Husband Forgot My Birthday

Birthday cake - Birthday cake, that I didn't get today,lol
@devideddi (1435)
United States
July 24, 2011 1:11pm CST
Yep, he forgot! We been married 24 years and today he forgot my birthday. I was looking on my facebook page and commenting on how nice it felt cause a lot of my facebook friends wished me a happy birthday when he says oh...what's today's date? Ugg#%%#!**%%... Yea, it hurt my feelings but I shouldn't have been surprised. Oh well, I'm over it! This ever happened to you?
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@Alechin (217)
• Slovak Republic
24 Jul 11
Actually I am a man and a son, but i always keep forgeting my moms bithday. Its a shame and I should probably finally remember. I think you should however forgive your husband.
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Thanks for chiming in Alechin! Yes you should write that down it would make her feel good for you to remember. And yes, I forgive him.
@Alechin (217)
• Slovak Republic
27 Jul 11
In that case you are a very good wife! :) And yes you are right, Im gonna write it down. Thanks
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Something similar happened to me. My ex-gf forgot our anniversary. I was actually planning to do that as a joke but it turned out she actually forgot it. I was so mad at the time I went to a stripclub with friends.
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
25 Jul 11
OMG!!! Now thats a great story!! I love it! Thank You!
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
Your welcome.
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• United States
24 Jul 11
Happy Birthday!!! I hope you are having a great day! In my family , a birthday is the one day where you get to do what You want to do! If my guy forgot my birthday , I would be Really hurt. But then again I would remind him about a week ahead. I hope you have plans to do what you Want to do.Enjoy!
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
25 Jul 11
thank you for the bright birthday wishes! I did end up having fun after my son came over.
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• United States
25 Jul 11
Great!
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
24 Jul 11
The first year me & my first hubby were married, he "ignored" my birthday opting to celebrate it 4 days later. Then when he told me that we weren't celebrating my birthday until Saturday, I asked him if he thought he would choke by saying "happy birthday" on my actual birthday. He told me to "just get over it". So, when his birthday came around, I ignored it completely. The next year he remembered my birthday!!!
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
25 Jul 11
yea, that is funny...I like your choice of words better also... Ignore rather than forgot.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
25 Jul 11
lol that's funny :)
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@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
24 Jul 11
Ahh sorry to hear that. Us men are terrible with dates. I am sure he will make it up to you
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
25 Jul 11
thanks thezone!
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
31 Jul 11
No worries. He will make it up to you, if he doesn't, make him lol
@naija4real (1291)
24 Jul 11
It is normal for a spouse to forget his or her partner birthday. It is not strange. Sometimes, it is you that will even forget your birthday when it comes up. I think most people are too preoccupied with their personal daily challenges and it makes them to forget important dates. Happy birthday.
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
Thanks for the bday wishes! But I don't know...if I agree. After living day in and day out every day for 24 years with someone it should be etched in your memory. His birthday is totally etched in my memory just like our anniversary and our kids birthdays. I do agree a little about daily distractions tho.
@djbtol (5493)
• United States
25 Jul 11
I am sorry that happened to you. If you truly are over it, I commend you for your maturity. Hopefully he will be motivated to make it up to you.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
yea, I'm truly over it now. Ready to move on to the next argument.lol Just kidding.
@GardenGerty (157047)
• United States
24 Jul 11
I know it has happened to me. I do not remember the exact circumstances, so I must be really "over it". I did learn either to a) have no expectations or b) if I want to have expectations then I should help make sure they are fulfilled by dropping appropriate reminders enough in advance that no one can possibly forget.
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
25 Jul 11
yea, you're right. I didn't think I actually had expectations...but I guess I did. I mean I def wasn't looking for a gift or anything but I did expect him to remember the day....
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
25 Jul 11
when we were engaged, my now hubby forgot my birthday. he was refereeing a soccer tournament and totally forgot it was my birthday! i guess i forgave him because we have been married 23 years!
@dodo19 (47034)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Jul 11
I'm really sorry to hear about that. That really must not be pleasant. I am lucky, as so farm my husband hasn't forgot my birthday, and I hope he never does. Well, I hope he does remember. And happy birthday by the way!
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@devideddi (1435)
• United States
25 Jul 11
Thank you! and I'm sure you're husband won't forget yours! Mine just has brain freeze, lol
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
25 Jul 11
I'm so sorry dear. I had a stupid ex boyfriend that did that. Well, he's an ex :D I'm sure he had something that was stressing or really consuming him. You are married for a reason, he loves and adores you, I think in a long time relationship, that could happen. Please, talk to him to see what happened. But that wasn't nice at all, so sorry.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
27 Jul 11
oh you are so kind, thank you so much for saying those things!
• United States
25 Jul 11
This has happened to me but I am over it. I don't know if people truly forget or what but when it happens it is very upsetting. Sorry and Happy Birthday.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
25 Jul 11
Belated Happy Birthday from me. Sorry your hubby forgot but apparently you guys are doing something right to be together for 24 years. That's what really counts, don't you think?Congrats
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
26 Jul 11
oh thank you! That's a good way to look at it. That's a great point, thanks
@wiguen (551)
• United States
25 Jul 11
that's not good, its one of the last thing a man don't want to or should not forget, it means a lot for women. even for men its hurt when your girl do not remember your birthday. and sometimes that happen you have to forget an forgive.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
27 Jul 11
yes, all is now forgiven! but I was pretty upset there for awhile!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I'm happy it has not happened to me. My husband and I have been married for 26 years but he remained still ever thoughtful and never has ever forgotten any of my birthdays. I could even forget it but not him. He has always been thoughtfully thinking of my birthday. He would start preparing, reminding me and asking me what I want to do on my birthday as early as my birthday month starts. It is really nice to have a husband like mine and I thank God for him. Nevertheless, if your husband is not as thoughtful as mine, you should not feel bad because for sure he has another way of making you feel he loves you despite being forgetful of your special day. Anyway, it is not only through remembering birthdays that a husband can show his love for his wife. Lest I forget, may I greet you a very happy birthday!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Jul 11
It can be very frustrating when your husband forgets your birthday. your self esteem can jump right out the window. it can make you feel like your spouse doesn't care about you or love when it isn't true. it just hurts that a special day is forgotten by someone so important in your life. Don't let it get you down.\
• Finland
25 Jul 11
Oh sorry..after those long years should remember i think. Well hopefully he will make something special now as he remembers again. Good luck and Happy-Bday!
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
For me yes but try to understand it because they forgot your birthday but they never forgot your weeding anniversary.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
25 Jul 11
Hi devideddi, You shouldn't be hurted. The main reason is most hubbys forget it as days pass, my uncle who is a doctor says men with family burdens and works, tends to forget important occassions. Whereas women can remember them even at 80s so sharp. This is a fact. Hope you have a great birthday! Cheers!
• United States
25 Jul 11
Yes, it has happened and I fix the situation by simply beginning to leave hints the week prior to my birthday. It's just a sad fact I accept.