Insensitive

Philippines
August 10, 2011 1:27am CST
Are there really an insensitive person? . What do you think? like this situation. .A friend of mine has a feelings with his friend. .They share a lot of experiences, they even talk everyday through some social networking. .The girl help a lot with this guy . .She even make the guy jealous but the guy has no comment about it. .Is he just insensitive with my friends feelings? What do you think? Thank you and God bless. .
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8 responses
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I don't think he's being insensitive, I think he just doesn't want to hurt your friend. In my opinion, I think he knows that your friend has feelings for him and he doesn't want their friendship destroyed so he just ignores the feelings that are there and continue as it is.
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• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Hi mhelsdelacruz :) You know what, guys are sometimes judged as insensitive. I think it is our nature not to be aware of every little things in our surroundings unlike girls. In your story, I think its not purely insensitivity. I think the guy has just no other feelings for your friend aside from them being good friends. Though the guy may really be just insensitive and is focusing on their friendship so that he doesn't put any deeper meaning on whatever she does.
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Thank you ThrillerAssassin for that informative answers . .That gives me an idea the nature of a guy. . God bless. .:)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
That's just my guess though. Different people still behave differently depending on the situation. :)
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
10 Aug 11
mhelsdelacruz, Here's the thing, I wonder and beg for the reason(s) why your friend could not be forward or upfront with her boyfriend with her feelings for him and his indifference towards her. Sometimes, I prefer that effort of vying for attention by making the other party jealous could find a better way of communicating than some frivolous small talk on some social networking site or internet chat or phone chat. After all, the relationship is really a matter of the heart, so I feel that your friend should at least have a heart to heart talk with her boyfriend. It is just funny, watching your friend telling people that she's not hungry at lunch time and finally blaming people when she breaks down with gastric. There's really nothing wrong with saying what's on your mind and heart but it would be wrong and immature for not doing it.
• Romania
10 Aug 11
Guys are also human beings like girls and thus have feelings, but the main difference is that guys or men are more proud and tough and don't usually express their felling, but that doesn't mean they are insensitive. When a boy separates from a girl they both suffer the same, but the girl express more and talk more about that, while the boy don't, yet he is destroyed.
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
Maybe, and if this is the case this would mean that he's not into the girl. However, there's also the possibility that he's only hiding his feelings for your friend, and if that's the case, he's good at it. But for your friend's sake, she should not assume one or the other. I suggest that she continue what they have right now, and who knows? This might develop into something more beautiful, right?
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
Right, maybe he just want to make sure his feelings towards my friends . .He wants that if he tells that he loves my friends its for sure . .That telling her that he loves him but in the end its just a false alarm feelings . . Thanks for the response. . Have a nice day. . .
@rambansal (574)
• India
10 Aug 11
Mistakes in the text do not allow to understand the case. What I understand is - 'your female friend has soft feelings for a guy which he is not responding in the same spirit'. right? If so, it appears that the guy has no interest in your friend, and she should look elsewhere to find love, if she is so needy immediately. Or, she should keep in touch with him, and let him appreciate her love to him and respond. It takes time.
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
I'm not a guy but what I do know is they are not really insensitive. Sometimes they know that someone has feelings for them, they just don't know how to react. Probably they don't want to offend the person so they just make it appear that they don't have any idea what is going on. There are instances as well that you need to tell them directly what is going on.
@thetis74 (1525)
10 Aug 11
He may not be insensitive. He might have noticed it and just ignored it. Perhaps he doesn't have the same feelings for your friend. Or if he does feel something, he might just be probably shy to show his feelings too. Let just see. Maybe something will just come out of the blue sooner or later.