up and make you feel worse. If you have someone you are talking to about the problems already, you don't have to tell everyone, but you should tell SOMEONE! Maybe you have a few special friends that you could communicate with? Or maybe you are in counseling? Just don't hold it all in! Have a great weekend!!!
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
4 Jul 11
Im usually in a happy state of mind no matter what. This helps me. "Throw your burden upon Jahovah himself, And He himself will sustain you. Never will He allow the righteous one to totter."Ps.55:22 "No temptation has taken you except what is common to men. But God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation He will also make the way out in order for you to be able to endure it."1Cor.10:13 Inner peace radiates to outter peace.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
3 Jul 11
Someone told me that the best way to stay positive about your life, is to be around people who have it worse. Trying working at a battered women's shelter.
@millertime (1394)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I know just what you mean. Sometimes when things seem to go bad and then keep going bad, it's very hard to maintain a positive attitude. I've had these very same feelings lately myself. Especially when it looks like something is going to turn out the way I want it to and I'll finally get what I've been working for, then at the very last minute, things fall apart and I'm right back where I started. It's an extreme letdown and very hard to take. It can even lead to clinical depression. I try not to focus on the bad things that have happened. I keep telling myself that it does no good to be consumed by the negative feelings. I try and force myself to remember that no matter how bad it is, it could probably be worse. I can usually find a few things that make me realize that it's not as bad as I originally thought. Then, as time passes, things usually seem a little brighter. I adopt the attitude that I'm not going to give up, no matter what. Believe me, I know that it's sometimes very hard to be positive about a bad situation, but after the initial downturn, you have to pick yourself back up. Sometimes, it takes a distraction. Get out, visit friends, take a short vacation, even just going to a movie or a club for the evening can afford you an escape from your problems for a while to let you mentally recover. Then, it might be easier to adopt a more positive attitude. I hope that helps and I hope your situation improves.
@sanijas83 (270)
• Latvia
13 Jul 11
One should find some chance to see something positive in one's life. It is hard to breath in this world sometimes, but I have to try to take my life into my hands and believe that it is possible to enjoy the life. There might be some people around who could bring some nice feelings, some places to see and visit.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Well dear the Lord have actually taught me the way to staying positive. I do meditate on God's word always and even more when I do pass through turbulent phases of life. His Word is comforting and in Him I find peace even in the midst of storm. There are really troubles and problems that would come into this life which would normally bring down the spirit of every man. But lest I become negative I would rather bring every trouble and worries at the feet of Jesus. I would rather pray and ask His help. So my way of staying positive is praying and reading the promises of God in the Holy Book. I have my Jesus whose promises keeps comforting and keeping me positive and hopeful. He promised never to leave me nor forsake me so what have I to fear? With Him by my side, I feel really secured and comforted all the time. I also do always hold on to His promise that "All things work together for good to those who loved God and all the called according to His purpose." So whether good or bad the things maybe, I know that in the end, God has a good purpose for me.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
To stay positive...you must be relax and think the happiest portion of your life. Think about your future not the future of someone else... Be by yourself and not be in yourself...
@allknowing (130422)
• India
30 Jun 11
I would rather leave all those things that bear me down alone as one can truly live without those loads that eat us up. One day at a time is what you should do and pick up that which you need to make your day.
@anil02 (24688)
• India
30 Jun 11
It is impossible you have not any thing positive in your life. Every one have some thing positive. If you have wife and kinds these are positive thing in your life and it is your strength. You face your problems with these strength. Don't try to escape from problems face these.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 11
Hi Zenki! It is good to stay positive all the time but make sure friend you just not think positive but take actions towards it. Actions here is work hard to achieve your dreams or if you have problems, work hard to overcome and settle the problems. if we just stay positive without put an effort towards it it will turn the other way round. One more thing, not everything will be like what we expected because it may go beyond our expectations. However have faith that everything happen in your life has its own meaning. Perhaps it shows that you need to work hard, or make a little changes that more suit with yourself as we always heard when something happen to us it is just either one way, we bear with it or we change the path we have taken as perhaps we have took the wrong one so go choose the other way of your life.(^^)
• United States
30 Jun 11
I'm not sure what your problems are but when I feel like I hit rock bottom I figure once I hit bottom only way is up. Things can't get any worse so I think positive that it will get better. I also pray about it. Maybe take a day to yourself and go do something like a night out, shopping even if it's just window shopping or something you enjoy to do just to forget about your problems even if it's for a day or even a couple hours then maybe you will be refreshed and be ready to deal with whatever your dealing with.