I dont ask for help

I don't view it as being helped when my husband cooks, cleans or tidies. it's just as much his job as it is mine, so he's not "helping" me, he's doing his fair share around our home. he's not helping me, I'm not helping him. it's equally both of our responsibility.

if there are some things that are broken and i don't know how to repair it, i ask my husband to do it. also, if there are some things that i can't reach since i'm not that tall, i ask for his help, also in cooking because he's a good cook than me. sometimes i also ask him to play and take care of our baby when i'm busy on some chores.

My wife and I are both retired workers.We share household duties.My wife generally goes shopping ,does cleaning,washing and prepares supper;I usually get breakfast and lunch.

I normally don't because not only because I can handle doing things alone but mainly because he is not the type who bothers helping me with the house chores. He just sits in front of his computer, make and answer phone calls, eat, sleep and do bathroom things and go out on meetings since he is a consulting engineer. But sometimes times get so tough that I badly need help especially now that I am supposed to be bedresting with my low-lying placenta due to this pregnancy. And it is hard because I have a four-year old who goes to school every morning and I have to keep reminding to help and it so annoying to be doing that all the time and he still wont bother helping unless I am to the point of crying and complaining. And if I don't feel pain due to false contraction, I just do the work than always get mad at reminding him. It would really make me happy if he were like the kind of husband who helps the housewife with the housework and you are so lucky because I believe that it is a very effective binding activity. It would even make me happy if he would just at least do the dishes. That little thing would at least make a big difference if done with sincerity. You are so lucky your husband is helping you. It shows that he is thinking that you might get too tired doing all the housework yourself. And as a woman, I am so glad for you.

My boyfriend does stuff without being asked but it always seems strange to me because he tells me about it before hand. He will say "I will do the dishes tomorrow" even though I never asked him to do the dishes or even mentioned they need to be done and yet he tells me. I'm not sure how to respond or if he thinks I am upset that he hasn't done them yet. Occasionally I ask him to do something if there is still a lot I need to do but usually he make a choice to help on his own. I am really glad he helps out and offers help when I am doing house choirs but sometimes I get the feeling he really forces himself to do it and would much rather not help out. It makes me feel sad because I am usually not the one asking him to do it and yet I still see his change in attitude when he does it. I wish he didn't feel like it was such a burden because I don't see doing these choirs as a burden just something that needs to be done once in awhile. I have the feeling your husband started seeing a connection between the work he does at the butchers and the work you do every day at home. It made him want to help out and stop putting so much of the work on you. Or it could be he didn't know how to before, lol =).

My husband somethings help me to do something such as cooking washing and sweeping.some things natural help,don't need a party brought,the couple around also is such,so i think the relationship between husband and wife is equal,no matter what the job they have .people will change, especially between husband and wife can influence each other,your husband now understand your not easy,so,he do such thing is very normal, ha ha perhaps people love a woman is both, in turn you help him a lot of things in imperceptible in, this is a common people'life ,don't you think so?

Hubby was single for many years. He cooks well, and can shop. A lot of stuff we do together. There are things he does not do outside that I wish he would, but all in all we share work pretty well.

I live alone and everything pretty well gets on top of me. I do what I can and the rest goes undone.

Hm, he'd better if he wants me to work full time.

I am single yet so i have to look forward so I could be able to reply on your post. Ofcourse, kitchen stuffs doesnt concern only the wife but also the husband. Thats more as a family.

My husband is very understanding and I dont really ask him to help. He is working a lot and I dont want to make him tired even at home. But he is a sensitive man and helps me on the heavy chores at home. He wont mind washing the dishes too.

My husband does the cooking and sometimes the laundry.. Before I was doing all the household chores but when I gave birth to our 3rd child, he always sees to it that he has washed the clothes of his daughter even my clothes too... Gave the vitamins of his children in the morning and play with them when he is off to work.