one crappy day

I understand that. I am a bear : I accept only invitations from friends when I am sure I will not be bored after 5 mn. I am also uncomfortable with strangers, and rarely respond to formal invitations.

I have felt obligated to attend events such as these ... not barbecues usually but weddings and showers and things like that ... and it is normally quite painful, especially when you do not know many people there. I feel awkward and uncomfortable, even though I do make an effort to keep an open mind and try to have a good time.

Of course. Whenever I had to go to these strange places with my father, filled with people I have never met once in my life, I used to feel very uncomfortable. I still do. I am shy and do not like interacting too much with people I do not know. It is better if you are close to atleast one of the persons in that place.

dear saphy, I can't remember if I have a sister

hi Dear, When a relatives give us visit I hate it because they just remember us specially mom if they don't have money or they needed something. After that they will not show their faces again unless they need something again. let's have some vodka?

I feel sorry for you saprina. I had also same experience by my younger brother.He really creates problem most of the time whenever I went with him.Every time I decide that I would never take him with me,but I can not do this,because I love him. Do not worry,just keep patience.She is still young.

Yes, and Id rather go to bed and close my eyes, really and honestly I am 75 percent introvert so I really not a fan of crowds specially to people I hardly know...

Oh sweetie, I am always awkward with others. I am a bit of loner and that is an understatement. I am uncomfortable with people who are my age or older. Youngsters I can treat them as kids and be ok with it all. :) Elderly folks, they tend to have a critical view. So I suddenly feel as if something is not right in the way I am dressed, or the way I am talking, what nots..

i think i experienced this pretty much most of the time here in England when my bf and i go to meet a friend and then a friend invites us over to a different friend whom to us is a stranger. good if that stranger seems cool, but often i met a stranger who loves to talk about 'I, ME, Mine, and Myself'

When I had to go to stranger's house to sell some service or some products... that's when I would become uncomfortable... The other time, it's okay as long as I don't have to talk sales...

Always..because they are strangers and I don't know them but will try ,y best to get along with them. It does not mean I have to be someone else. I still carry my attitude and see among them who I will feel more comfortable to talk with. If everyone one them make me feel sick then I will do exactly like what you did-get home.(Usually they just asked about the same things and I don't like it. I have never been in a party where the host invite and introduce me to others. Never. They always let you go and get along with others alone. So to not be a stranger we should socialize with others but if they still treat me like the one then no point to accept the invitation anymore. (^^)

I am always uncomfortable visiting people I don't know- although it is, when you think on it, the only way that you will ever get to know people! I do understand where you are coming from though. I always fare badly when introduced by, for example, relatives/ family. Put me in a room of total strangers- say on a first aid course, and I soon find my feet. We recently had a holiday with a family friend that I expected to be ****, and it was. I know that some people might say that these things are what you make them, but, to coin a phrase, there is only so much that you can do with a photo.....

I know how it is like to visit a stranger's home. But you won't be strangers anymore after the first visit, right?

I feel the same. I don't usually mingle with guests at home if I don't really know them. I just stay in my room and it's not because I'm anti-social or something.I just don't feel comfortable talking to people I don't really know. I also don't join my family when they visit friends I am unfamiliar with.I'm just avoiding the incident of being bored and have a bad mood.Besides people usually chat about personal stuff when you are introduced to them and I don't feel like divulging stuff to acquaintances.

I don't go visiting strangers , period! the closest I have got to this was a BBQ. My friend's friend , who I never met , was hostess but by the end of it we were friends.

saphy I think part of that is being forced to give in when you really do not want to , as here I would so love to stay here on my computer til 11 not have to go to bed at ten because my grouch' of a roommate wants me to go to bed,well her term " turn my l ight out at 9 p,m."I told her I have not gone to bed that early since I was 9.Also I am really totally uncomfortable at a party where its all strangers, I am a shy person and hate being pushed around by kin or my roomie. I really blew it the other night. I was screaming at her "Leave me alone.you keep on nagging me and nagging me, you must stop as you are making me ill. after your nagging I find I cannot sleep you get me so upset." I almost told her I hated her which is not true but I lost my temper so completely.but she did stop asking me when i was going to bed. I only stop at nine so I can have some pleasant me time to check my blood sugar, have a snack and read til ten pm. I used to mylot til ten and I wish I could again as its made a dent in my earnings which I really need to have bigger ones.the problem has been she kept on after I shut my computer off"How long are you going to stay up?" she cannot even leave me alone and let me have that half hour. I am also like You I must feel comfortable at a gathering and at least know some of the people, also feeling pressured to go because of a relative does not help in enjoying something you do not really like.

Hi Saphrina I could not miss out a discussion from you... I stopped visiting strangers and their parties as I find myself out of place here. Earlier, I was quite shy and never attended any parties except the ones that I hosted or was invited by close friends. If I was invited to some one who was not that familiar to me, I would always find out if any of my close aides is visiting them... if yes, I accompanied but that was only 30-50% times... not always.

Oh, you were talking about those crappy days when you go visit one of your mom's friend, and your sister didn't cooperate, and keep on nagging on the whole situation? I don't have such days in my life yet, but my crappy days about those crappy persons. Mostly cause other people stresses too. I hate those kind of people.

Hi saphie! Can I just call you saphie as what they all call you? I feel very uncomfortable when we had to visit my cousin's place. That cousin of mine is really rich as in rich! I don't know,I just feel their family is always boasting what they have and what they have achieved though it's true. I know they already knew that we know all of it but they keep on telling it to us,oh my! Worst,sometimes they also visit us at home and they will look at my house as if it is not fitted for them.

When visiting people I do not know, I try to have a moderate smile while keeping up a respectful approach observing people at a first glance. Have a neutral conversation about the weather is a very rewarding opening, before asking or telling something about oneself.