How you ever patch up with an old friend?
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
Philippines
August 4, 2011 11:24am CST
Hello Lotters,
Not exactly an old person, but some one I haven't really talked in a long while. recently I've added her in my face-book account, though i thought she's going to IGNORE me like the rest of the others, but I guess she didn't. but that's because she's actually depressed, looking for some one to talked to.
We were like a four buddy groups back in college but when my schedules became irregular my friendship with them became distant, real distant..to the point that they've ignored me all these years only for one of them to talk to me again. but i guess it's my fault, I became distant to them because one of my friend who were close to me at that time told that evening on our religious retreat that they were "literally" back stabbing me.
But I give it a chance to talked to her tonight, it was the first since 2005
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The usual talk but i know she got a problem, seemed to have finally broken up with her hubby, also a 4mer classmate of mine.luckily, I didn't open it up and instead i divert it into different issues. am sure when she's alright, she's going to ignore me like the rest of the flock of our batch-mates.
anyways, that's just it for talking to few old friends.
Mylot friends are still cool if you ask me
Comment you Later, have a nice day.
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The usual talk but i know she got a problem, seemed to have finally broken up with her hubby, also a 4mer classmate of mine.luckily, I didn't open it up and instead i divert it into different issues. am sure when she's alright, she's going to ignore me like the rest of the flock of our batch-mates.
anyways, that's just it for talking to few old friends.
Mylot friends are still cool if you ask me
Comment you Later, have a nice day.3 people like this
13 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello Ybong, Well, if they ever chat with me fine i don't mind. it's not that being too snobbish, i tried to patch things up. one would asked, "what"? or what do you want? sentence like that. It's not me but it's them who's ignoring me. am just lucky that mylotters aren't ignoring me on other social sites or messengers. I wouldn't say such if it wasn't true anyways. thanks for the advice. have a nice day.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
hi LK,
Well I am the person who can try everything just for the sake of friendship
I was like this but I get tired because most of them doesn't want to continue the friendship with me with the reason I don't know
They just left me behind without saying a word 
happy mylotting
happy mylotting
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello Bhabycatch,
SOrry I can't use the Yahoo Messenger right now I just answerd a weird message that made a whack out of my PC and something that i need to deal with. well, I was never the part of the crowd but always the "other guy" bu that's alright because I am at peace with myself despite of some depression sometimes.
Bhabycatch,
SOrry I can't use the Yahoo Messenger right now I just answerd a weird message that made a whack out of my PC and something that i need to deal with. well, I was never the part of the crowd but always the "other guy" bu that's alright because I am at peace with myself despite of some depression sometimes.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hi!
I also had a friend, and she's literally an old friend because she's 50 plus something. "Had" because I don't consider her a friend anymore but I'm civil to her and I talk to her now unlike before when I really ignore her. She also felt that, too and is now trying to be friendly again with me. She's a backstabber, too like your friend so I got really angry and ended my friendship with her. After a few months, or rather, a couple of years, I decided to finally be civil with her. But I don't have any plans of being friendly with her again. I was traumatized with what she did.
I also have another friend, now this friend is within my age. We had a misunderstanding because of some pictures. 
The reason was petty but it became a big issue. I did not talk to him ever after that. And only when it comes to work that I talk to him. But we have patched up, we casually started talking again and I think we're friends again. It started when I asked for some office pictures from him. He thought I have forgiven him and he willingly gave me the pictures. ^^ So I decided, okay, let's be friends again. After all, nothing bad happened by what he did anyway. Unlike with the first friend, a lot of bad things happened because of her backstabbing. .
But I don't have any plans of being friendly with her again. I was traumatized with what she did.
I also have another friend, now this friend is within my age. We had a misunderstanding because of some pictures. The reason was petty but it became a big issue. I did not talk to him ever after that. And only when it comes to work that I talk to him. But we have patched up, we casually started talking again and I think we're friends again. It started when I asked for some office pictures from him. He thought I have forgiven him and he willingly gave me the pictures. ^^ So I decided, okay, let's be friends again. After all, nothing bad happened by what he did anyway. Unlike with the first friend, a lot of bad things happened because of her backstabbing. .@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello secretbear, I wasn't just her but all Three of them. only one friend who admitted to me that am being backstabbed. i guess we can't have friends that we think we can trust, some people are just not good in keeping secrets. but surely, my mom was a good friend to others, she knows how to keep a secret. well, we can all be friends here in mylot despite of us being strangers though. have a nice day
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@megamatt (14290)
• United States
5 Aug 11
There have been a couple of times where I have run into people who I have not parted with under the most ideal of circumstances. It can be kind of awkward, until we really start talking. There are a lot of times where people do grow up and mature, but there are times where sadly there are people who do such spiteful things without really changing at all.
Still there have been many times where I have mended the fences with people who I have really not gotten along with and have drifted apart. Its interesting to hear things from their perspective if nothing else. There are times where they feel guilt as well and it does set them free. Still there are others that will never admit what happened and what they did wrong. Oh well, that's just something that we have to deal with in life.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello megamatt, Yeah, it's usually akward and people gets to do it because they wanted to and they don't care at all whether what you think you did was right or wrong. One thing i don't like hearing is what is my latest job or something because there ain't anything that I can explain about that. i don't feel guilt but akwardness.
@webgirl01 (689)
• United States
5 Aug 11
I have tried to patch up some old friends from the past, most of them just moved on to better friends and people to talk to. But there's this old friend that i have that on and off, we did patch things but I feel I don't trust her too much. One she's is too demanding and bossy. I can't handle her personality and she's high maintenance. Also she does complain about me to other people and now even if friends with her and that i knew her for a long time, I feel i'm going too distant to her for now. Hanging out with this person too much will just stress me and not focus on what i should really be doing. I have some other friends I remembered, but they too have either ignore me or outgrew on hanging out with me.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello webgirl, I don't even know the idea of better friends. people who are demanding and busy is probably something we should avoid getting close to. I avoided those people because they should have known what I think. some people aren't enough hanging out with one person and just prefers to go out with some one they think they can get along with
@flowerfest08 (1677)
•
5 Aug 11
recently i added my ex bf on facebook too, he was my boyfriend back when i was 3rd yr highschool,that was 3 yrs ago, we didnt talk since we broke up, but just last week i recieved a request from him and when i accept it he message me and ask for my cp #, then he called me like nothing happened in the past, but thinking of it right now just makes me laugh. but its nice to have a communication with him again though.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello Flowerfest08, I guess keeping up thinking about the past doesn't really matter because both of you are not going back there anymore. you can always be friends if you really wanted to start over. communication is never that bad if we learn to forget and move on. but that's not a case to most people, they wanted to start over.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
6 Aug 11
Yes. I have done that several times with old so-called friends. They did me wrong again though so I do not do that anymore.
@grecychunny26 (9482)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
I have spoken to a long lost classmate in college. We were classmate ten years ago. WE were close back then and we are four girls. I never had a talk with her eight years ago and when we talked on the phone there was this awkwardness i feel. The other three, she included, are having a good time of their life. THey are now rich and I am still poor. That is why when we had a talk, there is a feeling of awkwardness that maybe they do not want to talk to me anymore since we haven't seen each other for so long and it seems they are now on higher level of status in life and I stay the same. BUt the talk was good. At first I was shy to share what happened to me, regarding my illness, but she really shows how she cares for me. And the end of the conversation there were a crying scene happened we never thought we missed each other. I am not patching up with her though since we do not have misunderstanding. BUt is just a little awkward since I know she changed already, but for the better.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello Grecy, Don't worry am also poor like every one else. even if am rich i wouldn't tell any one and still give the same treatment to friends. I have a friend which really a buddy for me but ever since graduation, he didn't even bother making contact again. when friendster was gone he had a facebook account but he didn't like or wanted to be add.thank you for sharing me your insights, maybe you were also a bit insecure because she has changed.. have a nice day.
@mylesnarvaez (5450)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
don't be too hard on yourself lk. give yourself a chance to be liked and loved for who you are. never sell yourself short. more people will like you if only you can give enough credit to yourself and others.
friends do come and go. some stay, some move on and some do come back. open yourself to the world, and the world will give you back just as much as you give away.
some of my friends, i haven't seen in years but it doesn't mean that we parted ways with a heavy heart. we just moved on in different directions. but we knew that some day our paths will cross again and the friendship will remain the same.
but be a friend to an old friend, for old time's sake. if you need to patch up over a hole or something that has been worn out thru time... then do so. have a great day lk.
some of my friends, i haven't seen in years but it doesn't mean that we parted ways with a heavy heart. we just moved on in different directions. but we knew that some day our paths will cross again and the friendship will remain the same.
but be a friend to an old friend, for old time's sake. if you need to patch up over a hole or something that has been worn out thru time... then do so. have a great day lk. @LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello myles, No, am not being hard on myself, but i know what happens after that kind of conversation. but at least it's nice that i have given her comfort and "someone" to talk to. Yes, I do understand we have parted ways and move on different paths, that's a clear thing to me. Well, i hope she will be doing fine within the next few days. I was close to introducing mylot to her but i hesitated. have a nice day.
No, am not being hard on myself, but i know what happens after that kind of conversation. but at least it's nice that i have given her comfort and "someone" to talk to. Yes, I do understand we have parted ways and move on different paths, that's a clear thing to me. Well, i hope she will be doing fine within the next few days. I was close to introducing mylot to her but i hesitated. have a nice day.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 11
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When a long lost friend suddenly reappear in your life, it is usually to seek guidance and support as she is at a crossroad in life. She is there for a reason and coming to you for old friend's sake, might rekindle the sweet memories of yesteryears. Let that relationship take its own course and bring new lease in your friendship.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
Hello zandi, that's probably just coincidence meet up online for me. I have added her a few days ago, moreso I've added these people in friendster. I know they should have a chance to talked to me if they wanted to but I know for a fact am just another GUY to them. fortunately, I was civilized enough to do just talked with out involving any problem talk. thanks
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
dear LK,
This happens to me with my long lost bestfriend when we were in highschool.
She was my best friend and we're really close like sisters.
Then one friend also try to make us apart by telling lies to each one of us,just to make us hate each other.
So bad my best friend listen to that person and not to me.
then after so many years she came to me also in facebook saying sorry.
She realized her mistake and now she wants us back.
I am happy,but the feeling is not the same anymore.
Maybe the long absence too has made it difficult for me to accept her back like the way we were before.
have a good day 
sis,
jaiho®
sis,
jaiho®@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello sis-Jaiho, I treated them as good friends, they treat me differently but I understand and got used to that. yeah, we change when ever they make a bad mark on us. well, the important is that she has redeemed herself, but of course you have to be on guard when it comes to those people. same here, having such a long absence and not treating me as some one they can trust has made me difficuilt to accept them back as well. we share the same sentiment. have anice day.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
All that ignoring and backstabbing can be relieved with a case of booze. I've patched up with old friends before. These are friends from highschool. Let's just say that I did things I wasn't proud of back then that's why I made some enemies out of them. Came Christmas reunion last 2007 we all got drunk and just laughed about them. I apologized though just to make sure.
I've patched up with old friends before. These are friends from highschool. Let's just say that I did things I wasn't proud of back then that's why I made some enemies out of them. Came Christmas reunion last 2007 we all got drunk and just laughed about them. I apologized though just to make sure.
@Danzylop (1122)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Thats ok. Did you enjoy having a time with her again? Do you think you can still be friends even if you were mocked behind your back?
In my opinion, people who are like that shouldn't be went along with. Not unless, they show sincere remorse for their actions. Those who speak behind the back of anyone doesnt deserve trust. Just be careful with dealing with them. =)
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
Hello Danzylop, I just did some conversation but I was playing safe because I know she is too. well, i don't know she said sorry when i told her that one of our former classmates talks to me. well, am more careful now in talking to them and not showing my own problems because they don't too. thanks and have a nice day.
