How can you face your mom when you did something that will really disappoint her

@spockers (221)
Philippines
June 29, 2011 5:30pm CST
The past for years of my life is really the worst time of my self, it turns out to be wasted time. Doing things that my moms really disappointed on me. If you done something really big mistakes in your life, how would you face your mother that are very disappointed about you??
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16 responses
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Well, I and my mom has established a good relationship. Though she is so strict and kinda like a nagger sometimes, I am open to her and will always be. If I did something that I know she will be dissappointed, I'll sincerely talk to her while handing her over her favorite flowers (white & red roses) then tell her how much I love her and is hoping she will still love me as her one and only daughter after all the things I've done. She knows my favorite phrase - "Sh*t happens! Sorry! " :D
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
You really aren't sweet, isn't it??hehe,, In my case we barely had a bonding time with my mom, cos she's kind of busy to her work, but she is always with us when she got free time. My moms really are the best in the world, so sad I'll upset her to what I've done.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Ooops! Sorry to hear that. Well all I can say is best of luck! My advice (in case you need) Don't wait 'till your mother heard the bad news from someone instead from you. That will only make her more upset. She'll think that you don't trust her or that you prefer to share your faults to others than to your own mother. Last but not the least, ask for forgiveness and promise not to do the same mistake again and remember what you promised. You can do it! :)
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Thanks Xsparky017, you really makes me feel free from something that i really can't get over. I will do what you advise to, for sure...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I've given some disappointments to my mom also. But when I face her,I don't need to speak a word. She just welcome me with a smile and an open arms. And everything is fine. I am also a mother of 3 kids,so now I fully understand a mother's love. It doesn't knows any boundaries...no IF's No BUT's. all is LOVE and CARE!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
there is one thing I've realized being a mom... "people will turn their backs on you,but never a mother will " next to GOD
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Yup,, you hit it. That make them great!!!!
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@spockers (221)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
That's really makes our moms the very important woman in our lives. You explain it everything, the love of mother to its children sets no boundaries, or should i say sky is the limit. Its is really nice to share here in mylot, you really guys are great, i feel really free from something because of your great comments.. "Dios Mabalos" guys..thanks
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@dfollin (24307)
• United States
30 Jun 11
At first your mom will be disappointed,but she loves you and she will forgive you.But,you just have to face the music and tell her.You will probably have some punishment.But,you'll have to deal with it.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Maybe i really need some sort of punishment to what i've done. I really deserved that.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I am a mother. Yes I would be disappointed and probably devastated but there's nothing my son can do will make me love him less. Mothers have more patience with their children than anybody else. They have compassion for them more than they have for others. Mothers can always forgive when children knows how to ask for it. Approach your mom, apologize and if she nags you don't be surprise. It's a natural reaction. But she will never ever abandon you. Just don't repeat the same mistakes again and again and tell her you need her guidance and this time you will obey.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Its really nice to heard it from a mother. thanks ma'am toniganzon!!! Mom's really are one of the best person in every person, you when you disappointed her, really it feels so upset, because it is hard when you lose the confidence and trust of your mom. More harder to get it back.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
hello again spockers! Here's some good news, sometimes we pretend to give our children a hard time because we want to give them a lesson and learn from their mistakes. Mothers will always have a soft spot for their children and will always trust them but we have to be firm and make them believe that we could no longer forgive them unless they prove themselves to us. I was the same when i was just a child, but now that i'm a mom, i can somehow understand why my mother was like that.
@zazen6 (169)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Hi Spockers, It is indeed difficult to face the person that you have disappointed. Fortunately, mothers are usually a forgiving soul. Considering that you have realized that you made a mistake, admitting the mistakes and telling your mother that you have learned from them is a good start. Surely, your mother will understand and forgive you.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Yup, for sure. Learning from my mistake makes me more mature, and i will never do that again, because being guilty to your mom to what you did for me is one my weakness, i really love her, and admired her for what she did for me.
• India
30 Jun 11
Past is past you are forgot your past and lesson your past mistake.you are go to your mother and excuse the your mother.She are accept your excuse because mother has a big heart.You are watch in you future what ii be happen in your future.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Yah, i really need to forget the past in order to continue my life.. That the reality.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
30 Jun 11
That is a very good question. I just go to my mom and talk to her about what I have done. I wish my daughter would stop disappointing me. She could care less how much she hurts me.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
For me what I always put in mind whenever I did something wrong is that: I am their daughter. No matter what happens, they will always love me and forgive me. So just make sure that when you face your mother, you are ready to ask forgiveness...and make sure that its from the heart. And...make sure that you won't do that mistake again.
@spockers (221)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Ya, but for now, i really can't face her and see her in the eye, because i am really guilty to what i did. But the time will come, i am preferring for that.
@GemmaR (8517)
30 Jun 11
I have made some terrible mistakes in my life, but I am incredibly lucky because my Mother has always stuck by me no matter what I have done. I have to admit that she doesn't know about the two biggest mistakes of my life, because I chose not to tell her as I know that she would be disappointed in me if I did tell her. I want her to respect me for who I am because we are close and I love her very much. I would never do anything on purpose to upset her, but most of the time I know that I can speak to her about anything that I might need to.
@maxen07 (882)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
When I was in elementary school, whenever I fail a subject, I would write a letter and put everything in it then give it to my mom so she can read it instead of having to listen to me fumble. I also did that the night before I was to leave for a temporary home for single mothers. I left a letter at the altar before I left for the city. Thinking back, I was more afraid of telling her what happened than the consequences of my actions. I think I'm not really alone in this.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
31 Aug 11
hi, actually i happened to me last year when i had a lived in partner secretly to them,and i know as my parent they really disappointed to me,actually i dont know how to face them,just a snapped i did,but i dont know how,and there's a time that i need to choose and its really hard for me.
@babybea (82)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
i remember a year ago i didn't listen to my parents because of my so called "FRIENDS".. that was the time i always lied to my parents specially to my mom to hang out with my friends even i know that they're bad, i almost got kick at my school and some of my close friends left me coz i chose my "FRIENDS" than them and then 1 day my cousin found out that i sell my jewelries, clothes, and other accessories just to hang out with my FRIENDS, they confronted me and i told them the truth but they don't believe me so i told them to call and talk to my FRIENDS but instead they told my cousin the opposite one that i'm the bad one after that my mom traveled just to confront me, i told my mom the truth but when she said "i don't know if i'll believe you" i cried coz that's the first time my mom tell me those words... until now i can't forget those days because everytime i saw my brother being bullied and fooled by his friends i remember what happen to me and i don't want it to happen to my brother.
@febrigas (362)
• Indonesia
6 Jul 11
The first one, I admit my mistakes. And after that, I apologized to my mother sincerely. Apologized, kissing her hand. And promised that I will try not to repeat that mistake again. Then embraced her, passionately. If my mother was still angry, then next day, I repeat again, until things become normal.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
You can face your mom and show him that you really are very sorry for whatever it is that you have done. I believe that your mom may understand all the things that you have messed up with and surely forgive you. But assure her that you already learned from that mistake and do yourself a om a favor. Our mothers know what is the best for us and keeping her happy while she's still with us is the best thing her children can do.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
We are not perfect. What is important is you have realized the mistakes that you have done in the past. Mothers always love their children, and if a daughter or a son made a mistake, mothers always forgive and understand. You just have to talk to her and make her feel that you are really sorry for what you have done. I assume that you are in the right track of your life now, and if she sees it, then past is past.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
This is really serious and I haven't experience this one of my 22 years of existence. I haven't disappoint my mom, for my own thinking because I have tried my very best to please her.I finished my studies,took the board exam and passed.Well, in your case you need to face her no matter what and just be so gentle to her. She will totally understand. Mothers have a kind heart so whatever you have done she will forgive you.Don't stress it so much. And try to say sorry and everything will be fine.FOR SURE.