what would make you dump your partner?

@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
August 6, 2011 9:49pm CST
no relationship is perfect. when one is in a relationship... the stress, the worries is actually as much as the fun, the love, and the sweetness. in any case... when you are in a relationship... what would make you want to leave your partner? 1. he/she cheated on you? 2. if there is no third party - is it that there is no trust? 3. is it due to his or her emotional instability? 4. is it because you have seen some things about him or her that tyou cannot accept... perhaps how different you both are? what could be the reasons why people who seem to love anything, seem to not see any flaws in the first few weeks end up leaving each other...
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14 responses
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Number 1! My bf knows that, so he makes sure he doesn't do that. That is the only sin that I said to him that he should avoid for that. I think that is too much to handle and forget. If the person really loves you, he will never cheat on you nor look for another girl/guy to love.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
Hi chiyosan! I think that's because as time goes by, both partners get to know each other more. Of course at first, they don't really show everything, that's intentionally and unintentionally. But as time goes on that they are together, they start to learn more about their partners. And as they do, they notice everything, from small things to big things, especially the small things which they turn into a big issue. I have broken up with reasons number one and four. I had an ex-boyfriend who cheated on me, actually planned to cheat on me but I discovered it early so I initiated the break up. And then, with another partner because I there was something about him I couldn't accept, or rather, there was something he did that I just couldn't tolerate.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
7 Aug 11
Cheating would be the number one reason to dump someone! I believe cheating means a man doesn't love you,care about you and can not be trusted. That is the worst thing a man could do next to being abusive! i would dump a man if he is physically or mentally abusive,too! Neither thing is exceptable!
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
HI Chiyo! For me it is all about trust and once he lied and cheated you it will ruin everything. It is hard for me to trust others and when I am giving them the trust and they betray to me there is no point to stay on that relationship. It is shows that one can't be trusted when he already break it apart.(^^)
@koperty3 (1876)
7 Aug 11
In my case is just only one option. Of my partner cheated on me. If he had there is no forgiveness. There is no us any more. I know my partner 5 years. He is emotionally stable and fair to me. He is very calm and working so hard. So there is only one reason why I would dump him.
@Doritoes (84)
• United States
8 Aug 11
Like everybody else, I think cheating is absolutely unacceptable and I would not stay with that person if he cheated on me. Once he/she decided to cheat, that person has already threw their current relationship away. They know the consequences, yet they still proceed to do something so hurtful to their partner. That should not be tolerated. So.. definitely no cheating!
@scooter1024 (1243)
• United States
7 Aug 11
I would definately have to say if he cheated on me. I have had past experience with this and its hard to ever forget what they have done. If you truely love the person then you can work out anything if both parties are willing to try. Sometimes even if they cheat you can still work it out but I know it is hard because the memories will always be there.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
7 Aug 11
To me #1 is unacceptable, all the other options can be worked and should be worked out if you really love the person. So yah if i were to break out with my gf it would be if she cheated on me.
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 11
People dump their partner for many reasons. It can be uncertainty that their relationship would work. Jealousy of someone whether based on reasonable doubt or ridiculous reasons. Or maybe just because they want to sacrifice themselves in the name of love. Love is something unpredictable. It could be short term or may last forever. Some couples are meant to be couples but some meant to be wedded.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
One reason that is enough to dumped someone is cheating. Once he cheats,it means he lied and can always do it again. It's hard to forgive someone who cheat,I've tried it once but still he has done same mistake. So,when people say that "once a cheater will always be a cheater" i believed so. have a good day
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
7 Aug 11
1.He or she cheated me. That was unforgiveness act, even I could forgive but it's hard for me to get in touch like before.
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
hi chiyosan, There is only one reason why I ended up my relationship with my ex boyfriend HE CAN'T BE FAITHFUL WITH ME I trusted him I gave him another chance but it seems my love is not enough for him But I am happy now happy mylotting
@doris227 (16)
• China
7 Aug 11
in my part ,if my bf sleep with other girls , i will break up with him as soon as fast .
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
7 Aug 11
i think if my partner cheated on me then i will readily let him go away. i dont need cheaters and once a cheater always a cheater so i would rather find someone who will be loyal to me.