I have a fight with my mom.

You sound like you need love from your mother, you love her so much and I am sure she loves you more. She was so busy looking for money an she forgot about you and the time to her family. You're right, you have to talk to her, heart to heart talk on weekends. If you won't have the courage on telling her you can send her a letter and burst out how you really feel.

I think you should talk to your mother about it. The problem is that she is very busy and you have to find right moment to do so. I'm sure your mother loves you and she care. Maybe she doesn't know how to show you that she really cares. I remember few arguments with my mother. They were related to my busy life style and her not understanding that I'm adult. Well, every family got some issues. I'm sure you find the way to talk to your mother. I wish you all the best!

iamsummer, While arguments and even quarrels are inevitable, I believe what happens and what you decide to do after such incidents to be more important. For one, we will need to sit ourselves down and reflect what is actually happening. Harboring any ill feelings or anger will not only not solve anything but will lead to more misunderstandings and animosities. Relationship is about not only about taking but giving as well. Giving or rather sparing a thought for the other party like thinking ahead and trying to be in your mother's shoe for a while. Don't just assume and accept things on face value. Sometimes or most of the time, there are more than it meets the eyes. Times are hard, for what you do not know - your mother could be having a harrowing time at the office. Her job is not only just a job, but a pillar for the family's financial health, to make ends meet at every end of the month. It may be meaningless to you for her not to be by your side during your woes but have you asked yourself if she could have done any better being there. Where is your independence? Or, how are you to gain independence which you need? Remember, our parents cannot always be around or be around for us forever. Bickering about work is quite common and frankly is another source of stress reliever. I am wondering if you've considered how your mother who has been devoted and faithful to your father, could actually find another person to talk about her problems at work. Besides, I am sure if you stop and listen - you can actually realize how harsh and brutal the world is like out there. I am really not siding your mother, but I believe that there are choices or rather alternatives to everything including whether to speak out or speak calmly after really listening what the other party has to say. Remember it is your mother now but down the road it will be your spouse and then your children. Take care and have a nice day.

I'm glad that you know your fault. I am a mother too, working and with so many financial problem at the moment and I kinda feel what your mother is getting through. Though for you the talking disturbs the peace in your home, but to your mother she was unloading stress in her heart... so what is important? It would be easier to handle the noise than to think that your mother could get a heart ailment or other sickness because she was keeping it to yourself. I know you are old enough to understand what is happening because you eventually thought of talking to your mom and that was good too. I just hope you continue to love and support your mother.

hai friend it is very sad,i can say one thing, try this once, go and help your mom in her business you may enjoy the moment with her in doing her business, when ever she brings any arguement at dining try to shutoff the arguement by praising her like today "food is very tasty",then find free time and observe your mom mood, if she is in good mood go and sit with your mom nearby and say to her about your feelings in pleasing manner, surely she will realise she will spend with you lot,she is your mom, sshe might be losing her anger due to business or anything else reason,try to find it,try your best to resolve and make your mom free from such tensions.

In fact, mom is really busy,and we are growing up,we should help and support mom,try to resolve our troubles yourself.That's families:P

I'm sorry, maybe it could be stress but I know the feeling: to think they don't actually care about us. I see there are parents that I can't understand why they choose to have children because they don't put sons and dasughters in the first place, as a priority in their lives.

iamsummer you said that both of you don't have time to sort the problem out. So may the real picture is like this,she is also trying to talk with you but you are not showing interest,which is making him upset and angry. May be she has the same complain against you as you are complaining against her. She is doing everything to keep you in peace,to make your life comfortable. May be she don't want any sorrow or problem to scratch you so she is working as much as much she can. So my advice is that you take some time out of your busy time and talk to your mother,may be you can for a change,or a picnic. And can solve all the problems out. May years of working has made her very rough but I bet you that a nice family picnic is enough to soften your mother and sort out your problems.But if both of you wait for each others break down then I am afraid that this is going to be a problem forever.And it may become an ego clash leading to a frustrating life. Try this out and if it works don't forget to buy me coke. :) happy mylotting.

It is normal for family members to argue, but I don't think you should get angry with your mom. She is working hard not for herself only. She is working hard or your family, for your future. I think the best way to do is to understand her and talk to her in a clam way. Tell her you miss her, and you need her to be there for you too. Tell her you appreciate her hardwork, but you need a mother beside you as well. SOmetimes we think they are unfair, but I know in the future, you will understand that she is not being selfish, she is just doing all she can for your family.