love gone sour ,first love married and now frustrated......
By aweins
@aweins (4198)
India
July 10, 2011 9:50am CST
one of my friend was in a relationship for last six years. finally they eloped and got married . i was one of the witness there. girls mother knew but no one from boy's side. i helped in everything. i gave her my gold also. i gave her cash bought her new wedding dress gave my footwear. two pair of footwear, one high heels and one flats. she took my diamond ring also. at that time i was not married and when i told my hubby he said that i am a big fool and she must have hypnotized me, lol. my parents knew about somethings which i gave. when my parents found that i have given my diamond ring also, they fired me like anything and you will not believe , till today they have not forgotten that. today i am a mom of three year and they always say that one day if my daughter do something like that then i will know how it feels.
after doing all that also my friend did not stayed in that relation for a year also. she got pregnant so she went back to him , and delivered a baby boy and then came back with the baby. now she is at her mother's place and taking care of the baby alone. i do not understand why do people take decision in such a haste and then cannot live with that decision. first thy have to run and marry and then after marrying they cant stand each other,now they say that their thinking is very different, i mean they both think differently. when they think differently then why did they got married ? now there is just frustration and nothing else left. their love has gone sour, i feel bad for them because i have seen that happiness on their face on the day they got married. how happy they looked. why such things happen in life ?
8 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Jul 11
Hi aweins, Honestly I would say the main reason is lack of tolerance in relationships. The main reason for any break up is this. They had tolerance to wait for 6 years, but the burden of life has shattered them, but when they lose tolerance they lose everything in life. True love will never break up even at toughtest times of life. Rest finds its end in course of life.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
17 Jul 11
Hi, Its so sad to hear. I feel love is not soured, they have developed to love each other, but not developed the art of tolerance in love. Infact this is important in love at any times or ages, to make love sweet and not get sad ended.
@toniganzon (77261)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
They've been a couple for 6 years before they got married and things still didn't work out between the two of them. I guess they're just not meant for each other. I think they didn't decide on a haste because they've been a couple for 6 years. Sometimes when people are in a relationship for two long and they couldn't just stay in love, expect love to fade away.
In marriage love alone couldn't make the relationship work. You must ensure that you stay in love with your partner every single day of your marriage to stay happy. If you just love your partner but don't stay in love, marriage life tends to be boring and every thing is just a routine and then love will slowly fade away too.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
10 Jul 11
Lol.. I think not only her but you also took a haste decision of giving her everything. Your mother is also right when she says that you will know when your daughter will do such thing. Don't take personally but I talking the feelings of your mother. Anyway it is all over now and now nothing there to do. Make sure you don't give anything in future to anyone like this.
@vikramsingh796 (322)
• India
10 Jul 11
Thats realy very sad that they are not happy with their merried life.you know it happens many time with many couple.when they are in love,they don.t spend much time together.there is also attraction in both of them.they jus try to take care of each other.so they do not disclose what they feel in reality.they just think that they will always be happy like that.when they get merry and spend much more time together,then they face reality.and yes when they were not merried then they were far but still attract to each other but after merrige perhaps this attraction start finishing and they thoughts become defrent.other reason is also may be that before they were single so no worries of life but when liablity increase,their love fed up or you can say their love give up agains the problms of life.
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
11 Jul 11
Hello aweins,
people do take some important decisions like marriage in haste without knowing each other properly which causes conflicts after getting marriage
.I think this what happened with your friend.I am in favor of love marriages but i also believe that one should marry with their parents consent as they are elders and knows better than us at least for marriage.Though its painful for lady & she might be repenting for the decision she made.you also must be repenting for you decision had you made you friend understood these things may be she would not have eloped.
people do take some important decisions like marriage in haste without knowing each other properly which causes conflicts after getting marriage.I think this what happened with your friend.I am in favor of love marriages but i also believe that one should marry with their parents consent as they are elders and knows better than us at least for marriage.Though its painful for lady & she might be repenting for the decision she made.you also must be repenting for you decision had you made you friend understood these things may be she would not have eloped.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
Hi!
How sad what happened to their relationship. Honestly, the first years of marriage are the hardest as both sides are still struggling dealing w/ each others attitudes they might have not seen before they got married.
About you giving up too much for them.. though I'm not a parent I understand why your parents felt that way...
@vikramsingh796 (322)
• India
10 Jul 11
Thats realy very sad that they are not happy with their merried life.you know it happens many time with many couple.when they are in love,they don.t spend much time together.there is also attraction in both of them.they jus try to take care of each other.so they do not disclose what they feel in reality.they just think that they will always be happy like that.when they get merry and spend much more time together,then they face reality.and yes when they were not merried then they were far but still attract to each other but after merrige perhaps this attraction start finishing and they thoughts become defrent.other reason is also may be that before they were single so no worries of life but when liablity increase,their love fed up or you can say their love give up agains the problms of life.
