Crying over spilt milk.

That is so very true! My boyfriend has a son that is almost twelve and has a really bad habit of this. My boyfriend seems to think that his son will outgrow this on his own... but I think twelve is way to old to throw an all out fit because Daddy forgot to bring home donuts like he said he would. It is a parent's job to teach their children to just shrug it off sometimes, the whole world does not exist to please them and we aren't doing our children any favors to wait on them hand and foot.

Hi DoctorDD! It's true. What's spilled is spilled. Let's just move on with our lives. Anyway, I believe that everything that happens to us has a reason. So, we should be thankful for what good or seeming bad things that come our way. It's all for the best.

Bad habit? Crying over spilt milk is a guilt complex if I ever saw one. I certainly don't see it as a bad habit or even a problem. It means a person has feelings and wants to do the best they can in a situation. Again, I am not sure why anyone would see this as a bad habit.

I think it is just no use keep on thinking about the past. When the past is over, we will just need to carry our mind and body, moving on towards the future. We need to keep going on and do the best for our future. We never know how our future will be, but the one step that we are taking today will ensure our future. It is useless to ponder over past matter for a long time.

I don't think that there is a person alive that doesn't cry over things that they cannot change, at least as a figure of speaking. With that said, I know that it is something that I've done throughout my life and though I do make a valiant effort to not worry about those things that I can't change, it is something that still bothers me and will continue to bother me for the rest of the duration of my life. So, though we can't change things, it is also difficult to change our reactions to things.

I believe one has to accept what is done is done and at times absolutely nothing will change it. If we can analyze and recall why things went wrong maybe that will allow us to accept. Once we accept we are able to move on. Sadly we are humans and we do have a tendency to dwell. A little dwelling is healthy in my opinion as this will allow us to not forget and cause the same error.

You are right, but we cannot cry for the milk which we haven't spilled yet. If we could leave only led by the mind, and free of emotions, we would be able to don't worry of things which happened in the past. But we are humans, we have feelings and emotions and we usually tend to think too much of these things which have happened and have a negative influence on our lives. And to answer to your question, I haven't met a person who doesn't "cry at all" over spilt milk, but they recover fast. I am a person who recovers pretty fast, but at first, when the thing is recent, I suffer a bit. I guess a good solution is to try to empty your mind and focus on the upcoming things, not on the past.

there is no use to dwell over what's already been, but to acknowledged it to let it go is a process in every human being. To accept what have happened we do in our own individual way. So people cling to the past, as some just shake it off like some dust on the shoulder like it was nothing. Before I clinged more to what have been. Now I change my thoughts after something have happened to let go move on.

There is only one way to live and that is in the NOW. The past has gone, and hopefully we learnt from it. The future is yet unwrittten and so we shouldn't worry about it. Anything can happen to change it. All we can do is be prepared for it while we live in the NOW.