Stay at home Mums (SAHM)

In my opinion a good stay at home mum is doing waht's best for her children. It's hard work with no pay but I know from experience that it is very rewarding and worthwhile. Some mothers have no choice but to go to work because of financial issues. I haven't yet worked out why people who want a career have children. They leave them with other people and I don't think either the parenting or the career can be done as well as they should be.

I think if you want a career, don't have children or have children and then when they're old enough to look after themselves then start a career. Some people think it's easy having children and that there lives won't change much, so they try to carry on with their lives how it was and end up putting children in daycare etc, which is bad. I did work experience in a nursery and one of the children was there all day, by 2 she was really tired and really needed to sleep, but she wasn't allowed, I think that's cruel to leave a child somewhere for 8 hours.

While I am sure there are people who really do need to work outside the home, I don't know why people with really young children would choose not to look after them. It's important that children have one to one attention from parents as much as possible and I don't believe they can have that if they spend most of their time away from parents. It's important for them to socialise but doing that while in the care of someone other than a parent or trusted family member is probably not a good idea. Leaving a child in a daycare centre where there are probably going to be at least 4 children to each adult can't be good for the children. Leaving them with a childminder is slightly better in that they are likely to be looking after less children but of all the child minders I know, I would never even let most of them babysit for a night because they are awful. I think it's better to be there for your children as much as you can. I can never understand why someone would have a child with the intention of going back to full time work 6 months after it's born. What's the point in that? They might as well not have a child if they have no intention of actually looking after it.

I'm one of them but not sort of like that, it's just that my business was in line with Internet so usually what I do was the same with those Sahms.