is it a bad manner? ......
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
July 28, 2011 8:13pm CST
that i told my friend who be again coming to the Philippines with her family comes August, that i want red lipsticks as her "pasalubong" (token) for me? 
She would always have pasalubongs for me every time she comes home from abroad where they reside, but this time i told her what i like. 
Do you think it is not nice to do that? She said she likes it that i tell her what i want.
She would always have pasalubongs for me every time she comes home from abroad where they reside, but this time i told her what i like.
Do you think it is not nice to do that? She said she likes it that i tell her what i want. 1 person likes this
8 responses
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Hello D! I think there's a big difference between demanding for a pasalubong and just telling what you want. The first time a student of mine told me she's gonna send a parcel as a token of appreciation i was too shy to tell her what i want so i told her she could just give me anything she feels like giving. But I realized that i'm giving her more burden in telling her that and knowing KOreans, they're very conscious of their time and they don't wanna waste a single minute of it. So the next time she asked me she's going to send another parcel again, i told her what i really wanted. That saved her the effort and time to look for what to send me.
In conclusion, NO i don't see anything wrong with that as long as you don't demand that she needs to give you a pasalubong! 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Yes, i think that way too. Rather than making her think of what to give me as pasalubong, i told her what i want. And she likes it that i tell what i want. 
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
I don't think so! I do it all the time with my friends who works abroad.
I agree that it would be preferable to bring tokens that are decided by the person to which it is being given to. That way we can be assured that what we brought for them is what they really like and want.
I do it all the time with my friends who works abroad.
I agree that it would be preferable to bring tokens that are decided by the person to which it is being given to. That way we can be assured that what we brought for them is what they really like and want.@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
That's true sophiecheer. I for one, when i am about to make a pasalubong to a certain person, i ask her what she wants. That way, i am sure she will like what i am going to give her. 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Yes, it's better to ask them what they want.
Enjoy your going home. I am sure it will be a happy one!
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
Jez, thanks SimplyD. This post reminds me though, I need to call my sisters to know what they want for pasalubong. Im headed home this coming weekend in time for my friend's celebration for her son's b-day! Oh, I missed home..despite the fact that I just visited them last week.
Sorry, i can be such a lunatic..LOL!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
she asked you what you want, so there is nothing wrong with answering what you wanted in the first place. i like that you are honest and for her i am sure she appreciates that too. i mean, i also ask friends what they want too if i would give them something and at least i know what i gave them would be liked by them too. =)
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Well, i am like you too. I would rather ask for what my friend would like, so it could surely be appreciated and not go to waste.
Just like one time, when my husband's cousins gave me pasalubongs and amongst them was a body wash that i don't use. I gave it to my sister who is fond of it.
@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
10 Aug 11
If you have confidence with her and she's been a good friend of yours for a long time, I don't see any harm in asking. Now I wouldn't personally do it if it was someone I didn't have type of relationship with.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Of course nobody in her good frame of mind would ask a person whom she doesn't have any relationship with for a specific token. 
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
29 Jul 11
friend I am speaking frankly tell me what is the meaning of pasalubong I dont understand. But I can say yes she knows what you want because forcefully you cannot give any thing to anyone. Even receiver is your friend also. She cant do force to you for taking this.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Actually my friend it's a Tagalog term for a gift or token that a friend from another place brings to you whenever she comes.
So, usually the giver always have in mind what will please the recipient, so it's better that the recipient tells what she/he wants to be given. Right?
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
29 Jul 11
Ohhh I understand but yes I agree with you because I also not like lots of gifts. Thanks to explain me.
@RoSe0x1 (110)
• Egypt
6 Sep 11
well,i see it is ok to tell her what you want.she brings you pasalubongs everytime so why cant you tell her about what you love?.it is better than she brings you something and see you not using it.she will be even more sad.so when you tell here what you want,you show her that you love and care about what she brings and after all you are close to each other so it is ok :)
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Well, she has arrived since the other week , with her husband. She gave me a small kikay bag, with mascara, small vial of Estee Lauder "Pleasures" perfume, Estee Lauder sunblock, bars of Lindt Chocolates and my lipstick.
Gosh, it's my favorite brand and color ! She knows the things i like really!
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
For me, I think there's nothing wrong with that. SInce you just said what you would like, it would be easier for her to decide what to bring you and not think anymore of what you will like so that's a great relief for her. ALso, what's bad is pressuring a person to give you something even if they don't want to or they don't really do that.
If I would give someone a gift, I'd want him/her to be happy so I would want to know what is it that he/she likes. I would be very glad if he/she tells me exactly what she wants specially if I can afford it.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
I think so too, that's why i told her what i like. I don't want her anymore, to think of what to give me, because it will still be a bother to her.
yes, if we are on the giver's shoes, we would also appreciate if the recipient will tell us what she likes.
But as to impose that a pasalubong be given, it's a big no-no.
