have you ever been cheated on? how did you find out?

I've been cheated on by every girl I've dated: it's an unfortunate part of being a nice guy (and making the wrong choices), since a lot of women think scumbags are more exciting and interesting when they're young. After a certain age, it's easier to make wiser choices and avoid the people who do this. For me, I found out by catching them with the other guy or by figuring it out (I'm not as dumb as I look... lol). It's the one thing I can never forgive, since I am always completely loyal to whoever I'm with. Personally, I have a little rule: never go back. If they've cheated once, they'll do it again unless they've had a serious, life-changing experience in the meantime (like almost dying or something). And even if they wouldn't, I could never trust them. Too bad for them: they should've been faithful when they had the chance. Their loss.

Your friend should better not give the guy another chance. The guy already had hurt her feelings and he might do it again. Since she has already moved on, better yet enjoy the feeling she is feeling at the moment and be happy with another guy who deserves her. I haven't been cheated by my bf yet, but I would do the same if I were your friend, move on and be happy and try to forget the past.

Hi chiyosan! I've experienced being cheated before. I had this boyfriend who wanted to court one of my friends. I learned about it from another friend who was also his friend. I confronted him about it and to my disappointment, he did not even denied it. I broke up with him right there and then. And to add insult to injury, he just nodded his head when I told him we should break up. After a few days, he sent me a letter and he was asking for another chance. I didn't give him that. It's really hard to trust people who have cheated you before. It's hard to determine if they have changed and what are their intentions for coming back at your life. I guess the best way to deal with them is to be civilized and be wary of their true intentions. cheers.

I was engaged to a girl my senior year of high school, and she cheated on me with my best friend, who was like a brother to me at the time. I have to say that it really hurt me when it happened, but in the years since it happens, I have realized that he did me a favor. He and I have become friends again since I have moved back to my hometown, but we do not see each other that often.

I was in a long distance relationship. I was away at school and he went to community college. He was getting distant, but I was stressed with a really difficult class and did not think anything about at first. Then my brother mentioned that my ex had been seeing alot of this other girl. Then my cousin called and let me know that he was holding hands with the same girl. I called him on it, and he denied it. We stayed together for a few more weeks, but then I went home unexpectedly for a weekend, and showed up at his house for her to be there. I confronted both of them. They were together for a while, but then he cheated on her(and got another girl pregnant in the process). I am really of the opinion if he would cheat with you...he will cheat on you.

Hello.. I think, it's not wise to give him another chance for a relationship. I believe that giving a person a second chance is the same as giving him another chance to hurt you again. It may sound harsh but I don't believe that a person won't do the same thing all over again. Words are not a guarantee that they won't do it again. Although some others say that a person's attitude will eventually change but I think this will take a long period of time. I hope your friend will be able to weigh things up thoroughly before making a decision.

Hi chiyosan! With my last relationship, that's when I had a cheating live-in partner. He actually cheated on me not only once, but twice. With the first cheating, he admitted it to me. And he assured me that he will fix it and he broke up with the girl. However, after some time, I had noticed some signs of cheating and my instinct was right when a friend of mine informed me about it. When I learned about it, I confronted him and he denied it and told me it was nothing. He got so many alibis until such time when someone created a blog site, who in turn made us the subject of said blog site. And there and then, things went out. I decided not to continue the relationship anymore because it is no longer worthy. Besides that, I have also learned that the reason why he broke up with his gf before me was also about third party. Cheating is never a good thing. If you are cheated once, perhaps giving a chance is fine. However, if he did it twice, there is no guarantee that he won't do it again for the third time because in the first place, if he has changed, has matured and is sincere, then he would not do it for the second time. How to deal with it, I think, if your friend has moved on, then she has to move forward. It would still be her decision if she gives her ex or not. Sometimes, we think differently. Our heart is oftentimes dominant than the mind when it comes to love. But, what would love be when your partner is a cheater and do not see your worth? I think, leave a little respect.

I am lucky enough to say that I've never been in this situation. It's certainly not something that you want to have happen to you. It can be difficult to say exactly how you would react to this sort of situation, when you haven't been in it in the first place. There is certainly a chance that I would want to forgive, but I'd still like to think that I wouldn't go back to that relationship. I do feel that, if someone has cheated once before, there is a chance that they might cheated again. There is a chance they may do it again. I am not saying that this is always the case, but I am saying that it is a possibility.

I don't really want to describe the situation as it's complicated, but I was cheated on once. I "intuited" that something was going on, confronted my boyfriend and he admitted it. We then agreed to stop the romantic part of our relationship and remain friends. I was devastated - not so much that he'd cheated, but because of the situation - and we had a lot of rather in-depth discussions about it before we were able to comfortably be friends with one another. Although we never re-instated the romantic part of our relationship, we are still friends (many years later) and the dalliance he'd had fizzled out very quickly. It's honest and fair to say that he was actually manipulated into the cheating situation by the woman. That sounds like a cop-out, but she later admitted that was what she'd done, plus many other friends who'd see her doing it told me that she'd chased him and manipulated him into the short-lived affair. Not too many men would be able to resist that sort of temptation (bearing in mind the manipulation methods she used), no matter how honourable a person they normally are. As for your friend, it sounds like her boyfriend (ex?) is a serial cheater and I don't think it would do her any good to keep going back to him. However, she probably will if she's madly in love with him and sadly she probably won't in that frame of mind listen to anyone else. She might have to go through the pain in order to fully realise that she can't keep on giving him more chances, then hopefully would break away from him and find someone else who loves and respects her.

Hi friend! I am lucky as I have never been in that situation before and I hope I will not have one. Just in case I face such problem my answer is no. I will not let him back in my life. There is no use to be with someone who have cheated you before. There are many choices out there so why should I accept him? A big NO to it! My sister have experiences on such and she did the same too. There is no turning back. If your friend found the new love then go on with it. Just leave the man that have left her before behind.(^^)

I think it is wise to set the limits of your relation. Love is like a contract where you set the guidelines by yourself and if the partner do not agree then the contract breaks. I am not a committed person and that is why I am free. I set my own rules for me and that is how I live my life. It is very important to be honest and true in relationships.

hello, Okay, so I never been cheated by one person and I never wish to because I know it will be hurt. So, if that situation happen to me I wont accept him because I know that he will do it again to me (what does he think of me? a stupid girl?) Gosh!. Tell some advice to your friends.

i did at the past. my boyfriend of 5 years impregnated someone during our relationship. actually, our relationship had reached a point of drudgery and boredom-owe it to the fact 5 years is a long time and that because we are far away from each other. i was at cdo that time while he was based at manila. I had to admit that I was insulted with his act.