Weighty Issues

I have struggled with eating disorders for years and years, in fact, a lot of my thoughts are consumed with food, or lack thereof. I've never been able to find that fine line where I can think about food in a healthy way. I know that I'm doing exercise and working hard to obtain a healthy diet plan without becoming anorexic, but my mind is a whole different story. I'm constantly struggling about either feeling guilty, or craving mentally about certain things I've cut out of my diet. I went anywhere from anorexia to compulsive overeating, but it wasn't serious that I had to go to the doctor. I just know - since I was a kid at 7 years old - that i had an unhealthy obsession of food, but I haven't been able to voice it to my doctors well. I know everything seems daunting at first. I was 75kg when I started my Going Sugarless experiement, and I'm too scared to step on the scale when it's over this Thursday. I didn't think I'll ever get down to 55kg, but well, we'll see how things go. Maybe chatting with your psychologist about your deepest fears and thoughts will help you relax and he can hopefully help you gain a new - and good - perspective on the task of losing weight and establishing healthy dieting routine. Best wishes to you, I hope you get what you're looking for.

Im so sorry you're going through this now. Be honest and open with the psychologist. Tell him/her everything about what you eat, when you eat, how it makes you feel, etc. I keep in shape with the Wii program. Its fun and I can spend 2 hours working out and not even know that time went by. My cousin has the same problem as you. She lives alone and needs to lose weight ASAP since she had to spend an evening at the hospital with a blood pressure of 235/175. She HAS TO lose the weight. She doesnt know where to start though. She has all the equipment but says she needs the "get up and go". I try to call her every evening to remind her to workout. I wish we lived closer, Id be her trainer. Maybe you need a personal trainer. I know its expensive but it might be the only thing that will save your life!! Good luck, dont feel that you are all alone in this, you're not.

They might give you a test on paper to evluate you then alot of questions they will ask just tell them how ya feel they surpose to know how to help!

I wish I could come over and give you a big hug. So you'll have to have a cyber one instead. HUUUUUGGGG!!!!! If you have an eating disorder it is symptom of something else I suspect. For some time you have been displaying signs of depression and eating to excess is just one way in which we deal with that. Self-analysis is not always a good thing but sit down and write down just how you feel. Like a diary. Note the things that make you feel worse and what triggers them. Do this for a couple of weeks and then when you see the psychologist discuss the diary with him. There is a way out. You will be OK. XXX

so sorry sweetie. it sounds like you are in the same prediament ive been dealing with. no movability and no one willing to help enough or able to. yes give the psychologist a chance. it should work very well. they should be able to suggest helpful things. cry in front of them also. then they will realise how much you are trying to do right for yourself. i never could cry in front of any until i went to get my disability. then it all just came rushing out. i told him i was so ashamed of crying in front of him but he said he was used to that and hes the one made sure i got my disability

Hi Ms Tickle! Antidepressants can really help a lot, especially ones like wellbutrin and buspar. They are good for people who are compulsive eaters. I had compulsive eating disorder, and was treated with Wellbutrin for about 10 years. I'm not on anything now and don't feel I need anything now. The compulsiveness has gone from my eating now... and I can eat good things like broccoli and I made fruit shakes with frozen strawberries and peaches... with sugar free drinks and yogurt all blended together.. I put about two sweeteners in it and sometimes have that as a meal.. sometimes I add a little milk and vanilla slim fast to it too and blend it.. tastes like melted ice cream... and very filling. I'm loving it for this hot summer. The weight is starting to come off again now that I have changed how I eat. I still eat regular food, but much less of it.

Many times I have found that this has to come with being Diabetic as well. Even since you said that you are only Pre-Diabetic depression is a common side effect and one that needs to be watched. I know myself I have my good days and my Bad, and the Bad ones I would rather just crawl back into bed and sleep. But in reality I am not taking any meds, and do the Best I can. I have learned ways to combat the way I feel as well, and learned self talk and prayer are some of the Best tools for me I can use. You will have your Good days and your bad days. Just try to find what works Best for you and stick with it. Maybe the depression and Diabetes is part of the reason you have lost all your gumption to want to ever loose some weight as well.

I have had similar experiences, except I have not yet gone to the doctor or broke down about it. I did get a gym membership, through a scholarshipping program, and I started out just going and walking in the water and stretching. The personal trainer contacted me, and asked if I would like to set up a resistance program. I had done some treadmill, but not dedicated. I have read that resistance, or light weight training will really help with a lot of things. I have not been doing it long. I have not rechecked my weight and body fat. I have just gotten comfortable with going three days a week, but I will tell you this. It makes me both tired and relaxed, but it also helps with my joint pain. I feel better now than I have in about two years. I will also say that there are some anti depressants that help both with weight loss and with smoking cessation. Look at how good you have done, you quit smoking. You should be proud of yourself. Print out your discussion to share with the psychologist. I am 75-80 lbs. heavier than I need to be so I am not great to point a finger. I just wanted to share what is making me feel better right now. You do not have to have a lot of equipment for resistance training or weight training. Use the things you have at the house. Of course you may want to buy some things, but it is still not necessary to go overboard. If you have canned goods, lift them for weights. I have even taken milk jugs that have handles and filled them with water to lift. Do stretchy exercises with bungee cords. Put a pound or two of sand in an old sock and tie off the ends, wrap it around your ankles to do leg extensions, then lay face down on your bed and bring the heals in toward your rear for hamstring exercises. You can do all the upper body stuff sitting and the leg extensions sitting and the hamstring curls laying. These should build some muscle that will help you with getting in and out of cars and chairs and help you with your balance for walking. Do gentle things and you will begin to claim your life back. You did not get there in three months and you will not get rid of the weight in three months either.

I am so sorry to hear of your sad and difficult situation. I pray that you will have the strength the following your doctor's advice to lose weight and feel better about yourself. It will be a long journey but if you do not expect things to change over night and pray for the Lord to give you the strength (physically and mentally) to achieve your goals I am sure you will see by next year a brand new you. I shall also be praying for you.

hi ms tickle, i felt sad while reading your post..but then i realized that admitting your condition, going to the doctor and being honest and true is the first step in finding your way back to the kind of life you want for yourself. you have always been a positive person here in mylot and i believe that you will again find that positivity dwelling inside of you. you seek help to the doctor and that is one positive step that you took. there will be more steps that you have to take, it may be hard and difficult but remember one step at a time..and soon those steps even how hard it will take will bring you closer to the life you truly deserve. i will always be praying for you...i believe in you and i know you have that power and strength inside you that you can overcome this. take care always dear friend and bless you always. lovemuch, faith210

It won't hurt a bit! Seriously, your doctor is very smart. He could put you on a diet or give you pills but once you lost the weight you wanted you'd just gain it back--because there is something in your mind that is making you eat what you shouldn't. A psychologist will talk with you and help you find out why you're eating. Maybe you don't want to be attractive so you won't have to deal with a relationship. Maybe you feel that you're inadequate in some way or you are using the weight to make up for something missing in your life. All this is deep inside where you don't realize it and the psychologist will help you find it. I'm sure the anti-depressants will help a lot, too. It sounds as if you are going to get your life back to what you want it to be. I wish you luck! Positive thinking will help, too. For example, every day look in the mirror and tell yourself it's going to be a wonderful day. Soon you'll begin to believe it and your days will be better. Try it, it works!

I can see why you are nervous and feeling stuck. I'm not sure what they will focus on for you but maybe they can help. If not, you don't have to keep seeing them. I am a little concerned with the antidepressants but you might really need them for a while. I wish they would focus a little more on your knees. If they were in better shape, you could start out by walking at the local park or somewhere like that. I have heard that Shark Cartlidge pills can work wonders for joints and tissue breakdown. I knew a lady that had knee issues and even had a knee replacement..she really advocates the shark stuff. I do hope that these people put forth the effort you deserve for your well-being. Hugs and luck!

Hi MsTickle. I am sorry to hear of all that is ailing. What you do is exactly what you just did here. You go into the visit and allow the doctor to ask you the initial questions, then when and if asked what do you expect to get out of the visits, and or why are you here? Then you say exactly as above. You explain all you have been through and all you are feeling. There is nothing embarrassing or to worry about, because you want to be completely open so that the doctor can help you with perhaps any underlying issues and or something you are not aware of. All of us go through a great deal in life. There are those who will never recognize they have some issues and will never get some help. I am all for anyone getting a specialist to help and be able to freely discuss and assist. I wish you all the best and do hope that the visits are very beneficial. Also know that if you are not getting good vibes, then you seek a different one. But do give the referred one a chance.

It is so hard to manage your weight when you have the pain and can not exercise. Don't feel bad about it though it will just make you more depressed. Try to stay positive. Good luck

hi mstickle just be open and bonest and tell the doctor what you have told us here so he can get a great p;picture of whats wrong with you. I have never been to a weight doctor bur I could sure use one right now as I am overweight and need to loose at least fifty pounds. as I have one bad knee on my right side now and one bad hip on the left side its hard doing the walking or exercising I really need to do. I have to walk with a walker and thats not a help at all. my metformin is keeping my blood sugar under control but my weight also worries me too. I weigh 207 and I have problems getting in and out of cars too.I am going to talk to my primary care doctor and see what I can do weight wise.I hope you can get help from the psyhchologist. do not be afraid as he or she should bed there to help you. ms tickle I am going to pray for you too that you will get help and start losing weight the right way slowly and steadily.

For starters you give them an overview of what's been going on. Then, if they are good, they will ask questions, hopefully lead you in a direction that's helpful. Probably you want to give it about 5 sessions before you decide that they are the right counselor for you. You should feel comfortable talking to them, not feel judged, feel like you are being helped. Otherwise, go find another counselor...

I have a eating disorder. I am a emotional eater. I have been all my life. I am morbidly obese. I started becomeing morbidly obese about 14 years ago and it just gets worse! I know I eat to much! When I get depressed,my confidence is shattered,I am frustrated,feel deprived and bored,I eat! Working in food service doesn't help either! I don't exercise and should! I should seek help like you but I have in the past. I did for other reasons and even though it has been awhile,I rather not go back! I have trouble cleaning myself and still deal with a rash which I have had for a few months,now. I get winded going up stairs. I hate going down stairs,sometimes! My knees ack alot! I have trouble sleeping! I get winded doing my other job! I like to spend to much time on the computer,too! I know how you feel! I hope one day soon I get this under control! It is not fun being like this! I hope your situation gets better,too!

Dear friend, It seems that sometimes we get trials that we cannot bear. If we look at it as a whole it seems like a mountain, we don´t know where to begin and we end up not doing anything. I have the feeling that in these cases, everything I do, however small, takes a lot of my energy. I have asked myself now: should I give in or should I fight. I have chosen to fight. I have realised that I am not the only one with my problem so maybe the way of fighting is to do it for other people too. How about starting with a very small goal and post when you reach your goal? Then you start with a second small goal. Noone loses weight in a minute. Probably it´s a matter of months and maybe even years. But maybe you can think that it is awesome that you have these years to spend losing weight. As you probably know, I have discovered I hve a lymphoma. In other words, it´s cancer. As far as I know it is a slow type as growth goes, but it has no cure even with chemo. So my life has changed. But it has not ended. How about thinking a bit on othr people and every time you want a snack, place the money you´d spend in overeating in giving it to the World Food Organization so that some of the 2 billion undernourished people hve something to eat? I can even give you the link. Don´t take food where you are posting. And let us hear more from you.