What a normal person want from love?

@isloooboy (1738)
United Arab Emirates
July 7, 2011 9:05am CST
What is the real meaning of love for a normal person? Is love is to get whatever you want from your love one or what your love one wants from you? I am bit confused, for me love is to give everything what your love one is want. But some people say's its boring why you sacrifice for love why not the other one. So in the end one has to sacrifice so why not me? Some say everything is fair in love and war but the other one say nothing is fair in love and war. What the hell is love than?
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14 responses
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hello islooboy, Love is a wonderful feelings it can be magical too Love should be a two way street it's a give and take relationship A good communication and being honest to each other can make a relationship lasts Love is like you are in heaven but it's like hell when you are brokenhearted happy mylotting
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@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
I rather feel the heaven nor hell..than knowing or feeling nothing at all
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• Philippines
8 Jul 11
@ jaiho, i thought you both experienced it because I do
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Am I prince who is looking for his princess?
@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Normally ,when someone feels love..s/he wants that love to be acknowledge. Why love someone when you don't wish that someone to love you back?...unless the other person is married/attached. But let's talk about two people who are single and capable of loving each other. In a relationship,both wants a balance situation. It's like a two way road that needs a give and take vice versa relationship. No one is a leader and no one is a follower.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Well for me a team can never be survived without an leader, what you say about that?
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@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
2 person is not considered as team
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jul 11
But one has to lead towards right direction :D ;) :D
• United States
7 Jul 11
When I said " I Love You" to my guy , I meant that his happiness is Just as important as my own. It took me longer to fall for him than it took him to fall for me. At the time he fell I just saw him as a friend. I would wish him well but now I Need him to be happy or I'm not happy. Do I sacrifice what I want or who I am , No! If I Had to do that , it wouldn't be true love. It would be an obligation and then soon resentment would set in. But instead loving him and wanting to make his life a little bit easier comes naturally. I think it helps that we were friends first. That we can and do talk things out. We have similar needs and and wants so it is so easy. So to answer your question , this "normal" person wants to feel supported and respected and to Know my love wants my happiness just as much as his own. and by some miracle I have it! Every ' normal" person is different . The main thing to do is to search until you find a person who's definition of love matches your own.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jul 11
So we have to search the whole life till we satisfied from inside? is love happen again and again? is it normal or natural? Don't you think we use word "LOVE" as per our own requirements or needs? After using this word and using emotions and feelings of others leave them alone to find another soul to love? is it fair definition of love?
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• United States
7 Jul 11
No , you don't have search if you don't want to.You may already feel satisfied being single. People can live Very well without love in their lives. And no Love is a word that is used Because it is felt. If Anyone uses it Without the emotions behind it , They are the ones who will suffer.And lastly All definitions of love are fair.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Don't you think its Discontentment behavior why not they contentment on one person?
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@sjvg1976 (18255)
• Delhi, India
8 Jul 11
Hello isloooboy, LOVE for me is a great feeling in which people forgets everything but remember one thing how to make your partner happy.And to make him/her happy we tend to give away whatever we can that's wht we say its sacrifice which happens in love. For me also LOVE means to sacrifice things for your love.But i think differently as thing which is fair in war may not be fairly applicable in LOVE or vice versa.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
So if I wish to get what I want without sacrifice do you think I am not wrong?
@sjvg1976 (18255)
• Delhi, India
8 Jul 11
No you are not wrong if you get it without sacrificing then its ok.
@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jul 11
Even it hearts my love one?
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
Love isn't really getting, but giving. It's about adoring a person and giving her the best care you can without expecting anything in return.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Very nice and complete answer
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
That is the most complete answer I can give you. If you ask my girlfriend, though, she'll give you something like a thesis paper. She's got these set of rules that "should be followed when you're loving someone". I have no complains, though. I've been with her for almost a year so it's all good. There's nothing too tight about it.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jul 11
Well than I can learn so many things from that thesis paper :D and heads up to you already spent enough number of years happily ;)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
For me, love is giving. You should be willing to give and to sacrifice for your love one. But you should know your limit.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
What do you mean by limits?
• Mexico
8 Jul 11
for me love is also very confsing becaus e the way i feel love for my partner is something like i want her to be fine all the time, i want nothing to hurt her, i want everything she wishes to be granted, and also i feel jealous when she is talking to some one, in my personal opinion could be something like protecting her, feed her, respect her, support her i huess that what i think about being in love.
@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Can we get what in the mind of our love one when we show extra care during love?
7 Jul 11
for me love is togetherness of two souls mold in one in one mind set ......
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Wow amazing one line definition, how you come with this complete one liner?
• United States
7 Jul 11
I think when it comes to love you should give more than you take. You should be equal partners. Make sure you always think of your partners feelings. Be honest and faithful. Try to always talk things out without fighting and saying hurtful things. Spend quality time together and apart. You need that separation sometimes or you will drive each other crazy. Be happy! Have a Blessed Day!
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Very comprehensive reply I liked it
@mykaylala (214)
• United States
7 Jul 11
I find it hard to figure that out as well. I do believe that love is just a feeling towards someone and that it doesn't define itself by what is given or received in return. I don't believe love is fair at all because we cant chose who we love at times, and we only sacrifice naturally when we love some one because for most, when you love some one you want to put their feelings before your own.
@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jul 11
Nice observation and I admit near to truth
• China
7 Jul 11
Love does not mean giving or receiving anything.It can just make people's heart stay closer,but everyone should not be so close to someone else,even the one you love. Love is sharing,in fact.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jul 11
But we share so many things with others but I don't think its love but common needs which we are sharing, am I right?
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Normal person loves BALANCE. The two of you must sacrifice for each other, I think that's the best ingredient of a long lasting relationship. And you shouldn't count in with what you've done but you need to do just your best for your lover. If you love someone you wont be very keen about what yuo did, you'll just do it by your own will. Love don't make excuses, it does great things. :)
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jul 11
So you mean if I sacrifice for my love one than I have the right to demand it back with a sacrifice?
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 11
I think love is a tremendous power if we are able to understand the true meaning. Imagine a world without love, I'm sure we'll see a lot of wars and crimes. Or imagine if a mother does not love baby, I can not guarantee the baby will grow up to be a good person. Nice day
@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Aug 11
You are right but what about those who are so called human right champion but are the reason to impose wars on other nations?
@ravisivan (14096)
• India
18 Jul 11
islooboy - how are you. I think u have more free time. that is why u have started asking about love. Love is affection for the other - again love doesn't mean u will give everything for the sake of other person. Nowadays u have conditional love - timely love, fractional love, etc. depending on various factors. of course from our countries' point of view love is towards parents, siblings, elders. Love towards your closeone whom u marry. I am sure u will come across a suitable person for whom you will be extending your unconditional love.!!
@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Jul 11
Well first of all I spent these 2 weeks with very busy scheduled so its not free time thing but some times when you want to learn about behaviors put these kind of learning questions in front of friends and learn maximum from it. One more thing this was the first post instead of the 2nd one in which I asked for which one is best housewife or working wife?. Anyway, yes love is giving but mostly as saying give and take which I don't think is right. For me give only and Waite with patience and move wisely